Thank you, Tink, for sharing your motto with me!
I recently saw a joke bingo card called Homophobic Bingo, where each square had a homophobic saying in it. One of them was "I believe that a transsexual who does not tell me right away that they are transsexual is lying to me." I've certainly run into that one. But I've always felt that it's MY business. When I first transitioned I naturally had to come out at work, and there was a big announcement and so forth. And I tried to think what other personal matter could possibly involve disclosing one's deepest personal business to all of one's co-workers like that? I couldn't think of one, and I resented it, even though I understood that it was necessary. So when I discovered, after a couple of years, that people could no longer tell, I quit telling on myself.
Incidentally, work is like the last bastion of problems for me. Because I worked there for years as a male, and even though it has been years now since my transition (I've been there 22 years) it's always been weird because everyone there KNOWS, even new people, because someone always tells them. And my experience is, that it's like that Talking Stain commercial on tv, once someone knows, that's all they see. On the other hand, my customers all see me as female, without a second thought. (work is the last bastion because my family all dropped me like a hot potato)
I should add that I LOVE being a woman, and that it's the best thing I ever did. Anyway, thank you again for sharing your motto.
Stealth
