What do you hate most about being a bio-guy

[Mina_Frostfall]

Definitely the worst thing about being a bio-guy is not being able to show your emotions. I tried so hard to suppress it that I became emotionally numb for a long time. I couldn't feel anything at all. Although my family now knows that I was depressed, I have still never told them specifically about the emotional numbness I had. It kept me from telling anyone about the problem because it was preventing me from even feeling love. I didn't want my family to know I didn't love them.  I often thought about killing myself, but I never told anyone even if they were trying to help me because I was worried that if I decided to go through with it, then they would stop me. I did try once, but thankfully I failed to even hurt myself. I stuck tweezers into an electrical outlet and caused the circuit breaker to go off.

I'm sorry I had to tell such a depressing story. I hope I didn't bother anyone with it. Just to make sure it's clear, I'm past all of that and I'm no longer thinking about suicide. 

[fwagodess]

Lots of things I hated as a man.

• Facial hair
• Body hair on my upper legs, upper arms, chest, and stomach
• Hated getting haircuts. My last haircut was 2002.
• Using the men's room as an M2F
• Having my ID card read "M" instead of "F"
• Asking a girl to go out on a date with me when I was in school (at times when my other relationships were on the rocks), and the girl says "no." This is still going on today in similar ways.
• Prone to trouble at school

Today, as an M2F... The Advantages I never had

• My hair has been growing and occasionally trimmed.
• Constantly epiliating, waxing, using Nair, etc. to remove body and facial hair, in addition to electrolysis.
• Some places allow me to use the women's room as an M2F
• In the event should Angela and I divorce, and find a gay woman (or F2M) to go out on a date with me, and the girl usually says "yes."

[placeholdername]

Worst things about being a bio-guy...

* Body hair, all of it.  I don't have as much as some but it's still a pain.  I love how I feel after I get rid of it, but it's back within days, *sigh*.

* Male expectations, specifically not conforming to them.  This has been an issue all my life -- for the most part I just don't like doing the things that guys do, or playing the role that guys are supposed to play.  I used to be able to say that at least I had video games to count me as male, but now everyone plays video games (even old people!).

* Lately, the stuff between my legs.  I'd read before that a lot of TG/TS people feel intense disgust towards theirs and I never felt that, but now that I'm looking at things from the practical standpoint (M => F) it's just in the way.

* Ugly man face.  I don't think I look that bad as a guy, but the more I picture how I want to look, the more frustrated I am with how I do look.  On the bright side, I didn't even know FFS was possible before, so hopefully I won't be stuck with it forever.

* Someone else said this, but boring man clothes.  They're so boring.

[Imadique]

Well apart from saying the whole package if there's just one thing I'd have to say the skeletal structure. Everything else I feel I can overcome, can't do anything about them bones though.

[Carolyn]

Everything that comes with the being a Bio-Male
except the anger part

[Hannah]

I think for me the most aweful thing is being expected to communicate through grunts. "'sup" "yo" ugh.

Physically speaking I would definitely vote body hair, especially in peculiar places like the back. I mean, seriously, gross.

[Constance]

Physically speaking I would definitely vote body hair, especially in peculiar places like the back. I mean, seriously, gross.

And, how to shave it? I trust my wife, but I'm not sure I want her shaving my back. But, I certainly don't trust myself to drag a razor across my own back. Sounds like a recipe for disaster.

[Pica Pica]

being distrusted by males and females.

[Nero]

being distrusted by males and females.

ya mean being seen as if you have ulterior motives?

[Pica Pica]

yes..  my presence implies a wish to compete or mate or control - but never to connect. Till we get talking, then people find themselves telling me things they don't tell anyone else... i've heard that so many times...Or is that something people say to create intimacy, that they've actually told loads of people and told each one they are the only one that knows?

[Nero]

yes..  my presence implies a wish to compete or mate or control - but never to connect. Till we get talking, then people find themselves telling me things they don't tell anyone else... i've heard that so many times...Or is that something people say to create intimacy, that they've actually told loads of people and told each one they are the only one that knows?

maybe. some do mean it when they say such things though.
the thing you hate is one thing i will miss after transition - right now because of my form, i can hug and comfort a strange child or lady in distress and not be seen as odd or dangerous for doing so.
... also i can come on to anyone (and often very strongly) without being seen as a threat or dirty. because i don't have the yoke of negative male stereotypes around my neck.

[placeholdername]

And, how to shave it? I trust my wife, but I'm not sure I want her shaving my back. But, I certainly don't trust myself to drag a razor across my own back. Sounds like a recipe for disaster.

I've done it for my lower back -- luckily I don't have upper back hair (gross!).  Lower back is pretty easy, the trick is to hold the razor by the cartridge end and not by the handle.

[Constance]

I've done it for my lower back -- luckily I don't have upper back hair (gross!).  Lower back is pretty easy, the trick is to hold the razor by the cartridge end and not by the handle.

Hmmm, I'll have to try that.

[Pica Pica]

maybe. some do mean it when they say such things though.
the thing you hate is one thing i will miss after transition - right now because of my form, i can hug and comfort a strange child or lady in distress and not be seen as odd or dangerous for doing so.
... also i can come on to anyone (and often very strongly) without being seen as a threat or dirty. because i don't have the yoke of negative male stereotypes around my neck.

whilst i can't even smile at a child/baby who is staring at me without provoking suspicion.

[Nero]

whilst i can't even smile at a child/baby who is staring at me without provoking suspicion.

yeah, that does suck. you look so sweet and gentle though.

[Pica Pica]

you look so sweet and gentle though.

the worst kind! 

[Constance]

the worst kind! 

It's always the quiet ones.

I was once asked if I was a pedophile while I was waiting to pick up my daughter at a bowling alley for a birthday party. And the word "pedophile" was the word used by the person asking me to account for my presence, as I was a man sitting near a group of 8th grade girls.

[tekla]

I'm sure he was worried about competition.

[Constance]

I'm sure he was worried about competition.

She, not he.

[Lacey Lynne]

Yes!  Totally agree!

All excellent replies.

I particulary agree with kelley - I am so jealous of the power of a beatiful woman and not being included in their nuturing friendships/clubs.

I also particulary agree with the the points made by Dana W, Kate and Leiandra - being treated like a typical masculine man when deep down you're not.