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my sister is being an ->-bleeped-<-

Started by Jeatyn, December 07, 2008, 08:22:56 AM

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Jeatyn

In a nutshell, she doesn't think I should even consider dating in "my condition"

I have a friend who's helped me through all my gender confusion, helped me come out to my family, hell, even bought me stuff to make a chest binder with - who recently developed in to more than just friends.

He likes me, I like him, he knows exactly what I'm doing and exactly what's going to happen once I go on HRT and get surgery. He doesn't care, he likes me for who I am, not what my body looks like.

My sister doesn't get this at all. She says I'm going to ruin his life. She keeps saying she's supportive and understanding of what's going on with me but that I shouldn't "take him down with me"

Take him down? I'm not planning an armed robbery and roping him in to helping for christ sake. There's nothing about this that's "down" in any way. I'm much happier now. Pretending I don't have gender issues and dating somebody as a girl would be much worse because I'd be ->-bleeped-<-ing miserable and who wants a partner like that?

She's pretty much forbidding me to see him "for his own good" and I don't know what to say to her.
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lady amarant

Short answer to what to say to her:
"Mind your own damn business."

Long answer:
You and your prospective boyfriend are both honest and open in this relationship, right? Both or you know what's coming, no illusions. You both know where you stand with each other. So again, tell her that this has nothing to do with her. That you will take her advice into account, and that you know she's only concerned for you and for him, but that ultimately it is not up to her. If she can't respect that, I can't see what she can really do to stop it.

~Simone.
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Jeatyn

I told her surely she should be happy for me, I found a guy who's not like "omg you're becoming a dude?!"

My previous boyfriend broke up with me once I came out. I definitely thought that was going to be it for a long while, while I was still "in between" I thought it'd be insanely hard to date anyone.

I live with her, he's no longer allowed to come over to my house. It was fine while we were just friends but she refuses to let him in any more and thinks I should break it off with him.
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Jeatyn

It's long distance, if he lived closer I'd be like yeah so what if he can't come over, we can still hang out.

His parents don't approve either so I can't go to his

Taking a 3 hour journey for a few hours of hanging out is gonna get hella expensive  :P
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lady amarant

Don't he or you have friends in your respecitve areas where the other might be allowed to crash occasionally?

~Simone.
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justme

maybe you both could get a place together.
it doesnt matter if his family approves or your sister approves as long as you 2 are both happy with it and you both know what is going to happen in the future and you both can accept it.
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Jeatyn

I do, but his parents don't want him to stay over with me.

I'm gonna have to travel to him, get a hotel for a night or two, we can see each other during the day and then he can go home to sleep.

Neither of us have a job at the moment, which makes even this plan really difficult because of money.

Bloody parents/sisters :P This feels so very Romeo and Juliet  ::)
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Alyx.

If you do not agree to my demands... TOO LATE
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Jeatyn

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Jay

Quote from: lady amarant on December 07, 2008, 08:29:27 AM
Short answer to what to say to her:
"Mind your own damn business."


Short and sweet and to the point. Thats what I would say.


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