Why do I sometimes get the feeling I've invaded a preschool?

[Nero]

Ok, now before you all start stomping me under your hooves, hear me out:

It's not all androgynes, but it's definitely something I've noticed. Sometimes when talking to an androgyne, I get the distinct, uncomfortable and odd feeling that I've just invaded a playground to chat up a little girl and I'm about to be arrested any moment for giving out candy.

Anybody else ever get that feeling?

[Shana A]

Ok, now before you all start stomping me under your hooves, hear me out:

It's not all androgynes, but it's definitely something I've noticed. Sometimes when talking to an androgyne, I get the distinct, uncomfortable and odd feeling that I've just invaded a playground to chat up a little girl and I'm about to be arrested any moment for giving out candy.

Anybody else ever get that feeling?

What kind of candy are you handing out? I hope it's chocolate... 

And don't worry, behind my childlike wonder, is also the ability to kick potential perps in the @#$%s if anyone gets funny.  >

Z

"Candy man, salty dog, Candy man, salty dog, Candy man, salty dog, you gonna be my Candy man, I'll be your salty dog"

[Lokaeign]

Some androgyne folk I know do tend to adopt (either unconsciously or by design) a "boyish" or "girlish" persona at times.  I think it's partly because although gender identity is established very early on, our bodies as kids were less gendered--more neutral; it was easier to pretend and hope that we could dwell in an intermediate space. 

It's also difficult to construct an adult androgyne identity; I mean, where do we look? 

[Pica Pica]

i don't get that feeling, but i do sometimes feel like i am in a playground playing hopscotch and trying to do cartwheels.
i think Lokaeign has a definite point, I for one have also enjoyed feeling child-like (as opposed to childish). I reckon being an androgyne and being shy in that area has made me a slow developer sexually, reckon there is an innocence in that.
But most of all, there are a bunch of people here that (I believe) do not have fully fixed identities - stemming from the unfixed gender - and always will. This means they can play as a child does, trying on new hats all the time.

[Nero]

i don't get that feeling, but i do sometimes feel like i am in a playground playing hopscotch and trying to do cartwheels.
i think Lokaeign has a definite point, I for one have also enjoyed feeling child-like (as opposed to childish). I reckon being an androgyne and being shy in that area has made me a slow developer sexually, reckon there is an innocence in that.
But most of all, there are a bunch of people here that (I believe) do not have fully fixed identities - stemming from the unfixed gender - and always will. This means they can play as a child does, trying on new hats all the time.

You wouldn't get that feeling because you ARE in the playground playing hopscotch and those little hand slap song games with all the other little girls. But I think that's rare and sweet. I just got to watch what I'm saying and remember who I'm talking to though.

[tekla]

trying on new hats all the time.

Once I found the one with the tin foil lining I've stuck with it.

[androgynetg]

Sometimes when talking to an androgyne, I get the distinct, uncomfortable and odd feeling that I've just invaded a playground ..

That does it, I'm calling you out, it's handbags at dawn ...

http://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/handbags_at_dawn

[tekla]

I'm just going to stick my tongue out and say "nay-nay-nay"!

[Shana A]

I'm just going to stick my tongue out and say "nay-nay-nay"!

Reebs draws line with finger in sandbox....

Pica dances in sandbox, eliminating all lines...

Tekla tips over sandbox....

Z points finger and wails "Sheeeeee started it!"

Nero has breakdown... runs from forest screaming....

> > > > >

Z

[tekla]

I would never tip over the sand box.  I like to eat sand way too much for that.  And if I tipped it over how could I throw it at you and hit you in the head with my Tonka Toy when it got in your eyes.  HUH!

[Simone Louise]

See now, I thought I was twelve and had graduated from the playground to circumnavigating the library and museum on their ledges and taking the railroad trestle as a shortcut. Jaimie, I think, once wrote something about feeling like boy or girl, not man or woman, and Pica wrote something in the same vein, if I'm not mistaken. And some other people spoke of TGs in general as feeling younger than their chronological age. I never met anyone in the flesh who told me they were androgyne, and only one self-avowed TS.

But, if I embarrass you, I'll do my best to act as a grownup when we are together, Nero. I'd never giggle and never ask you for candy. I'd be on my best behavior; honest!

Yours very truly,
S

[Shana A]

I would never tip over the sand box.  I like to eat sand way too much for that.  And if I tipped it over how could I throw it at you and hit you in the head with my Tonka Toy when it got in your eyes.  HUH!

Z sits down in sandbox, legs crossed, crying a little, waiting for Nero to come back and beat someone up. 

Z

[Nero]

It's not so much embarassment Simone, as just the simple realization that while you thought you were carrying on an adult conversation, you suddenly see a bunch of kindergartners sitting in a circle before you with rapt attention and you've said way too much and all of it inappropriate for tender ears.

[tekla]

Oh if they can't take it they should just grow up.

On the other hand.... the running joke in my line of work is the little kid who says to his mom that:
"When I grow up I want to be a stagehand."
to which the mother replies:
"Oh be real honey child, you can't do both."

[Shana A]

It's not so much embarassment Simone, as just the simple realization that while you thought you were carrying on an adult conversation, you suddenly see a bunch of kindergartners sitting in a circle before you with rapt attention and you've said way too much and all of it inappropriate for tender ears.

Actually, some kids think and act way older than their physical age. I was that way.

Z

[Pica Pica]

they used to say the same about me, 6 goin on 60...but that was just because I could use words well for a 6 year old. I had the gab. Rarely knew what i was saying though.

[Laura91]

I would never tip over the sand box.  I like to eat sand way too much for that.  And if I tipped it over how could I throw it at you and hit you in the head with my Tonka Toy when it got in your eyes.  HUH!

Z sits down in sandbox, legs crossed, crying a little, waiting for Nero to come back and beat someone up. 

Z

*Sits down next to Z and gives them a wet willy*

[NickSister]

I get the feeling nero, but in reverse, to some extent anyway,

I feel like being with the binary is like being in a highschool. There are all these stupid rules for how to act, what is considered cool, what uniform you can wear, who the 'in' people are, who you can play with and the way you have to play. I get bullied, I get picked on for being different. There is a whole lot of posturing and a whole lot of insecurity from the 'in' people. I am still waiting for everyone to grow up and leave school so they can realise this is all irrelevant to (most) grownups.

It is lonely to be an advanced being. 

[Pica Pica]

Now that is true, the binary does feel highschool-y

[cindybc]

Hi the quote below goes a long way to describing my nature.

Some androgyne folk I know do tend to adopt (either unconsciously or by design) a "boyish" or "girlish" persona at times. 
It's also difficult to construct an adult androgyne identity; I mean, where do we look?

But I am a fully transitioned M/F but maybe I need to grow up as a girl and have that girl have my past experiences. now well. school sucked as well for me. I was a lot more fun after I got home and could just goof off and do what ever I wanted. But I do love androgynes. 

I feel a need to share something else. My mate Wing Walker Last evening was up on the walk frying us up some pork chops on the barbecue. I just felt something like a tingling Like my body had just been invaded by a whole nest of ants that were crawling all over me. I then felt this panic then I heard this crash and Wing Walker screaming all happening in no more then two seconds.

I ran to the edge of the walk and there was no steps, they were gone, then I looked below and saw Wing Walker sprawled on top of the steps which had collapsed to the cement floor bellow. I couldn't get down to do anything all I could do was walk back and forth crying uncontrollably. I screamed in hopes the land lord or someone in the house would come out. By the time someone got a step ladder I made certain to be the first one to climb down. By this time Wing Walker was still in shock but in control.

I sat beside her still crying and asked her if she was OK several times before she responded there was nothing broken as far as she knew except for one bad scrape on her lower right leg the rest was only superficial, she was OK. I really believe there was a force at work there, she could have got hurt much worst. This was why I wasn't on the waves today. Wing Walker is OK but I still kind of feel stressed out. I really don't know why I am posting this here except for hoping someone will notice I exist and will respond. It's like I am invisible on the other threads lately. Thank you

Much love

Cindy