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Coming out to a college friend

Started by findingreason, September 29, 2008, 10:27:44 PM

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findingreason

September 29, 2008, 10:27:44 PM
Hi,

I have a college friend I may be moving in with, living in one of the spare bedrooms, in the near future. I was worried of how she would take to me if she found out about my gender issues, even though I know she is liberal. Well, I found out today she is bi-sexual, and I feel I have a lot less to worry about with regards to her. What do you think?


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Kaitlyn

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September 29, 2008, 10:48:45 PM
I think that it's a good sign that she'll be accepting, but I'd try to sound her out first, just in case.
"The mind is not a vessel to be filled but a fire to be kindled."
— Plutarch
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findingreason

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September 29, 2008, 11:09:32 PM
Quote from: Nephie on September 29, 2008, 10:48:45 PM
I think that it's a good sign that she'll be accepting, but I'd try to sound her out first, just in case.

I'm not quite sure how to do that exactly ???. Any suggestions? I really don't like talking about the topic if it can be avoided.


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Kaitlyn

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September 29, 2008, 11:22:46 PM
Um... I dunno.  Believe it or not, I've been thinking about coming out to my bisexual female friend too, and I haven't the foggiest idea how to gauge her opinion.

Posted on: September 30, 2008, 12:21:39 AM
I was sort of hoping she'd notice something different about me and ask me about it.
"The mind is not a vessel to be filled but a fire to be kindled."
— Plutarch
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Kara Lee

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September 30, 2008, 06:59:44 AM
Maybe watch a movie with her like "Different for Girls" or something like that and see what kind of reaction you get?
"Those who would give up Essential Liberty to purchase a little Temporary Safety, deserve neither Liberty nor Safety." -- Benjamin Franklin
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Dayna1975

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September 30, 2008, 08:48:06 AM
What I always did was mention something that you were reading an article about "something transgendered" and then maybe throw in "what do you think about TG persons."  I think that is what I did.  Been a while, but find something casual and bring it up.  She may even get intrigued and start asking.  If she does she may just be accepting.  I hope that helps.
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findingreason

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October 03, 2008, 10:42:37 PM
Well, after being nervous as I could get, I came out to her. It is all good, no problems! She doesn't care one bit, and looks at me as the same person. She doesn't treat me any differently, like I am freak or anything, so that made life a lot easier.


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