In terms of pubic hair, I'm almost bald. That would be a link to AIS which I have. However, we must be careful when comparing ourselves with other women. No doubt about it, females have different bones than males. Yet, your ethnicity also plays a major part on your bone structure. I refuse to compare myself to a woman that is not born with the same condition that I have. Even still, I will not compare myself to any woman because I am a woman. Sure, I have some differences. Yet, I understand and accept that not everyone can be Halle Barry. When I look in the mirror, I want to be pleased at seeing me, not what someone says a woman should look like.
Please do not take offense to this. But, for example, compare an African woman facial feature to those of a British woman and you will see that there are distinct differences some which may very well be considered male bone in British women genetics.
I've lived as a woman for 15 years now and it took me a very long time to stop looking at models and other transwomen wishing that I could look like them. Today, I'm a happy African Hebrew woman and would never consider changing my body structure to fit the image of what a woman is supposed to look like. As long as I can walk down the street and be treated as any other female, who cares that I don't look like Tyra Banks or have the body of Beyonce. As long as men still respect me and see me as any other female, who cares that my hands maybe bigger than Mariah Carey's hands. Are there other women like me, sure there are. I've met plenty in my 15 years as a woman. Are there women who look like men, sound like men and behave like men, sure there are, these too I have met.
Please my sisters, we are women in our own right. Look in the mirror and feel good about what you look like. If you can improve upon it, then do so. But, don't let your journey be based upon an image that makes someone else a unique female. You are unique. Embrace that uniqueness and move forward as a strong woman holding your head high.
For those that may still struggle with rather or not you "Pass" enough. Ask yourself one simple question, just who are you trying to become? Do you truly recognize the true woman in yourself? After all, this is why we are on this journey. You are unique. Work that uniqueness. We are given a gift. We are born of both genders. Not too many people have that gift or even know what to do with it. You can spend your life comparing yourself to other women or you can live your life being the woman you are. I choose the later.
