Email from my mom

[iFindMeHere]

Thanks Dennis... I think I may print your words out and stick them on my mirror (Is serious).

And Cindy---yup. She seems to always call when I'm feeling low. I learned not to answer So we now mostly email.

BUT SHE CALLED ME YESTERDAY AND WE TALKED FOR 20 MINUTES AND IT WAS MOSTLY GOOD! Shallow but that's fine.

[katherine]

I agree with Janet. There's a big "ME" all over that letter.  I was more fortunate with my mother, not so with the wife.  My therapist told me I have to live my life, not someone else's.  After so many years, I'm finally starting to move in that direction, again... She may not come around, doesn't sound like it.  You have to live your life.  By being your true self, living your own life and living well, you will be better able to love and support your daughter.  I'm sure your daughter will always love and respect who you are.

[vanna]

My therapist told me I have to live my life, not someone else's.  After so many years, I'm finally starting to move in that direction, again...

Very true words, holding that to my heart has kept me sane for the last 5 years and got me through some very tough parental moments and accusations.

I really hope it works out fine hunny, the shallow talk is a great start though even if you're not dealing with your bigger issues that you might rather discuss your mum is just feeling her way back into your relationship and that can only be a good thing.

[iFindMeHere]

I agree with Janet. There's a big "ME" all over that letter ... By being your true self, living your own life and living well, you will be better able to love and support your daughter.  I'm sure your daughter will always love and respect who you are.

Yep Yep. When one is a parent, suicide is not an option--or i'd be dead already.

[Vexing]

On the bright side, at least she didn't threaten you.
That's quite a common (and desperate) tactic.
I know it's a cliché, but...
Things could be worse.

[iFindMeHere]

On the bright side, at least she didn't threaten you.
That's quite a common (and desperate) tactic.
I know it's a cliché, but...
Things could be worse.

Yes, all of this is true. I'm pretty ok about it.