sharing feelings in an open and honest way is the best tool one has for a successful relationship. like tam tam i have a sneaking suspicion that your bf is doing a little vicarious searching on line. he is very likely figuring out his own feelings. a strong and compassionate woman can take that for what it probably is...experimenting.
i am not cd, but ts. i went through a period in my transtion where i found flirting impossible to squelch. i just had to flirt, not that i ever had any interest in anyone but my annie, but i had to experience what it was and how it felt. <blush> ok, i'm still a bit of a flirt and i like it. however; i do it in front of my annie and she has learned that it's just the way i am....i love people and i want to connect, flirting is just one way of doing just that. it's not hard to tell, the second my flirting begins to suggest something other then just what it is it gets cut off. not meanly or defensively, just takes a step back.
annie can't flirt...it doesn't work for her and the person she is, but she has learned that people can be different in their presentation and i don't believe my flirting bothers her at all anymore. i think that's because we never hid from it, or tried to make it anymore then just what it is...a woman finding herself at a time of life most women have long since done that. talk about it, teach each other about how it feels and you'll know where each is, where they're coming from and where they're going. God bless with...
