There will always be people that can not tolerate others that do not fit their cookie cutter mold. Remember the little bullies in the 1st grade? Well, they do grow up to become adults, at least physically. Way back in the 1st grade, when I really became different for the 1st time, I need glasses to see the blackboard from the 1st row, they made fun of me and it hurt! It hurt both mentally and physically. (numerous altercations & broken glasses) Finally, my mother & my teacher got through to me. Their advice, ignore the bullies. Easier said than done, especially for a 6 year old. But in a few months, the thugs & thugette's moved on to other people or things to abuse.
Many years later, this advise was put to the test once again. I was working in a position where confrontation was expected. Barbs were thrown and blood drawn. The only way to keep the sharks from circling for the kill was to not let the SOB's now that they had hit a vulnerable spot. It was necessary to control my emotions and not make any comment. I just did my job and the dummies went away.
In my past life, I had to be an outstanding actress. Yes, and actress! Living and presenting as a male, because it was EXPECTED of me. All the time, yearning to be the real me, a lady. So I use the lessons learned in grade school, and in the business world to my advantage.
1: I never show hurt or anger, when a thug attempts "humor" at my expense.
2: Sadly, I learned to limit my circle of trust. My business life and my personal life were two separate items. In the office, juicy gossip spreads like wildfire. Gossip spreads faster than the news of a pay raise. And "we" are at the top of the hill, when it comes to juicy topics.
Why do people pick on TG/TS people?:
1. They think that we are mutilating our bodies. The male reaction is to cover his groin, for fear that I want to do that to him.
2. They are obsessed with the idea that "we" are perverts and only want access to female restrooms. (Therapy, HRT, SRS just to get to a restroom? WOW!!)
2. They "know" that God does not make mistakes. To this I say, would you deny surgery to a child with a cleft palate? Or any of the other birth defects that can be corrected by surgery. To me SRS, is nothing more than correcting a birth defect!
3. We are easy targets, because we are EXCEPTIONAL (not different) and they fear the unknown.
4. If the old adage, about "what comes out of the mouth is what is in the heart." is true, then our haters have dirty filthy minds.
Sorry to have bored you with this epistle, but it became a form of therapy for my old tired soul. And perhaps a touch of senility, my upcoming birthday will be #72.
Love you all
Laura
