I figured since I will be not as much introducing myself as asking for advice it may be best to post here. You can call me Marin. I am an androgyne. To me gender doesn't matter much, but I do want to present myself as an androgyne-like person and not as a girl (my biological gender). I haven't talked to my parents about this yet, they have too many other issues to deal with. I have talked to an adult that works with me a lot as well as to my online friends. Through discussions with these people I have realized what I am.
I am currently moving and starting school. It isn't a conventional school and I should be fairly accepted there. I am looking to change my physical presentation in the couple of weeks before school. I want tips on this. Here are my ideas/things that I have been trying:
T-shirts: I am just starting to wear t-shirts more now that my new school has no dress code. I got a bunch of cool gaming/geeky t-shirts (yes, I am a geek) in male sizes. The girls ones are too tight and form fitting with tiny sleeves, plus half of the shirts only came in male sizes.
Convertible Pants/Zip-offs: This is my casual form of pants. I tried to get a female cut that was somewhat similar to a male cut. I always wear it in a light-ish color.
Polo Shirts: Polo shirts are what I wear when I want to dress slightly nicer. I get them in 'male' colors to help with my illusion (since right now I look kind of like a girl still, though a little girl got confused about my gender yesterday, which made me happy, heh). The cut is kind of in between a typical mens polo and womens polo.
Shorts: This is what I wear in the warm weather when I am not wearing zip-offs. I tried to get a loose and long (slightly above the knee) shorts.
Pants: I wear these in colder weather or when I need to be a bit dressy. I always wear them in a light color.
Bra/Breasts: I will be getting some sports bras soon in hopes that they will minimize my breasts. Breasts are annoying.
Shoes: I wear Merrells. I always will. I personally can't tell the difference between womens and mens, so I wear womens to keep my mom happy.
Jacket: I wear a somewhat sleek jacket over my clothes all the time. The jacket is always black.
Watch: I wear a men's watch. It fits me better than a woman's.
Hair: I have my very curly brown hair just at the top of my ears, and pretty short in the back too. I have it cut whenever it reaches the bottom of my ears.
Hat: I often wear a hat with ears on it, I'm just weird that way.
I am nearly 5'8" and 185 pounds, I am working on losing weight at the insistence of my mother. I am hoping to get down to 155-165ish.
Voice: My voice is low, but not that low. Back in chorus I should have been a tenor, but since my school was too small to have all of the sections I split my time between alto and baritone.
So, what do you think? How could I be perceived as androgynous or just not really have people know my gender. I am tired of succumbing to my mom's every wish for me to be a 'beautiful girl'. I hate dresses and makeup, they are uncomfortable, as are many girly things. I hate my breasts and periods, but I don't think that I would like the issues that boys have much better at all.
Please do not take me for some rebellious person or someone wanting to stand out or be different. I already stand out many times and am different, for reasons that I don't wish to discuss here at this time and are unimportant. I have felt this way for a while now. I have 3 people that I can discuss this with, one adult off line and a couple of close online friends. I just feel like I need more information and support.
Any advice is welcome. I am sorry to get into appearance so much in my first post, I honestly don't think about it much normally, but I am starting a new school and I want to look like who I feel that I am.
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