A nice compliment

Melissa · July 04, 2006, 01:54:03 AM

On monday nights, I go to a support group for women of sexual minority and I've attended about 4 sessions and everyone there know all about my past. I've only been going there dressed as female and was introduced to this group through a friend of mine (the only other TG person in the group). Well tonight, there was only 2 other people (non-TG) and me, so it was a small group. After the group was over, I asked one of them if they wanted to go out to dinner (as friends) and she said yes, so we went to a restaurant. While we were talking, at one point, she said that she had a hard time trying to imagine me as male. I smiled and responded that it wasn't pretty. To me, this was a very big compliment for somebody I've told all about my past to see me as a woman anyways and have trouble seeing it any other way. I think this will end up being a good friendship.

Melissa

Nero · July 04, 2006, 02:30:11 AM

That's nice, Melissa. I have a hard time trying to imagine you as male too.
Well, I guess I don't have to ask how the support group went.

Nero

Jillieann Rose · July 04, 2006, 06:10:43 AM

I'm happy for you Melissa. It must be so nice to be accepted for who are and not looked down at because you are a TS.
The one problem that most of us TS and TG seem to have is that we feel so all alone. And if we share our past we feel that other will not accept us.

Jillieann

Owen · July 04, 2006, 07:06:36 AM

Thats a good feeling to be accepted as a woman. I sure wish I could be looked on as woman. It is hard to imagine you as male. I wouldnt have known if I meet you the first time.

Owen

love being female

wolfie · July 04, 2006, 12:24:01 PM

congrats melissa! it sounds like a really great group for you to be apart of (i've never heard of groups like that, i think it's really cool!).

i know for a fact that i could never wrap my head around seeing you as male! also the way your speak and carry yourself in conversation for one is a dead giveaway that you are female to the core.

i hope that you develop a really positive friendship with these women!

tino

Melissa · July 05, 2006, 01:25:25 AM

Thanks everyone.

Well, it happened again tonight. We were at a 4th of July celebration with a family that's friends with my ex and I knew the wife and husband knew about me. I didn't know that their daughter Alenna knew though. I played with both my kids and her a bunch because we had some games. Whenever it was mine and Alenna's turn she kept referring to us as the girl team. She said I was very nice and I thanked her for saying so. A while later while we were watching fireworks, she kept wanting to be close to me, especially after her Dad kept yelling at her. She asked me if I thought I was a girl and I said "Yes". Then she asked if I used to think I was a boy and again I said "Yes", so I knew that she knew at that point. Then I asked her if I seemed like a boy or a girl. Without hesitation she said "You're a girl". It's very reaffirming to hear kids with their brutal honesty tell you they see you as you feel you should be.

Melissa

TheBattler · July 05, 2006, 01:49:37 AM

Thats great Mellissa,

You should update your photo so we can see how you look now.

Alice

wolfie · July 05, 2006, 10:56:02 AM

i love the innocence and honesty of children sometimes. it's refreshing from the general public of adults that just can't take something at face value.

it would be great to see an updated photo melissa

tino

Melissa · July 05, 2006, 12:31:06 PM

Ok, I updated my photo for you guys. Just took it a little bit ago.

Melissa

wolfie · July 05, 2006, 12:36:25 PM

Wow, I love it Melissa, you get more and more stunning! That's a great shot. Thanks for posting a new one

Tino

Melissa · July 05, 2006, 12:39:47 PM

Thanks Tino.

Melissa

Chynna · July 05, 2006, 01:21:13 PM

Quote from: Melissa on July 05, 2006, 01:25:25 AM
Thanks everyone.

Well, it happened again tonight. We were at a 4th of July celebration with a family that's friends with my ex and I knew the wife and husband knew about me. I didn't know that their daughter Alenna knew though. I played with both my kids and her a bunch because we had some games. Whenever it was mine and Alenna's turn she kept referring to us as the girl team. She said I was very nice and I thanked her for saying so. A while later while we were watching fireworks, she kept wanting to be close to me, especially after her Dad kept yelling at her. She asked me if I thought I was a girl and I said "Yes". Then she asked if I used to think I was a boy and again I said "Yes", so I knew that she knew at that point. Then I asked her if I seemed like a boy or a girl. Without hesitation she said "You're a girl". It's very reaffirming to hear kids with their brutal honesty tell you they see you as you feel you should be.

Melissa

That is the beautiful thing about kids they see the world for exactly what it is without the constrains of society.
If your ever in doubt about anything or yourself ask a child and see the truth....

Congratulations Melissa on quiet a beautiful 4th of july,

Chynna

Sheila · July 05, 2006, 05:01:53 PM

Melissa,
The compliments will keep on coming. What a 4th of July celebration. Your picture is very nice as all the rest of them.
About six months ago, I was standing in line to get my meds and there was this guy that I had worked with before transitioning and I had worked with for over 5 years and off and on for about 15 years. He is about my age. Well, clumsy me, I dropped a package that I was holding and he picked it up for me and handed to me and said here ya go maam. I said thank you and nothing was said afterwards. He stood behind me in line.
I'm getting very complacent on these happenings and when people like Melissa tell about things like that I think back to all the little things that happen over my transition and post transition time. I try not to take life for granted
Sheila

MarcosGirl · July 05, 2006, 05:21:57 PM

Great photo Melissa!! I don't see anything male about you! Your hair is so pretty and shiny...definitely does not look like man hair. Thanks for the update!

Pam

NightAngel · July 05, 2006, 07:29:46 PM

Congrats Melissa, on both, compliment and new photo!!!
You look more and more feminine, I realy like this new one.
Thanks for updating.

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Michelle

Melissa · July 05, 2006, 08:38:18 PM

Thanks again. I had to do a bit of a road trip (100 miles each way) and at a gas station, the cashier started complimenting me on how good I looked. It's fun getting hit on.

Melissa

Kendall · July 06, 2006, 12:44:46 AM

Great photo Melissa,
Yes, no wonder your getting all the compliments. You look absolutely stunning.

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