@Nichole_M, *hugs* I'm sorry for your loss.
QuoteI feel often that people hide behind the saying "I was born this way, I had no choice", as a way of not taking responsibilty for where they are in life.
I think it's a good idea to point out that this thread was about empowerment, not choosing to be transgendered. I was thoroughly confused reading through this whole thread. In my opinion, it was badly worded, so let's try to be clearer in what we're saying when we start threads that may be controversial.
Having said that, I agree that not letting your circumstances control you is important. But it's extremely difficult to empower yourself
all by yourself. That's sort of the point with forums like these.
Quoteby claiming you had no choice disempowers you and you can just wallow in the place that you are at, basically be apathetic and going no where.
I actually disagree with this. There is a difference between saying, "I have no choice" and wallowing in it and accepting that 'this is how it is' and moving on. I didn't have a choice in being androgyne. And I'm okay with that. That's the difference. Drowning yourself in despair and constantly saying, "why me?" is quite dangerous and harmful. I just think this part is more about acceptance than choice.
Just for future reference, I think a topic like this should be approached differently. Instead of trying to spark a debate, come at it from a positive approach or pose your thoughts in the form of a question. The first post seems a little confrontational to me and it really isn't a controversial subject. Perhaps you could have told your story and explained to us how you embraced your circumstances. Understanding what you were asking, I just don't see why it needed to be such a heated topic or why you felt you might go down in flames.