KIDS - reasons you don't have em, reasons you don't want em

[Nero]

I don't have kids. But I like kids. They're sweet and fun. And CUTE. But only if I don't have to:

* Change their diapers

* Wipe their faces

* Watch them eat

* See them break my stuff

* Hear them crying and/or whining

* Worry about them


I like kids. I like OTHER people's kids. And occasionally, I have fantasies of being a father. But the reality is - I'm way too selfish for kids. And honestly, the only real reason I'd want them is for somebody to remember me and wax poetic about my virtues when I'm dead.

Oh gawd. The girl I'm seeing has kids.


What about you? If you don't have kids, why not? Or why don't you want them?

[Natasha]

i can't stand kids! i neither have the patience nor the energy to deal with them.

[Mnemosyne]

Never been able to have children. Not especially keen on children but if a SO had children it would not be a deal breaker.

[Dennis]

I like kids, but wouldn't want to have had them with my ex-wife, because she was a raging control freak. I'd hate to subject a kid to that. The dog was already neurotic.

Life has just worked out that I didn't have them. I didn't want them strongly enough to bear them myself, and I wasn't really with suitable partners for one reason or another.

Dennis

[Yochanan]

I went through the whole baby thing--diapers, messy eating, baths, whining--oh, the whining!--with my little sister. She was born Nov. 8, 2004, when I was fourteen, and I basically raised her when my mom was too doped up to get out of bed (which was most of the time back then--she's recovering, thankfully). Point is, even after all those disgusting diapers and moldy bottles found under the bed a week later, I really wouldn't have wanted to have it any other way. I ADORE my baby sister. Raising her has shown me that I really, really want kids involved in all stages of my life. I plan to adopt once I'm older and out of school. Better help a kid who's already here than bring another in for no good reason. After all, the only reason to have a bio-kid is to have someone to carry on my name--and I don't give a damn about that.

[sneakersjay]

Have them, love them, wouldn't trade them for the world.

Thing is, they don't stay in diaper or drool forever.  And they're wicked cool.  Now that they're a few weeks away from turning 10 & 14, I'm like, where did the time go?!!

If I'm ever with a partner who wants one, I'd consider it again.  And this time around I'd get to be DAD, which would be cool!!

Jay

[Krystal]

No children here nor do I want to have any of my own. While I do enjoy playing with the neighbors kids for a hour or two it gets old pretty quick. I guess I am a bit to selfish with my time to want anyone or anything that is totally dependent on me. That's why I have cats and not a dog. Dogs are like children just to needy.

=^_^=My cats are my independent children=^_^=
Katie

[NicholeW.]

Children are a blessing, to me. Others don't feel the same way and shouldn't. If you haven't the patience or desire do not have children. They require time and love, not resentment and impatience.

There are plenty of unloved people in the world now; why would anyone add to that number?

Nichole

[Sephirah]

i can't stand kids! i neither have the patience nor the energy to deal with them.

Ditto.

I am really not child-friendly. At all. I feel awkward around them and at this stage in my life, I can't imagine ever wanting them.

[sarahb]

I'm kind of the same way, a little too selfish about my time...at least right now. I am thinking that I would want kids down the line like when I'm 35 or something, but that's still years away so things may change. I do think I will end up with kids though at some point, just not any time soon.

[trapthavok]

No children here nor do I want to have any of my own. While I do enjoy playing with the neighbors kids for a hour or two it gets old pretty quick. I guess I am a bit to selfish with my time to want anyone or anything that is totally dependent on me. That's why I have cats and not a dog. Dogs are like children just to needy.

=^_^=My cats are my independent children=^_^=
Katie

HAH that's my reason exactly. I don't want em, don't need em. I love taking care of my little cousins from time to time but the whole feeding them, bathing them, thing gets old. Especially when they get hungry at the same time as me-- I'm really cranky when I'm hungry.

I think I'd mess up my kids cause I'm very selfish, and that would be evident after a while. I could deal with having a partner but not a kid. Maximum tolerance for kids: 8 hours.

I'd just rather have a dog, at least that way I'd know I didn't screw up a person's life, and I'm more affectionate when it comes to four legged pets than people. I'm just weird that way.

[gravitysrainbow]

I used to say I'd NEVER have kids, but once I started thinking of the possibility of being the father, not the mother, I liked the idea a lot more. Kids still make me awkward, though...and then give me that look like, "What are you still doing here?" Especially toddlers. So I'm still on the fence.

[sarahb]

Kids still make me awkward, though...and then give me that look like, "What are you still doing here?" Especially toddlers.

LOLOL!!!! I just pictured the look a toddler would give while thinking that statement, haha.

[tekla]

The dog was already neurotic.

Oh god, how true is this?  If you can't handle pets, kids are not for you.

[icontact]

I love kids. As long as I don't have to be the one to carry them for 9mo, yes, definitely. 

[Aiden]

Gehhh...  their fine to look at for a few moments but as soon as they start screaming and crying all I want to do is tell them to shut the hell up.    I don't handle kids well.  They start messing with stuff I get agitated and want to yell at them.  Plus I am somewhat selfish I guess when it comes to my time.  I like having my own time to do my own thing and not having someone butting into my life at odd moments or deciding for me when I should do something in my own time.

So, yeh always known I didn't want kids, and the 9 month carrying thing... nope to that too.   At least I know not to have them, there are plenty of people who have them and can't deal with them and ruin their kids because of it.

[annajasmine]

I love kids. I been taking care of my baby niece for the last three days(8 days out of the last 2 weeks) and I love it. Sure there is some bad things but the good out weights the bad.  Only thing that gets to me is a lack of sleep. Really what kids want most when they are young is attention. I probably would had kids by now if I was normal and as for the future I won't adopt until I am through the with most of transition and have a partner. One seems far off and the other I don't know if I could ever be in a relationship. I so at 34 I probably never have kids .

Anna

[Laura91]

No children here nor do I want to have any of my own. While I do enjoy playing with the neighbors kids for a hour or two it gets old pretty quick. I guess I am a bit to selfish with my time to want anyone or anything that is totally dependent on me. That's why I have cats and not a dog. Dogs are like children just to needy.

=^_^=My cats are my independent children=^_^=
Katie

Agreed (even though I have no pets). However, my main reason is that I am too poor (I can barely afford to take care of myself) and I don't think that it would be fair to subject a kid to living in  poverty.

[Janet_Girl]

I have three boys and one daughter, plus about 9 grandkids mixed.  I just wish they were closer. 

I personal would love to have a child of my own, but I am too old now.  Past child bearing years.  And for the birth defect.  Wrong plumbing.

Nero, Can we say 'Step Father'? 

Mistress Janet

[MeghanAndrews]

I've always wanted kids, but knew I couldn't have them. I think I always thought of them as a trap and that I wouldn't be able to transition with them, which I know isn't correct. I've always "traveled light" so to speak. I come from a military family, we moved like 8 times before I was 10. I'm used to uprooting. With kids, it's kind of tough to do that. I always wanted to have kids of my own, as a mommy. I've talked about it before, but I can't imagine having kids with the parts I have now, it just...I wouldn't do that. I'm way to far along at this point to have kids produced by me.

Maybe some day I'll meet a good guy who is either peacefully divorced and happy with young kids who I can raise or something, who knows. I like all the things people said they can't stand, it all goes with the territory, changing diapers, all that stuff. I'd be a good mommy