Getting ready for first time out

[Shelley]

Good luck Ellen and most of all enjoy.

[AllisonY2K]

Over the 3 years I have been part-time and then eventually full-time, the one thing I developed that has helped the most is a thick skin. People will stare, people will giggle or snicker, or look at you then point you out to their friends. Whatever. You don't know them, they don't know you. f--- 'em. They don't have a problem with you personally, they have a problem with their opinion about TSes in general. and remember, their problem with us is not your problem to solve. You're happy with the way you present yourself, they are not. Oh well, they can get over it.

I was on my way to work one saturday and I had a tanktop on, windows down, enjoying the ride. There was a motorcycle next to me. Normally I don't worry about other people, they're too wrapped up in their own life to care about the next car over. Well, the guy sitting behind the driver of the motorcycle looked over and saw me and did a double-take. I knew I was read, but I didn't care. So I watched him say something to the driver of the motorcycle and sure enough, they slowed down a little to get a better view (they were still ahead of me tho) and when they both turned around to look at me I was sitting there waiting...with middle finger extended.  >

[stephanie_craxford]

Hello Ellen.

It's been awhile since you made the origional post, on gettineg ready for your first time out.  Did it happen and if it did, how was it and was it how you expected it tobe.

My advice to those who are going out for the first time, is to try and take a friend with you.  I did some preparation first and planned to go to the shopping mall.  I made sure that I went there at the busyest time so that there were lots of people around, the busier the better.  It's much easier to blend into a crowd.  If the mall (or street for that matter) is quiet and your one of the only people in site then you will attract attention.  I also tried to make sure that I was not the only person who was riding the escalator.  Being by yourself on them is just like making a grand entrance, especially on the "down" escaltors.

Chat later

[cjbutterfly]

Hi there, look get out there girl, fully done up, there's not a feeling like it. Close your mind to the idiots around you if they're small minded enough to laugh at you it shows how inadequate they must be feeling.

Don't worry about what people think, regardless of whether you do ar not, they're still gonna think it, so where's the point in you worrying about it.

Concentrate on you, and how you feel, that is what's important.

[djwunderllama]

I am just a regular looking male who is interested in his sexuality. Trust me, not everyone who sees you is afraid or thinks you are ugly. While I may not have the courage to say anything at all, inwardly I am glad you are who are. If this is the land of the free, experience freedom. Good luck.

-Dirk

[AllisonY2K]

^^ *wink* so how you doin'?