If you are FTM would you want to be pregnant?

[myles]

Already have kids (adoption) and just couldn't wouldn't do it for so many reasons.
Myles

[krptcmschfmkr128]

My FTM so and I have already decided I get to carry the kids. Wheeeee! *cough* No, really, I want kids. I like the idea of giving him a family. But the idea of birthing scares the crap outta me.


Slightly OT, but I don't think there really is a "better" way to open up someone more for that, unless they gave everyone a C-section. S'not like the doctors can make the walls stretch beyond their means, or shrink the babies (Though that would be nice. Bear-type birth anyone?)

[Nero]

what's a bear type birth?

[krptcmschfmkr128]

Lol supposedly bears give birth in their sleep during winter hibernation to small cubs.  (I heard that when I was younger, but it's probably false). I do know that black bears give birth to EXTREMELY small babies, so that's gotta make it easier.

[V M]

I've always had a fascination and somewhat of a jealousy with pregnant women. I'd go for it in a heart beat. Prob. with a donor though 

[Sophie90]

Lol supposedly bears give birth in their sleep during winter hibernation to small cubs.  (I heard that when I was younger, but it's probably false). I do know that black bears give birth to EXTREMELY small babies, so that's gotta make it easier.

Yeah, that's true.
It was on QI.

But even that would be too much for me. :p

[Luc]

Um, hmm, let me think about this one... no thank you. I had a developmental psych professor who briefed our class on all the wonderful things that go on in a "woman's" body during and directly after pregnancy... count me out. In America, even after one has gone through all the influxes of feminizing hormones, the baby's head pressing against organs and bones so hard that it can displace things permanently, and the risk of all sorts of latent diseases coming to light, common procedure on the birthing table is a pre-delivery enema, lest you soil yourself, and a requisite episiotomy (the scissor part). No thank you.

I always figured I'd adopt kids... I don't really care if my children are genetically mine, as I figure any child I welcome into my home will be loved without question. My wife, however, wants at least one of our own genetic makeup... so I insisted on surrogacy. Yes, it'll take awhile before we're able to do that financially, if it happens at all, but I just can't take the risk of carrying one of my own.

However... if I were to accidentally become pregnant, abortion is ABSOLUTELY NOT an option for me. So while I certainly don't want to be pregnant, I'd do it were it forced upon me. Fortunately, however, I'm back on T now, so I don't think that'll be a problem.

SD

[Miniar]

the baby's head pressing against organs and bones so hard that it can displace things permanently

This little thing is often forgotten in the anti abortion debate.
It takes the body 6 years to get everything back into place that will go back into place.
It's been 7 and a half years since I had my daughter and there's still an inch gap down the middle of my abs.. as in, my abs on the left and the right have parted from one another and not come together again properly again... They might Never come together properly again.

[Nero]

This little thing is often forgotten in the anti abortion debate.
It takes the body 6 years to get everything back into place that will go back into place.
It's been 7 and a half years since I had my daughter and there's still an inch gap down the middle of my abs.. as in, my abs on the left and the right have parted from one another and not come together again properly again... They might Never come together properly again.

omg! that's from the baby's head? wow, i never heard of any of this.

[Mister]

Um, hmm, let me think about this one... no thank you. I had a developmental psych professor who briefed our class on all the wonderful things that go on in a "woman's" body during and directly after pregnancy... count me out. In America, even after one has gone through all the influxes of feminizing hormones, the baby's head pressing against organs and bones so hard that it can displace things permanently, and the risk of all sorts of latent diseases coming to light, common procedure on the birthing table is a pre-delivery enema, lest you soil yourself, and a requisite episiotomy (the scissor part). No thank you.

I always figured I'd adopt kids... I don't really care if my children are genetically mine, as I figure any child I welcome into my home will be loved without question. My wife, however, wants at least one of our own genetic makeup... so I insisted on surrogacy. Yes, it'll take awhile before we're able to do that financially, if it happens at all, but I just can't take the risk of carrying one of my own.

However... if I were to accidentally become pregnant, abortion is ABSOLUTELY NOT an option for me. So while I certainly don't want to be pregnant, I'd do it were it forced upon me. Fortunately, however, I'm back on T now, so I don't think that'll be a problem.

SD

i thought you wanted to carry a kid, oh, last week?

[Luc]

Okay, dude, I realize you're trying to ruffle everyone's feathers lately, and you've got a special place in your heart for me, but read over what I actually said before you start with the accusations:

https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,55916.0.html

I said I almost thought about it, but didn't want to even think about what it might do to my body. And please, let's not get back into the whole testosterone and ova discussion.

SD

[Mister]

Okay, dude, I realize you're trying to ruffle everyone's feathers lately, and you've got a special place in your heart for me, but read over what I actually said before you start with the accusations:

https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,55916.0.html

I said I almost thought about it, but didn't want to even think about what it might do to my body. And please, let's not get back into the whole testosterone and ova discussion.

SD

I will add you to the list of folks who clearly misread every single thing I type.  So far there's two of you on it so at least you'll have someone to compare notes with.

And, also, I have a life outside of the internet.  I knew that children and your eggs were involved, excuse me for not having one zillion percent accuracy.

[Luc]

And, also, I have a life outside of the internet.  I knew that children and your eggs were involved, excuse me for not having one zillion percent accuracy.

You do? For someone who's so preoccupied with reality, you certainly seem to get pretty up in arms about what people say on these forums. And if you're trying to steer clear of groupthink, you might not want to sound so much like Big Brother.

SD

[Mister]

You do? For someone who's so preoccupied with reality, you certainly seem to get pretty up in arms about what people say on these forums. And if you're trying to steer clear of groupthink, you might not want to sound so much like Big Brother.

SD

up in arms?  again, misinterpretation.  i'll fedex you a decoder ring. 

big brother sounds much more official than i do.  they don't use words like 'dude' or 'hrmph.'

[NicholeW.]

Hmm, prolly misreading again, but could you two just allow each other to go your separate ways, please? Maybe before this escalates? Thank you.

Nichole

[Mister]

Hmm, prolly misreading again, but could you two just allow each other to go your separate ways, please? Maybe before this escalates? Thank you.

Nichole

i asked a question.  dude's got his boxers in a bunch.

[NicholeW.]

Ok, neither of you is at fault. But occasionally just a bit of compliance rather than the "I am not doing anything" would be a good idea.

At the risk of being Big Sister I have locked the topic. Since we are gonna play the "I'm innocent" game I'll take the guilt instead.

Try to cool it guys. Thank you. I'll unlock in the morning after I return. Have a great night.

Nichole

[JoshuaDavid]

Nope. My girl and I have decided we don't want children, (she is 15 years older than I and already has a 22 yo son that's like a useless teen anyway) .... if the mood changes and we want children, I am a big fan of adoption. My mother was adopted and I am so greatful for my wonderful grandparents adopting her. Going through this transition to mle, dealing with surgeries, discrimination, legal issues, and the wonderful and not so winderful side effects of T ... I couldn't imagine taking a step backwards towards womanhood and bearing children. I have nothing against FTM's that do get pregnant, but as for me ... I was a woman, now I am a man. Despite what I may or may not have between my thighs, I am a man ... no questions about that one. LOL

[Nathan.]

No way. If I want kids i'll adopt I couldn't stand having a baby inside me, women give birth men don't.

[Jonny]

I would like to adopt as my number one choice, though if my significant other REALLY wanted to have a biological baby it would only happen through a surrogate. No pregnancies for me!