Another Pathetic Noob Asks: "Do you think I could be a pretty girl?"

[mtfbuckeye]

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[Nero]

yes. you have lovely skin, pretty eyes and nice hair. 

[TamTam]

I agree, you have wonderful eyes.

[Sephirah]

You definitely could, honey. I can actually picture it. Your eyes are very feminine, and once the beard is gone, give your cheekbones a bit more definition, a bit of eyeliner, softer features from HRT, longer hair... look out world, here she comes.

I highly doubt you have anything to worry about.

[Alyssa M.]

My advice?

Shave. But keep the hat!

Let's Go Red Sox!

Seriously, I'd say the answer is "yes" -- but it's hard to say before you give it a try.

[Ms Bev]

Mother works wonders with Her chemistry.  Yes, you have good potential for female face/features.  I think your cheeks will fill out nicely, your eyes are pretty, and you have good hair so far.

Your arms and legs will get much thinner, and your Adam's apple is not  too noticeable.  Nice small hands. 

What makes you think you're a girl??



Bev

[nathan]

Yep, I can see the girl in there.  You've got great eyes and all your hair still (lucky *!%!%^).  Heh.

[fluffy jorgen]

Oh wow, you so could. 
You're beautiful already. 

[iFindMeHere]

yes. you have lovely skin, pretty eyes and nice hair. 

x2 + lips

[iFindMeHere]

I  have a firm policy of only saying things I mean. I'm not being sweet, I'm being realistic.

[Ms Bev]

I can absolutely see the potential for a beautiful female face.  Many men have faces that could be wonderfully feminized.  The real question is, is that what you should do??
When you make changes, for instance with hrt, they are PERMANENT.  It's a thing you do because you must, not because you have some female qualities to your personality.
So, don't go into this lightly.  First and foremost, you need to see a good gender therapist, and have some testing done.  I know that lots of people will disagree with me, but most classic transsexuals felt like the wrong gender since the age of 3, 4, or 5 yrs old, and many of us have felt this way ever since. Others have repressed it until it bursts to the surface, and takes on a life of its own.


Not much room for error, though God knows, most of us make them in abundance.  I hope you find peace.

Bev

[iFindMeHere]

cool beans.

[Nero]

I don't want to bust up in your thread by any means, but I figured I want to ask the same question and I don't want to clutter the board with unnecessary posts.

Opinions?

go ahead and start your own thread, please.

[Stealthgrrl]

As others have said, you have nice skin and nice eyes. But I wonder why everything else about your pictures--the beard, the sports garb, the beer, the poses themselves--all scream "guy"?

[iFindMeHere]

stealth you never overcompensated? i know i did.

**EDIT**

Actually i am bothered by my own response here. It's pretty disrespectful.

• I have seen plenty of women who were into beer and/or sports
• Who are we to decide when someone should make which leap? People need to move at their own paces.
• It's not unreasonable to be careful in body language when one is not Out and there's a possibility that friends and family might see the photos

My apologies, ladies, especially buckeye.

[Stealthgrrl]

stealth you never overcompensated? i know i did.


**EDIT**

Actually i am bothered by my own response here. It's pretty disrespectful. I have seen plenty of women who were into beer and/or sports, so that part is not really overcompensating.

My apologies, ladies.

I did indeed, but all evidence has been destroyed. You'd have to pull out my fingernails to get me to flash a picture of my old self.

Please bear in mind, the person ASKED for reactions. That's mine.

PS--I forgot to say I thought the subject line was amusing. 

[iFindMeHere]

stealth you never overcompensated? i know i did.


**EDIT**

Actually i am bothered by my own response here. It's pretty disrespectful. I have seen plenty of women who were into beer and/or sports, so that part is not really overcompensating.

My apologies, ladies.

I did indeed, but all evidence has been destroyed. You'd have to pull out my fingernails to get me to flash a picture of my old self.

Please bear in mind, the person ASKED for reactions. That's mine.

PS--I forgot to say I thought the subject line was amusing. 

Hey Stealth, please check my (frther) edited post above... also, please understand i was bothered by my OWN labeling of overcompensation. I had no intent to judge your reaction, I apologise.

Man I'm stickin my foot in it!

oh--side note: i posed as the female people thought i was for the majority of my life so far. I wrestled with the photo issue and have realised that I can't take the person i appeared to be away from my friends and family so I must accept the pictures' presence. That was my conclusion anyway... grain of salt, ymmv etc.

[Stealthgrrl]

Aw poor FindMe. *passes the foot remover* 

[iFindMeHere]

Aw poor FindMe. *passes the foot remover* 

I appreciate your empathy as i fight to become the mature man i need to be.

[iFindMeHere]

Stealthgrrl,
I totally get where you are coming from... Part of my look/behavior now is probably "overcompensating," but most of it is me... After I transition, I'll probably still love sports and beer (and don't a lot of girls already?)... The bottom line is I'm still sorting things out, and I hope a therapist can help me with figuring out where I go from here.

Nothing wrong with being a bit of a tomboy, is there?

YES THIS. The entire point of exploring this is figuring out who YOU really are. Don't let anyone but you tell you who you ought to be.