Coming out to a college friend

[findingreason]

Hi,

I have a college friend I may be moving in with, living in one of the spare bedrooms, in the near future. I was worried of how she would take to me if she found out about my gender issues, even though I know she is liberal. Well, I found out today she is bi-sexual, and I feel I have a lot less to worry about with regards to her. What do you think?

[Kaitlyn]

I think that it's a good sign that she'll be accepting, but I'd try to sound her out first, just in case.

[findingreason]

I think that it's a good sign that she'll be accepting, but I'd try to sound her out first, just in case.

I'm not quite sure how to do that exactly . Any suggestions? I really don't like talking about the topic if it can be avoided.

[Kaitlyn]

Um... I dunno.  Believe it or not, I've been thinking about coming out to my bisexual female friend too, and I haven't the foggiest idea how to gauge her opinion.

Posted on: September 30, 2008, 12:21:39 AMI was sort of hoping she'd notice something different about me and ask me about it.

[Kara Lee]

Maybe watch a movie with her like "Different for Girls" or something like that and see what kind of reaction you get?

[Dayna1975]

What I always did was mention something that you were reading an article about "something transgendered" and then maybe throw in "what do you think about TG persons."  I think that is what I did.  Been a while, but find something casual and bring it up.  She may even get intrigued and start asking.  If she does she may just be accepting.  I hope that helps.

[findingreason]

Well, after being nervous as I could get, I came out to her. It is all good, no problems! She doesn't care one bit, and looks at me as the same person. She doesn't treat me any differently, like I am freak or anything, so that made life a lot easier.

[iFindMeHere]

grats lady!