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Started by Ms Bev, October 07, 2008, 09:07:53 PM

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Ms Bev

Okay.  So here I am again.  Been a while since I've posted much on Susan's, especially since I've pretty much 'gotten on with life'.  But yup.  Here I am again.  No surprise, even to me that it's iin the PMS zone.
Well, you see, Marcy and I had his perfect day....kind of jam-packed with things to do, errands, etc.
So.  I'm in the grocery line, just being me.  Chit chat with the other women.  Nice warm smiles.  good feelings.  Marcy was off somewhere else, and the pretty cashier has a nice time exchanging pleasantries, when she says "I'm sorry what that guy said.  I hate ignorant people".  She said this loud enough for the man to hear.  I can tell she is really pissed.  Whatever was said, I didn't hear.
   "What guy?", I ask. 
   She glowered, and said, "The one behind me."
I look, and there are maybe 3 different guys, in the next checkout, and none are looking our way.
I shrugged, like it's no big deal.  The people there know we're partners, and we shop there all the time.  So, I just ignored it, and went about my business.  Except it followed me.  It followed me all the way home. What exactly did that ignorant guy say?  Why should I care.  I told Marcy that anyone who wants to say something ugly about us, or me, should say it to me, and own up to it.  So, anyway, why should I care.

Why do I care?



Bev
1.) If you're skating on thin ice, you might as well dance. 
Bev
2.) The more I talk to my married friends, the more I
     appreciate  having a wife.
Marcy
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Jay

Because we all do. We all care what other people say about us. We are fragile enough as it is without ignorant people making remarks about us!

*hug*

Just to say your picture is amazing you pass totally. You look extremly happy cooking with your little apprentice!


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Ms Bev

Thanks, Jay, scarboroughfair. 
Yes, I think it must be threatening somehow, for some men to not  have "access" to certain women....women who are not attracted to men.  Not that it should matter to most of them, anyway.  They're usually married.
Yeah, out of the kitchen, I clean up pretty well, and have had a few glances, stares, etc.  But the stares and glances that are most appreciated are the ones from other women, especially the like-minded ones ;)
You're right, Jay....no matter how "tough" our social exterior seems to be, some of the hurtful things still seep through to the inside, deep down in our hearts where we live.
I guess we all care.
1.) If you're skating on thin ice, you might as well dance. 
Bev
2.) The more I talk to my married friends, the more I
     appreciate  having a wife.
Marcy
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divatswun

well I also had a funny experience recently. I was getting on the bus, and the driver said to me, if your a man be a man" I deposited my money then politly smiled then went all the to the rear of the bus and sit. I turned my head to my right as if I were looking out the window, but was actually watching him in his rearview mirror. He couldn't tell cuz I had on sunglasses. What was funny was that he couldn't take his eyes off me the entire mile and a half trip. If I disgust him so thourougly, why stare? Anyways, if I ever decide to send myself on a permanante vacation, beleive me I'm going to take some of them with me.
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pennyjane

hi miss bev.  yes, ugly people say ugly things.  glad you didn't hear it, it's not worth listening to and it's certainly not worth thinking about later.  it's just some pathetic little man venting his frustrations about himself... or trying to impress his friends with typical macho stupidty. it has nothing to do with you.

i used to let myself get a little uneasy about being affectionate in public with annie, but i had to let that go...she's my wife, i love her...we're affectionate people...i'm sure comments get made, and some within hearing distance...but i don't hear them at all.

stop that talk about permanent vacations divatswun.  everyone of those kind on earth aren't worth one hair on your head.  poop on 'em.



Posted on: October 19, 2008, 07:45:50 pm
oh.....please indulge me...it might fit here....not long after my transition began annie and i were in wally world looking for a slip that fit me right.  we were poking around through them as this wierd man watched. <i think he was security...he was being very..."inconspicuous">  at any rate...at some point i became a little amused with him and decided to have a little fun....i snatched up a slip, held it up to me, straightened it down in the front, fit it over my <fake> boobies and asked annie what she thought...well loud enough for the guy to hear.  she nodded some approval....i jerked it away and hung it back up...."nah...i said....this thing is too long and ain't got nearly enough lace and ribbons on it for my taste!"

<giggle>  i'm awful sometimes.
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tekla

Because we all do. We all care what other people say about us. We are fragile enough as it is without ignorant people making remarks about us!


That's you, most of us just blow it off.
FIGHT APATHY!, or don't...
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