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[widowprincess]

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[Sephirah]

You're not crazy, honey.

*hugs*

Welcome to Susan's. This is one amazing place, and if anyone can help you to figure things out it's the incredible people that come here.

If you would say you are a girl then... you are. That's that. You know how you feel inside and how you see yourself. You're right, you are a beautiful person, and you don't need to be shy with us. There are so many here who know that you're going through.

Thank you for opening up to us, Widow. You're not alone with this. Sexuality and gender identity are, in my opinion, not related. You can be a girl and still attracted to girls. You're a gay girl, as are a lot of us here. Nothing wrong with that, honey.

There's a lot of information here that you can read through, which might make things a little clearer in your mind... and if not, people here are so wise and willing to help that I'm positive you'll find the answers you're looking for... or a few steps in the right direction.

It's great to have you with us, Widow.

[widowprincess]

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[sarahb]

It's been said in another post before and I totally agree with it. Just because someone may have sexual feelings and fetishes, doesn't immediately discount the fact that they may also still be TS. Since TS's are just like "normal" people, why can't we have the same sort of sexual desires and fetishes that others have?

It's something that each person needs to weight themselves. They must come to conclusion of whether their feelings are just totally sexually based and they are not TS, or if they are TS but also have those tendencies. If you've always felt like a girl, and are comfortable presenting and living as a girl, then you are probably TS. Since life isn't one big orgy, there's other facets to life that if they really weren't TS they would not be able to cope in the real world everyday life as a girl.

[widowprincess]

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[sarahb]

Hmm...you have a lot of naturally feminine features. I like the fourth picture. Love your eyes.

[NicholeW.]

Welcome to Susan's, Widow,

You're a really lovely girl. Nice pics!! 

Sexuality isn't "strange," dear -- it's part of almost everyone's humanity. I'd suggest that you lighten-up on yourself about having desires. Not every trans-woman loses desire during transition. Most people have fetishes of one sort or another. We like satin sheets or babydolls or any number of other things.

Some men enjoy women with red lipgloss or in heels and stockings. Women enjoy muscles or a shock of blond hair or a sweaty body. We just don't think of those things as "fetishes" because we call them "normal" and consign things we don't approve of to "fetishism." Simple as that. Behavior is what it is and "fetish" is simply another word that is used as a pejorative: like, say, "trannie" or "->-bleeped-<-got."

Don't be so tough on yourself. You have wants, needs and desires: none of those make you TS and none keep you from being a TS. There are more important issues facing you, no matter who or what you are.

So, chin up and *smile*. Just a bit ...?

Now for the mechanical and technical part of this post.

Please take some time to read The Site Rules and on The Main Page you can discover Links, Chat and Wiki for your use as well. You might also want to go to the "Announcements" section and read the two posts "Post Ranks" and "Reputation Rules" to help you with some knowledge about when you can apply your own avatars, PM, and what those lil stars mean beneath all of our names and how to get them for yourself as well!!

It's great to have you here! Enjoy your stay.

Nichole

[widowprincess]

ok well.... im a sexy girl ADMIT IT!! RAWR!! lol.
the last picture, i look totally pyscho
ok... well... they are separate feelings.
it may take awhile for my not to feel guilty,
but i guess i have nothing to feel guilty about..
its natural. i just have to remind myself that.
i tape record myself saying motivational things all the time,
and i play the recordings everyday. i post notes on my wall..
i listen 2 certain songs that make me happy everyday, the same songs.
i do what i can.. cuz.. before i started doing all of that..
all i could think about was suicide..
but im better now..
i just have to take extra steps everyday..

[Aiden]

Hey welcome.  And you'll be ok here.  No wories, your not weird, I am   LOL

Though really we are all different so we are all weird and normal lol

[widowprincess]

*hugs weirdo* HI WEIRDO!!! love you!!!

[Aiden]

LOL thanks

[barbie]

Thanks for introduction.

You look young and beautiful.

In my case, I have maintained a balance between my work and my crossdressing stuffs. When working, I become very masculine. When crossdressing, I am rather feminine. My colleagues sometimes complain that I am sometimes too much aggressive compared with my appearance. I am a researcher, which typically requires analysis and I think anaysis is masculine. My job also requires leadership. Sometimes I feel it is difficult to be masculine while looking feminine. I need the two opposite aspects for my career and sustaining my family while maintaining health of my mind and enjoying what I want to do.

Others will hopefully provide you valuable advice on gender and related issues.

Just my thought on your appearance. Wearing bold lipstick would make you look more feminine and beautiful.

Barbie~~

[tinkerbell]

Hello Widow Princess and welcome to Susan's!

Thanks so much for introducing yourself.  Please take a few moments to get familiar with all the boards of the site, review the site rules before posting, and take advantage of our many resources such as the wiki, chat, and the links listed at the main page.  We look forward to your future posts and participation.  Enjoy your stay

tink

[Janet_Girl]

Hi Widow Princess,

You are a very pretty girl.  Run with that.  The other things are just other parts of who you are.  Accept them.  They are you.

Welcome to our little family.  Feel free to post your successes/failures, Hopes/dreams.  Ask questions and seek answers.  Give and receive advice.

But remember we are family here, your family now.  And it is always nice to have another member.

And don't be afraid of the dark, it wont hurt you.  I don't let it hurt my friends.  It knows it's Mistress.

Mistress Janet

[widowprincess]

rawr!! kill all the vampires!!
um hihi peoplez.
*runs with beauty*
yay!!
im a supermodel, totally
*trips over pebble*
um youz be nice and stuff.
i tend to like nice people...
since were family, you all are my parents now.. hehe evilness!
i instantly made all of you old with wrinkles!!!
i promise if i see someone i feel like i can help out ill try...
but.. im no... expert in anything...
except pure flawless beauty.
yay!
mmm.. bold lipstick... specific?
i dont like to be dramatic much, just pretty and adorable.
in the past ive played dramatic..
i just like to keep it simple now.
but i am totally open to suggestions and ideas and all of that..