I fooled myself.

[iFindMeHere]

last night I heard a recording of my own voice *shudders*. I thought that the voice I had been using to "try to sound like a guy" was a lot more convincing. It isn't. All it does is give me a sore throat. So I got to thinking about the whole picture from an outside perpective.

I had been really angry because I thought I passed a lot better and people kept "she"ing me. 

I had been trying so hard....all it was was a bunch of hassle that got me nowhere.

I guess I'll just stop trying for awhile and be depressed (again) instead of consumed by rage. Depressed is easier to be around.

[Mister]

Did you call those places today?

[iFindMeHere]

Did you call those places today?

no i didn't.... study took up too much time (I'm behind). Besides, depression is old hat, I've been depressed all my life  .

I'm not gonna do anything stupid, it would suck to die "a woman".

[Elwood]

I don't try to deepen my voice. Instead, I tell one white lie:

"I had a delayed puberty."

It's actually the truth. What they don't know is that my FEMALE puberty was delayed. But that explanation explains why I don't have any of the external benefits of testosterone and why my voice sounds like a little boy's.

[iFindMeHere]

I don't try to deepen my voice. Instead, I tell one white lie:

"I had a delayed puberty."

It's actually the truth. What they don't know is that my FEMALE puberty was delayed. But that explanation explains why I don't have any of the external benefits of testosterone and why my voice sounds like a little boy's.

sweetie that's not gonna work, i'm almost 30. glad it works for you though.

[alexkidd]

I have the same problem with my voice, everything about me screams Boy but as soon as I speak ppl get confused. And even though I look fairly young, I am too old to be going through puberty!

Someone suggest singing along to really deep male songs, I tired that for a week or so and lost my voice! Lol! My partner couldn't stop laughing. 

Starting T at the end of October (Hopefully) so I can't wait for my voice to change so I can start passing full time (without ppl thinking Im a mute, lol)

[iFindMeHere]

I have the same problem with my voice, everything about me screams Boy but as soon as I speak ppl get confused. And even though I look fairly young, I am too old to be going through puberty!

Someone suggest singing along to really deep male songs, I tired that for a week or so and lost my voice! Lol! My partner couldn't stop laughing. 

Starting T at the end of October (Hopefully) so I can't wait for my voice to change so I can start passing full time (without ppl thinking Im a mute, lol)

I have my fingers crossed for you.

[Lachlann]

I don't think I'll be able to deepen my voice without T. 2nd soprano and all...

[trapthavok]

I feel ya on this one. Trying to lower my voice just doesn't work, it always comes out sounding stupid. Whenever it DOES sound good I get skeptical and wonder if I'm fooling myself too.

My participation portion of my grade might suffer cause I don't speak unless spoken to by a professor or something, bad enough some classmates know I'm a "girl", worse when my voice confirms it.

Pass the T!

[iFindMeHere]

HEAR HEAR!

[GQjoey]

I know it's a lot easier said, than done, but it is possible to train yourself to speak in a low(er) bass voice. I started doing it at about 12-13, and by 14-15 it was my voice. Not sure if it just gradually deepened with puberty or not, but by the time I was 14 everytime I answered the phone EVERYONE thought I was my 16 yr old brother.
I started hormones just about 6 months ago, and the Dr thought I had been on T prior, because of how deep my voice was. It really hasn't gotten any deeper since I started T, and I was told it probably won't. Will power is a bad bitch!

[iFindMeHere]

I know it's a lot easier said, than done, but it is possible to train yourself to speak in a low(er) bass voice. I started doing it at about 12-13, and by 14-15 it was my voice. Not sure if it just gradually deepened with puberty or not, but by the time I was 14 everytime I answered the phone EVERYONE thought I was my 16 yr old brother.
I started hormones just about 6 months ago, and the Dr thought I had been on T prior, because of how deep my voice was. It really hasn't gotten any deeper since I started T, and I was told it probably won't. Will power is a bad bitch!

I have the kind of voice most girls would *die* for, and quitting smoking only made it softer/higher. I tried that, and it didnt work. Jut gonna have to work on getting T. Til then I'm gonna keep my hair short but otherwise forget it i guess.

[trapthavok]

I know it's a lot easier said, than done, but it is possible to train yourself to speak in a low(er) bass voice. I started doing it at about 12-13, and by 14-15 it was my voice. Not sure if it just gradually deepened with puberty or not, but by the time I was 14 everytime I answered the phone EVERYONE thought I was my 16 yr old brother.
I started hormones just about 6 months ago, and the Dr thought I had been on T prior, because of how deep my voice was. It really hasn't gotten any deeper since I started T, and I was told it probably won't. Will power is a bad bitch!

Actually the one FTM I ever met was younger than me (17) and he had a pretty convincing male voice pre-T. So I figured I'd try and do the same...I just don't know how effective it will be, maybe it varies by person? Alright, I'll give it another shot.

[sneakersjay]

I've always had a fairly deep female voice; used to sing with the altos.  My voice has dropped some on T and is noticeable to me and my therapist, who noticed it on the phone.  Still, I get ma'am and she on the phone.

As far as passing visually, I think I'm confusing more people, but still seen more as female than male.  Personally I think it's my arms that give me away.  Maybe when I start wearing longer sleeves.

Jay, 6 weeks on T, 1 week post-hysto

[Mister]

Look up a video called 'booming your voice' or something similar on YouTube.  i've heard mixed reviews, but it's a possibility.

Did you call yet?!?!?!?!?!?!?

[Adam]

My voice is a problem for me too. By the end of summer, I was gaining confedence with my voice, but now that school's started, it seems to be going all feminine again on me .

[iFindMeHere]

Look up a video called 'booming your voice' or something similar on YouTube.  i've heard mixed reviews, but it's a possibility.

Did you call yet?!?!?!?!?!?!?

IIIIIIII DIIIIIIIIIIIIIIID! I got the guts to do it! Just did! WOOOO! 

ok ok so i left a message but STILL.

Posted on: September 05, 2008, 04:04:45 PM

My voice is a problem for me too. By the end of summer, I was gaining confedence with my voice, but now that school's started, it seems to be going all feminine again on me .

That sucks.

[Jay]

My voice has already been slightly deep but when I was sort of passing pre T and people would ask where my facial hair was or what not I would tell them the same thing I have

"I had a delayed puberty."

And most people aren't doctors so they just went along with it.

Its true though as I have only actually started my purberty at age 20/21.

Jay -  3 1/2 months T

[Dora]

...who noticed it on the phone.  Still, I get ma'am and she on the phone.

I'm on the opposite side of the fence (MtF) but I can relate to the voice problem, especially on the phone. It's a bit complicated as my caller ID displays a female name, but my voice sounds male. Strangely enough I do seem to pass in public when speaking although I believe I have a long ways to go with the voice training -- I guess people hear what they see?

I'm curious as to how people here handle phone conversations when the person calls you ma'am (or sir as in my case).

Dora

[milliontoone]

I know it sucks , I hate my voice I get "she'd" on the phone all the time and it totally blows.  I can't wait for T as I truly think it is the one and only thing that is going to make my voice finally "break", I do try speaking lower but I don't think it's very effective unfortunately.  I do see myself as having a delayed puberty though although I am 28 because the way I feel my body was never allowed to go through the proper puberty for the gender I should be biologically and that needs to be corrected.