What will you do?

[cindianna_jones]

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Cindi

[LostInTime]

I am already working on everything, except relationships.  I am open to one now but not actively seeking out a partner.  That is the one thing that will change after SRS.  Everything else will pretty much be the same.  Bills to pay, people to see, and things to do.

[Nero]

What will I do?
You'll be reading it someday. Literally.
Someday you'll all have The Complete Works of Nero [last name] on your shelves.

Nero

[Melissa]

I'm already trying to live my life to my fullest.  Sure, there are a few things I can't do until after SRS, there's no reason I can't start doing what I want now.

After surgery, I won't have the fear of wearing certain clothes that make my birth sex obvious.  I won't have to feel uncomfortable with being intimate.  I won't have to be afraid of being seen naked.  I won't have to spend as much $$$ on hormones.  I won't have to have an 'M' on my birth certificate or Social Security.  I won't have to tell employers that I'm TS.  I won't have to fear hate crimes just because I'm TS.  I will finally be able to feel like all of the physical transition is over (I know there's mental adjustment).

Other than that, I can pretty much do what I want now.

Melissa

[tinkerbell]

Tinkerbell, I stand in awe for your compassion to adopt.  I wish you only the best.  I want to know when you do so I can send a shower gift.  Okay?

Cindi

You're such a sweet lady,   Cindi...thank you!  and yes, I'll make sure to let you know when it happens which I hope it does...


tinkerbell

[stephanie_craxford]

What will i do?...

I shall carry on living my life as I'm living now.  To it's fullest.  I realize that there are probably going to be some changes to face, but what they are I don't know and right now frankly Scarlet I don't give a damn

Oh one thing, one thing, I almost forgot...  At the gym where I go they gave me my own change room and shower.  I can look forward to being desegregated

I guess the next biggest thing to look forward to is old age (boy, am I exciting)  and ya know something, we don't hear too much about from our more senior women and the problems they encountered in old age.

Steph

[Melissa]

I guess the next biggest thing to look forward to is old age (boy, am I exciting)  and ya know something, we don't hear too much about from our more senior women and the problems they encountered in old age.

What do you mean?  We're hearing you right now.

(Runs and hides to avoid a pummelling.)

Melissa

[Chynna]

Don't want SRS

But A very interesting read\thread........
just wanted to state that and say there's always something else!

Chynna

PS Melissa...Steph is going to get you!
Besides I like to think Steph gets more refined not older aint that right Steph

[stephanie_craxford]

What do you mean?  We're hearing you right now.

(Runs and hides to avoid a pummelling.)

Melissa

Ha, ha, ha, you had better run and hide little one, but I'll a finda ya and when I do... "One of these days, Alice. Pow! Right in the kisser!" ^{Jackie Gleason}. 

Steph

P.S. Yes that's right Chynna you can move to the front of the class, Melissa...out side in the rain.

[Melissa]

Steph, we know how old you are and you look stunning for your age.

Now, can I come back in?  I'm soaked.

Melissa

[stephanie_craxford]

Steph, we know how old you are and you look stunning for your age.

Now, can I come back in?  I'm soaked.

Melissa

Ok, ok, even though some may consider that a backhanded compliment you can come it.

Steph

[Chynna]

TEACHERS PET 

VS.

CLASS CLOWN

Which one to be today!

[Chaunte]

Write!  Write!  and then more writing!  After that, maybe start thinking about that post-hole digger degree...

Chaunte

[Kate]

If God created me, some day we will sit down together with a cold Margarita.
And then I'll give him a chance to explain the joke.
Cause, I sure didn't catch the punch line in this life.

Ya know, even in the darkest throes of dispair, when I'm crying into my pillow over the hopelessness and futility of all this... my mind's eye so often looks down and catches a glimpse of the utter absurdity of it all... and the sobbing slowly turns into a messy, snot-dripping, eyes-watering laughter... which makes me laugh all the more at the insanity and joy of being human.

[LynnER]

My music is my all consuming.....

It has kept me alive and going all my life in its diffrent flavors and forms...
Its like I heard the sirens song calling my name... and ever sence Ive never been the same.
my soul is taken, life no longer my own, can you hear the sirens song in the place you call home?

< I know thats crummy but Im tired    >

[Kimberly]

...
< I know thats crummy but Im tired    >

Actually I quite liked that.

[Robyn]

I guess the next biggest thing to look forward to is old age (boy, am I exciting)  and ya know something, we don't hear too much about from our more senior women and the problems they encountered in old age.

Steph

And it will come soon enough, Steph.

You asked for input from our more senior women.  At 69, I certainly qualify.  (Is there anyone at Susan's older than I am?)

My chapter in Tracie O'Keefe's book "The Real Me..." (or some, such, title ... I'm not at home to check) is about this very question  What comes after transition, with or withut surgery)?

My basic answer is that, as a woman (or a man), life still has to be lived.  Life is a journey, not a destination.  There will always be things to learn, things to do, challenges to overcome.  As we get older, though, we hope the everyday challenges lighten up a bit.

My particular answer seemed to be transactivism.  3 Boards (NTAC, TAVA, and TNET) and 2 media chairs.  Last night was an NCTE Board of Advisors teleconference.    That plus a husband kept me busy in semiretirement.  Had to drop some (but not my husband) when I was called back to full time work. 

I think many transfolk reach the point of wanting to pay back the community for support we have received.  Someone can always use a figurative or literal hand.

Robyn

[BrendaQG]

Go swimming without worrying about anything popping out.  At least not popping out downstairs.

[Elizabeth]

Cindi,

Should that fortunate day arrive? I will most certainly be quite busy defending the rights of Transgendered people.  It is my intention to go to law school and become a lawyer and dedicate my career to protecting and advocating for the rights of transgendered people.  It combines two of the things that I have always wanted to do.  Have a career as a woman, and becoming a lawyer.  I have never really been into the need to have material wealth, so I can work a lot cheaper than most lawyers would be willing to work. I hope to go to work for one of the California organizations that defends the rights of transgendered people, as a transwoman lawyer.

My wife thinks this is a most noble cause and I could help some people who really need it, someone who understands them.

Love always,
Elizabeth

[umop ap!sdn]

It is my intention to go to law school and become a lawyer and dedicate my career to protecting and advocating for the rights of transgendered people.

You go girl! 

Myself, I will likely go back to college and study... something. Haven't decided on a major. But this time it'll be with the goal of getting a degree. Meanwhile hopefully I will find Mr. or Ms. Right and start a life together.