I don't know what to DO with myself...

[trapthavok]

I don't know if I'm comfortable enough stating the entire problem here but at least I'm comfortable enough bringing it to you guys....

If you can't handle problems with sexual content, then you should probably just stop here.

I've heard T raises your libido? If so then I'm even MORE terrified to take it.

I'm already a virgin, already have a really high sex drive, and I'm one step away from breaking. I NEED to relieve myself NOW. NOW NOW NOW
I never thought it was possible for anyone to be this sexually focused, but any girl who enters my personal bubble I feel is in DANGER of me. So much so that it scares even me.

I can't stop thinking about it, and the more I do, the more I'm ready to just get down to it.

I need an f buddy man...I'm seriously past the point of being able to control myself and I'm seriously scared, so please don't take this thread lightly.

[icontact]

Dude.

Masturbation.

F.
T.
W.

[Dante]

Well, if you're already that bad, I wouldn't think T would make it any worse; there is a point that you reach where you can't get any worse, I guess. I've never taken T before, so I wouldn't know for sure.

[JonasCarminis]

well... that happens to me sometimes.  i just watch porn for like 6 hours and im set for like a month.  it just burns me out on anything sexual.

[findingreason]

It's pretty typical that T is blamed with sex-drive, and I could jump on agreeing with that.

But, I've read of people that started HRT and were in a much better position afterward, whether it be FtM or MtF.

I've been where you are a number of times where I've almost been ready to scream at the top of my lungs because of libido. If you haven't already, you might want to take freespeechz' suggestion. But if you're any chance like me, than you may not even want to do that.

[trapthavok]

I really really really don't want to masturbate. At all. I can't touch myself there, I'll throw up, I promise you. I think watching porn just exacerbated the problem for now. First time ever in fact.

[sneakersjay]

I'm right there with you, dude!

I've been celibate for > 3 years now and am crawling out of my skin.  Yeah, a gf would be nice, but it's like I'm not going out to meet someone just to f**k them, though I certainly feel like it!!!

I've always had a high drive too; now it's a bit more urgent when the urge hits.  I was afraid of T for this reason too, but my fears were unfounded.

You're not alone.


Jay

Posted on: October 22, 2008, 11:20:26 pm

I really really really don't want to masturbate. At all. I can't touch myself there, I'll throw up, I promise you. I think watching porn just exacerbated the problem for now. First time ever in fact.

You do NOT have to touch yourself there to masturbate.  Stick a sock in your pants and hump a pillow.  You have your packy?  Put it in place, powder it up, and jack off with it.  Use x-tube if you need some visuals.  Buy a cheap dildo, put it into position (as if it's yours!) and wank.  Get a strap on and f**k a pillow.

Sorry to be graphic.


Jay

Edited to add that I can't touch myself there either.  Well, I've tried and I can NOT get off touching myself at all.  Lately I've had some growth and figured I'd try again but nope.

[findingreason]

I was wondering if that was the case, cause I'm right there with you, coming from the opposite direction. I was even encouraged to do "that", and I always hated it, it just feels soooo wrong to masturbate.

[Nero]

T levels get credit for everything, but I too have an insane libido. So yeah, either get a friend for regular booty calls or jerk off. Believe me, once you get warmed up, you won't notice or care about your parts, just release. So watch or look at something that really does it for you, let the tension build a bit and ignore the discomfort till you're warmed up and in the middle of it and don't care.

If you don't find a way to release regularly, you're only torturing yourself. And why should you deprive yourself because you weren't born with a cock? It's not like we chose this, remember.

And if you won't do it yourself, do it for the safety of the females around you cause sounds as if you just might snap.

[alexkidd]

You do NOT have to touch yourself there to masturbate.  Stick a sock in your pants and hump a pillow.  You have your packy?  Put it in place, powder it up, and jack off with it.  Use x-tube if you need some visuals.  Buy a cheap dildo, put it into position (as if it's yours!) and wank.  Get a strap on and f**k a pillow.

I agree with Jay.

There is no way I would let anyone (or myself) touch me down there. But jerking off with my c**k is great. Like Jay said just position it as if its yours and the rest just follows 

I have a pretty high sex drive and this does the trick for me

[Jay]

There is no way I would let anyone (or myself) touch me down there

Im with you dude there! I have been on T 7 nearly 8 months now and I thought to myself before starting T christ Im going to be a manic with sex!!! As I had an extremly high sex drive could have sex anytime of the day. But since starting T it hasn't increased or decreased at all. Which is strange... I guess I was already at my limit!

[Luc]

Step 1: Go to the nearest adult store
Step 2: find a vibrator or two
Step 3: go home and lock the door.

Dude, even guys like myself who are married, or have a significant other, still have to masturbate on T. It's kind of a fact of life. I certainly wouldn't recommend a f*** buddy though; you'll end up regretting it later. Save your actual virginity for someone you actually care about, and take care of the rest yourself. That way, at least you'll know what you like once you do find someone to be with!

SD

[trapthavok]

Save your actual virginity for someone you actually care about, and take care of the rest yourself. That way, at least you'll know what you like once you do find someone to be with!

Lol I don't believe in putting first times on a platform like that. I put my first kiss on a platform like that years ago and boy was I disappointed. I feel like, I should only be getting BETTER to work toward the person I actually care about, practice makes perfect.

You do NOT have to touch yourself there to masturbate.  Stick a sock in your pants and hump a pillow.  You have your packy?  Put it in place, powder it up, and jack off with it.  Use x-tube if you need some visuals.  Buy a cheap dildo, put it into position (as if it's yours!) and wank.  Get a strap on and f**k a pillow.

I agree with Jay.

There is no way I would let anyone (or myself) touch me down there. But jerking off with my c**k is great. Like Jay said just position it as if its yours and the rest just follows 

I have a pretty high sex drive and this does the trick for me

You know I didn't know that could actually work. I'll try it next time, thanks Jay, Alex.

And if you won't do it yourself, do it for the safety of the females around you cause sounds as if you just might snap.

LOL exactly. I was afraid for my roommate's safety last night (doesn't help that we're both very comfortable invading each other's personal bubbles, she's HOT, and....celibate. ) I was VERY afraid for her.

[Godot]

Just find a way to release your tension. Masturbation or vibrator or something. A sex buddy would probably be the worst way because you'll probably be sorry later. Believe me, if you save your virginity for someone you care about, the sex will be a lot better and more meaningful (better in the sense of actually meaning something and not just sex that's just for the pleasure). My tension builds up too and what's annoying me is that masturbation is wearing off it's affect. If my tension got built up long enough I'd just masturbate and it would go away but now it just seems to still linger on. For some reason, I can still masturbate and not have the problem of not having a penis bother me. I guess my drive is just too high to not even care lol. But yeah...I know I suck at advice

[Aiden]

Yeh.  I think I was actually hoping my libido would rise a bit as it's kinda dull right now.  Except now think of it been masturbating since 5 so I have some libido just not comfortable with sex.  Sighs.   Hope you find a way and I might tke these suggestions as well since I can't seem to put my mind into pretending my clitoris is something else as well as used to.

[James-Alen]

*snuggles* I used to be the same way, grossed out and not wanting to touch it or see it but you know what? Yeah none of us want female genitalia, yeh for us it's gross but in reality, odds are you wont have it forever. I see it as just playing the card i was dealt. No harm in abusing the anatomy before you change it. Give yourself a good go, doesn't make you any less or more of a man than you already are and hey no one has to know.

[Benjamin]

I'm curious, is your concern about womens' safety more along the lines of simply hitting on too many women, and so they might not be comfortable around you.... or are you saying that you might go after someone against her will?  Please bear with me if I'm overreacting.  But in reading your opening to this discussion, it seems you're saying it's more serious than being only extremely horny.

Either way, it's great you're comfortable here and trust that people will support you.    Because they will! 

[trapthavok]

I'm curious, is your concern about womens' safety more along the lines of simply hitting on too many women, and so they might not be comfortable around you.... or are you saying that you might go after someone against her will?  Please bear with me if I'm overreacting.  But in reading your opening to this discussion, it seems you're saying it's more serious than being only extremely horny.

Either way, it's great you're comfortable here and trust that people will support you.    Because they will! 

Ummmmmmmmm the latter. I would definitely NOT want to go against a woman's will because I have the utmost respect for women, but the night I posted this, I was tickling my roommate, and almost took it somewhere else, hence I was scared I was going to do something against her will... It was practically to the point where I'd PASSED extreme hornyness and wanted to do it NOW.

[Benjamin]

Ummmmmmmmm the latter. I would definitely NOT want to go against a woman's will because I have the utmost respect for women, but the night I posted this, I was tickling my roommate, and almost took it somewhere else, hence I was scared I was going to do something against her will... It was practically to the point where I'd PASSED extreme hornyness and wanted to do it NOW.

Whew, ya -- that's horny.  It's cool you're talking about this. 

[trapthavok]

*snuggles* I used to be the same way, grossed out and not wanting to touch it or see it but you know what? Yeah none of us want female genitalia, yeh for us it's gross but in reality, odds are you wont have it forever. I see it as just playing the card i was dealt. No harm in abusing the anatomy before you change it. Give yourself a good go, doesn't make you any less or more of a man than you already are and hey no one has to know.

Really, if that was all it was for me (the whole, "I'm afraid it makes me less manly") then that would be fine. Seriously. If that's how I felt about my body, then this wouldn't be as much of a problem as it is. I would get over that quick. My problem is that I don't like LOOKING at it, I certainly don't like TOUCHING it, man...I remember the first time I tried to use my STP and I had to look and figure out where the catcher went, I was getting nauseated that I had to even do both of those things to get it to work.

I don't give a crap about not looking manly, it's seriously just my dysphoria. I might not mind someone else touching me as far as my clit goes, but nothing goes near my hole, and it looks really disgusting and out of place to me so I don't touch anything myself.




The dildo suggestions might work though, since I'm indirectly touching myself. So thanks for those guys.

Ummmmmmmmm the latter. I would definitely NOT want to go against a woman's will because I have the utmost respect for women, but the night I posted this, I was tickling my roommate, and almost took it somewhere else, hence I was scared I was going to do something against her will... It was practically to the point where I'd PASSED extreme hornyness and wanted to do it NOW.

Whew, ya -- that's horny.  It's cool you're talking about this. 

Eh I really had nowhere else to go til Wed at least (therapy day). Plus I was scared like I said :\