The Frustrations of Androgynehood.

[Ari_91]

Sometimes I'm not sure if I even fit in anywhere. I get offended whenever someone says I'm 'cute' or 'a lady', even though sometimes I just give up and act in the feminine way I've acted most of my life. I don't go out of my way to act masculine, but I'm pleased whenever someone says I look like a guy, or accidentally refers to me as 'him'. Basically I don't try to act halfway, or stick to any stereotypes but avoid others; I just act like myself and don't care if I'm he, she, or ze.

[Jaimey]

"Knowing the molecular make up of a snow flake is of no comfort when you are buried in an avalanche."

I like that.  I think I'll use it.

I don't think the trans group I'm a member of has quite figured me out yet, but I've volunteered to be a moderator and for our correspondence team.  Exciting. 

[RebeccaFog]

regular normal T's are thrown off by us.   

[Jaimey]

heh.  Personally, I think the straight and completely normal lady who comes would be weirder, but then again, she's a Mary Kay consultant...

[RebeccaFog]

Come to think of it, I had some meetings where there was one normal straight person (by 'normal', I mean - not a serial killer) and the other people were gay and trans.

It worked out, but it must be weird for a hetero-nontrans to have to listen to the complete opposite of everything they ever learned and lived be discussed by the rest of us.

[Pneumonica]

Since I've never carried a gender identity (well, I schlepped one around for a while, but it didn't fit right), one of my biggest issues was simply not thinking like other people.  In terms of social intelligence, the androgynous have the advantage of being able to look from outside the box, but have the disadvantage of not being in the box.

Also, knowing my body will never quite fit my soul.  That's a bit of it right there.  If I could do a Ranma 1/2 thing, that'd be cool - I mean, if I'm going to be tethered to something that just isn't me, I might as well be able to choose for the moment.  A woman's body might not be any better than a man's body, but it certainly breaks the 29 years of tedium.

[RebeccaFog]

I use the trans prefix to also represent 'transcendent'

whatever it is that is me, transcends it's miserable packaging.

[Pica Pica]

mmm, yeah, if i could have lived half and half - i'd like to live up to 35 as a woman and to 70 as a man. i like that.

[Pneumonica]

Oh... and having people totally ignore your gender choice.  Not like people who don't care (there are lots of people who don't care if you're a guy, a girl, or a 13,141^st gender polyp, you're just a nice person and that's all that matters to them).  I mean people for whom it really matters, and they totally ignore it, until they step on it and then get all indignant when you don't fall into their stickperson mentality.

Then again, I'm repeating my introduction post now.  lol

[Jemma]

I use the trans prefix to also represent 'transcendent'

whatever it is that is me, transcends it's miserable packaging.

Great way of thinking of it!

[Jaimey]

I use the trans prefix to also represent 'transcendent'

whatever it is that is me, transcends it's miserable packaging.

Nice. 

I've actually been feeling rather feminine lately...and I don't like it.  It's weird...I think it's a maternal thing, all the mom's boyfriend drama with my little bro (who is staying with me for a week and has become my shadow...) made me go a little 'mama wolf'.  Very, very weird...I don't have the urge to wear dresses and get all dolled up or anything...I just feel...weird.  I'll be glad when it goes away...

one of my biggest issues was simply not thinking like other people.  In terms of social intelligence, the androgynous have the advantage of being able to look from outside the box, but have the disadvantage of not being in the box.

Indeed.  My feelings exactly.

[RebeccaFog]

Lately, I identify as a lump.         

[Jaimey]

And what a lovely lump you are. 

[RebeccaFog]

Why, Thank you!   

[Jaimey]

You're very welcome. 

[Eva Marie]

Lately, I identify as a lump.         

Lump sat alone in a boggy marsh
Totally motionless except for her heart
Mud flowed up into lumps pyjammas
She totally confused all the passing piranhas
Shes lump shes lump
Shes in my head
Shes lump shes lump shes lump
She might be dead
Lump lingered last in line for brains
And the ones she got were sorta rotten and insane
Small things so sad that birds could land
Is lump fast asleep or rockin out with the band

(sorry, this song went thru my head when I read that LOL....)

[Pneumonica]

Lately, I identify as a lump.         

Does that mean that if we're bad we get you for Christmas?   

[Kinkly]

Lately, I identify as a lump.         

Lump sat alone in a boggy marsh
Totally motionless except for her heart
Mud flowed up into lumps pyjammas
She totally confused all the passing piranhas
Shes lump shes lump
Shes in my head
Shes lump shes lump shes lump
She might be dead
Lump lingered last in line for brains
And the ones she got were sorta rotten and insane
Small things so sad that birds could land
Is lump fast asleep or rockin out with the band

(sorry, this song went thru my head when I read that LOL....)

Is that the real version I only know the Weird Al version "Gump"

[Eva Marie]

Lately, I identify as a lump.         

Lump sat alone in a boggy marsh
Totally motionless except for her heart
Mud flowed up into lumps pyjammas
She totally confused all the passing piranhas
Shes lump shes lump
Shes in my head
Shes lump shes lump shes lump
She might be dead
Lump lingered last in line for brains
And the ones she got were sorta rotten and insane
Small things so sad that birds could land
Is lump fast asleep or rockin out with the band

(sorry, this song went thru my head when I read that LOL....)

Is that the real version I only know the Weird Al version "Gump"

yes. I didn't know that there was a weird al version.

<--heads to youtube

[RebeccaFog]

Lately, I identify as a lump.         

Lump sat alone in a boggy marsh
Totally motionless except for her heart
Mud flowed up into lumps pyjammas
She totally confused all the passing piranhas
Shes lump shes lump
Shes in my head
Shes lump shes lump shes lump
She might be dead
Lump lingered last in line for brains
And the ones she got were sorta rotten and insane
Small things so sad that birds could land
Is lump fast asleep or rockin out with the band

(sorry, this song went thru my head when I read that LOL....)

darn. Now it's stuck in my head.

Lately, I identify as a lump.         

Does that mean that if we're bad we get you for Christmas?   

You get stuck with me whether you are good or bad.