If you are FTM would you want to be pregnant?

[Jamie]

I love kids, and I would like to be a father!
Right now, if it's possible... 
I'm ready! 

But to be pregnant? Hell no!
I think I would freak out...

[Vancha]

I have to second the desire to be a father, and not a mother.  I was always disturbed by the concept of being a mother, but when I was in a serious relationship a while back, our discussions about children (and I as a father) always left me feeling floaty.  The concept of being a father made me happy, but it does pain me that I can't "donate" my own sperm.  I could never be pregnant.

[Nero]

The concept of being a father made me happy, but it does pain me that I can't "donate" my own sperm. 

I feel you there. Sucks.

[paxcow]

I could never be pregnent, the idea freaks me out too much. And at the moment, I don't want kids. If I change my mind, I'll adopt.

[Miniar]

with all the orphans the world has to offer... there's alway adoptions

[perfectisolation]

No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, NO, NO, NO, NO, NO, NO, NO, NO, NO, NO, NO.

[Buffy]

No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, NO, NO, NO, NO, NO, NO, NO, NO, NO, NO, NO.

So you are fairly undecided Northy?

[Suzanne]

Would I like to be pregnant?  Yes. Not just a woman but female and all that means, the whole nine yards.

[LordKAT]

Have 4 natural kids, set of twins even. Never again.

[BlueAndYellow]

Well, being a father would be cool, I hope I will adopt some children later in my life. Having my own kids would have been great as well, but as I never wanted to be pregnant while I could have been (and now that's absolutely no question for me), I'll never have my own children...

[Alyx.]

o.o;

Wow, this thread makes me glad to be trans. All the trouble of being pregnant, and monthly pain... It's like god invented genitals to torture people.

I mean, the penis has painful erections at awkward moments, not to mention it's just WEIRD.

[Autumn]

This little thing is often forgotten in the anti abortion debate.
It takes the body 6 years to get everything back into place that will go back into place.
It's been 7 and a half years since I had my daughter and there's still an inch gap down the middle of my abs.. as in, my abs on the left and the right have parted from one another and not come together again properly again... They might Never come together properly again.

Yeah, a lady I sat next to in class a year ago had this problem. Time and ab exercises have reduced the gap but not all the way. It's awful. 

[finewine]

My ex-wife asked me yesterday "what happens if your gf decides she wants kids?"

I smiled and said "nah, that won't happen"

She replied: "Are you sure?  Maybe she says she doesn't want them now but you never know later!"

I just said "yeah you're right, we'll see!"

(Ironically, in this context, she is on the contraceptive pill)

[Nygeel]

I want kids really badly...and I want kids that are biologically part of me. I just don't want to give birth. So far I've heard a lot of people push against what I plan/hope to do and say that adoption is much better and what I should do.

[finewine]

Unless you can rapidly evolve a capability for herbaceous propagation, yes - adoption or cloning are the only alternatives to natural birth (assuming you've discounted caesarian?)...and only one of them is a viable option (right now).

[Nygeel]

Unless you can rapidly evolve a capability for herbaceous propagation, yes - adoption or cloning are the only alternatives to natural birth (assuming you've discounted caesarian?)...and only one of them is a viable option (right now).

Surrogate is another option.

[finewine]

Surrogate is another option

Yes, you're right - I confess I had mentally lumped that in with "adoption".

[Thorndrop]

I never wanted kids as either the mother or father, but I totally agree with you that the thought of having a baby inside me just freaks me out. 

[GamerJames]

I gave birth to two (large - almost 10lbs each) babies, five years apart. Both were overdue, both were induced, both were 20+ hr labours, with one I had tearing and with the other I had a large episiotomy (four full-length snips of the scissors - "third-degree mediolateral"). Those of you who mentioned the horrible things childbearing does to the body, you are *absolutely* correct. And that's not even counting my two miscarriages.

At the time it was part of the "try to do good in this 'woman' role" thing... That being said, I'm so glad that I have my daughters, they are the light in my life, the anchor that rights my keel in difficult times, and they absolutely challenge me and produce growth in me as a person. Plus, I love the heck outta those kiddos, and don't even want to imagine my life without them. 

Would I ever do it again? Parent a child, absolutely. Carry and deliver one, not on your life. Which I had decided a couple years even before I had come out to myself as trans. Even with my ex-fianceé, at which time I identified as a lesbian, I absolutely wanted to be the "father" side of the parenting partnership, and even went so far as expressing to her how I wanted to inseminate her with donated sperm and a strap-on rigged with a catheter to get the most "natural" experience possible. I also expressed disappointment that I didn't have my own sperm to use in the process. (Um, *how* did I not figure this out sooner?? lol)

For future, would I still want more children? Maybe one more as long as I'm not the one bearing that child, and again, I'd like to use the jerry-rigged-strap-on method mentioned above. I'd be happy emotionally with adoption, but I just don't see myself ever being able to afford adoption (especially not within my child-raising years). That's the same reason that I don't think in vitro (for my partner) or sperm-bank sperm would work (known-donor would be preferable anyhow), but I'd probably be happy to consider surrogacy (though I'm not sure what the involved costs would be).

[Nero]

I gave birth to two (large - almost 10lbs each) babies, five years apart. Both were overdue, both were induced, both were 20+ hr labours, with one I had tearing and with the other I had a large episiotomy (four full-length snips of the scissors - "third-degree mediolateral"). Those of you who mentioned the horrible things childbearing does to the body, you are *absolutely* correct. And that's not even counting my two miscarriages.

Ouch!