I'm alive

[scarboroughfair]

What a title huh? There is so much to say. I am finally coming out! The more I am on the outside, the more normal I feel.
I say to anyone coming out, do it slowly and never pressure yourself! It will come naturally.
How I did it, is I started with my eyebrows, then a month later I started wearing women's jeans, Then 5 months later started the beard removal process.
My opinion is, if you take it slow and make little changes at a time, it's a whole lot easier on you because you won't get as much flack!
I still got crap from people, but not as bad as it could have been thank god.
I call it "shock value"
If you suddenly show up as your true self at work, out in your neighbor hood within a week of being what you were physically born, you will shock the people that know you!
I have been called brave for coming out.
I don't think of it as being brave, I think of it as necessity to be alive as someone I am and not someone I'm not!
I couldn't stay in the closet if I tried! lol
I got a creative blog on all of this, but I'm new here and don't know how they feel about posting a link in the forums.
I'm not out 100% but I'm working on it! lol
My wifes side of the family just found out, this is going to be fun!
The most peculiar feeling I have never felt is, I'm not ashemed!
Before, I would have crawled in a hole and died if people knew I was a women on the inside! lol
Now, I plain don't care and am actually proud of myself for becoming comfortable enough to live in my own skin.
I got a take it or leave it attitude now, love me or hate me, I am myself!

[Lachlann]

Are you going to Scarborough Fair?
Parsley, sage, rosemary and thyme,
Remember me to one who lives there,
For she once was a true love of mine.

I think it depends on the person and the people around them. It might be easier for the people to adjust to you if you do it slowly like you say, but some people don't feel as though they can wait that long to just get everything started.

For me, I've always dressed in boys and mens clothing. However, it's more socially acceptable for a female to do that, but I came out to all of my immediate family and luckily they were all accepting of it. I count myself lucky for that. They want to know more about it, but that's just how things turned out for me. That worked out for me just fine, but what works for me doesn't work for everyone.

[Sarah Dreams]

I'm comin' out
I want the world to know
I got to let it show!
Congratulations! I envy you and praise you for *yes* your courage. It takes a great deal of it to overcome the fear of rejection and pain, both physical and emotional.

Keep on going!

[tekla]

Now, I plain don't care and am actually proud of myself for becoming comfortable enough to live in my own skin.
I got a take it or leave it attitude now, love me or hate me, I am myself!

Its the only thing that matters.  No matter who you are there will be people who will like you.  Really, even serial killers get married in jail - no sh*t - so there is hope for the rest of us.

I think, in the end, with all things being equal, an no one else making some big deal about it, most people really don't care one way or the other.

[tekla]

Most people don't want to be educated, and they know it.  So they resent it.

[NicholeW.]

You sound like a very good-hearted person, Scarborough. I think tekla is right about most people not wishing to be educfated and knowing that. Resentment seems to build-up in them.

To discover the courage to be one's self is always a brave thing, no matter who or what a person is. "Most [people] lead lives of quiet desperation," said Henry Thoreau. You've come to avoid that and that requires bravery. So much easier to sink more deeply into despond and anger.

All the best with your blogging. And come round lots. I think you'll find understanding here, and certainly support.

Nikki

[Jay]

I admire you!

[Robin_p]

Giggles, Thanks to whatever angel that is watching over you, hon!

You have arrived! Welcome....

Hold on becaues it is one interesting, emotionally charged ride!!!!!!!!

The way i see it Coming Out is an act of desperation,

Living the life...now that takes courage hon and you have it!!!!