Saying "I am a cross-dresser", then "I am transgendered" were the two hardest things I ever said. When I went to my first therapist for "depression", I could not even say the word crossdress, I had to write it on a piece of paper and push it across the desk. I, too, am introvertish and find it difficult to discuss my feelings with people. And this was such a secret, a top secret, so highly confidential, that if I even thought it, I had to kill myself. Which I did, twice.
The good news is, if you can tell these things to someone that you trust will not judge you, the relief is life-changing. And the more you do it, the easier it gets.
Give it a try. Find several therapists near you that state that they work with gender issues (usually means gay),
make an appointment, talk for an hour, pick the one makes you feel the most comfortable, and go back.
Carol
"In our sleep, pain that cannot forget falls drop by drop upon the heart, and in our own despair, against our will, comes wisdom through the awful grace of God."