If you are FTM would you want to be pregnant?

[~RoadToTrista~]

Ugh, all your uteruses are going to waste. Someone donate theirs to me. >.>

[ajborelli]

^ you can have mine, i swear having your period is the worse thing in the world.
my opinion on this is i never want to be pregnant, i am a man and men dont get pregnant thats how i see it. i want nothing to do with my lady parts so why would i do something that only women can do.

[nico_nico]

I always disassociated myself with the word 'pregnant' or 'pregnancy'. Knew it would never happen, and used to believe with all my heart that it was impossible for it to happen because my body wasn't 'built that way'. It took one doctor to say that 'I could not take this medicine if I was to become pregnant' for me to actually hate the word. I knew he meant no wrong by it but that really struck a chord with me. All in all, I'm going to say noooooooooooo.

Edit: I've been picking around through all the older posts and realized how many guys want to be fathers of biological children but not necessarily get pregnant and I realized I read an article not too long ago that kind of can ease some spirits. http://www.independent.co.uk/news/science/the-prospect-of-allfemale-conception-444464.html [I'm not sure if this has been posted before, sorry if it has]

[mm]

ajborelli, periods are my dysphoria for at least 2 days every month.  Men don't leak bleed from there crotch every month.  I try to put a tampon in and forget it is even happening again.  I want no part in getting pregnant.  Want to get those extra internal parts removed when I can.

[ajborelli]

ajborelli, periods are my dysphoria for at least 2 days every month.  Men don't leak bleed from there crotch every month.  I try to put a tampon in and forget it is even happening again.  I want no part in getting pregnant.  Want to get those extra internal parts removed when I can.

i agree with you completely, i hate the blood. i think having my period is worse than having a chest.

[Taka]

i've been pregnant once, and it was wonderful. my hormone levels flattened out at a point where i could really feel good about life and everything, my period was gone, i got more in touch with myself than i'd ever been before. pretty much everything i hate about being a woman disappeared, except for the obvious feminine shape. giving birth took 5 hours from start to end, with only 3 hours of severe pain. i got an adorable daughter, 2 stitches, a few stretch marks, and a perfect a on the exam i had the day after. i need to thank my parents for good genes..

but this is not a thing i plan on repeating unless i find the perfect marriage partner, and that person happens to be someone who both really wants children of their own and can inseminate me. i'm not sure if my reluctance to do it again is caused by me being too much of a man, or if it's because i'm not woman enough to want to ever use my vagina again during intercourse

anyway, there's no reason for a man to become anything other than a dad, even if he bears and gives birth to his own child. pregnancy doesn't make you any more of a woman at all. after i finished it i was less of one than i'd ever been before

[Silas]

While I'm somewhat okay with other people of any sex/gender getting pregnant and having babies, for me it just seems so disgusting.

There are WAY too many kids in foster care who never get adopted because people use the system because abortion is "wrong" and everyone's obsessed with giving birth to the next Abraham Lincoln or MLK (frankly, I'd be a little startled if I gave birth to a full grown man with a beard and top hat) -- but why not raise one?

I'm adopting kids. But carrying my own? Gross and unnecessary.

[mm]

Explorer was this pregnancy planned?  How long ago was it? Is the sperm donor still around?  I think of all the things I don't like about having a baby.  The whole process of getting pregnant turns me off. Then your hormones change continually for 9 months, along with your body growing a large tummy and boobs, then stretch marks afterwards.  The whole birthing process sounds long and painful. Then you are responseable for raising the child.  No periods for 9 months is a only plus I see.

[Taka]

the process of getting pregnant and the new softness in your body are the only things i see as turn-offs. my hormones didn't change much at all, it was such a nice break from the emotional roller-coaster caused by hormone changes due to the menstrual cycle. my stomach didn't even get very big, because of well developed hips and possibly that i was pretty young (18-19). and you can get stretch marks without getting pregnant too. giving birth was in some way less painful than the monthly cramps, because giving birth is something that is over when it's over. but as i already wrote, it didn't take much time for me, other people will experience much more severe pain and suffering than i did

the pregnancy was kinda planned in my case. i was pretty desperate to grow up and become a good woman, no idea what i expected to come if i managed that though.. as soon as i'd become a mom i realized how wrong both the relationship with my boyfriend and me trying to be a woman really was. only reason i won't totally refuse to get pregnant again is that i know my body can handle it very well

[dmx]

F**K NO!!!!! I would die!!!!!

[Hadrian]

Nothing is going in or coming out of that hole.

Exactly. Their are plenty of children that need a home, but I wouldn't judge ftms that would put their bodies thru that, if you can handle that, kudos.

[ajborelli]

Exactly. Their are plenty of children that need a home, but I wouldn't judge ftms that would put their bodies thru that, if you can handle that, kudos.

if an ftm really wants to have a kid go for it, but to me it is a womens thing. so i will adopt haha.

[Renton]

I would never do such a thing. This is probably offensive to some, but I've always found pregnancy to be disgusting, regardless of who the person is.
I guess I'm similar to Silas in a way-- I'd prefer people to adopt rather than bring more children into the world, but I guess it's just a bit idealistic, since most children aren't planned, anyway.

Though, if someone truly wants to have a kid and go through pregnancy (FtM or not), so be it. Life is too short, I'm not one to dictate what others do with their lives, especially if it makes them happy.

[bojangles]

No, no, no ,no, no, no, no. noooooooo!!!!!!

[Keaira]

I just dont understand the guys who do end up having a baby AFTER transition. I mean doesn't that kind of defeat the purpose of transitioning?

[~RoadToTrista~]

Not if you want bio-babies.

[Silas]

I just dont understand the guys who do end up having a baby AFTER transition. I mean doesn't that kind of defeat the purpose of transitioning?

Not necessarily. Like Trista said, some just want bio-kids, but I guess didn't want to wait so long before starting hrt. Or they realize a bit late they'd like kids. I always thought it was a bit easier to pass a pregnancy bump off as a beer belly / fatness with a more masculine appearance, so I guess it could be a passing thing. I don't really know. I know the Thomas Beatie guy carried his kids because his wife couldn't. Or maybe some people just want to feel pregnancy.

I don't know, really. I don't understand the need to have biological children in the first place, so I can't really get the thought process. My mom freaks out with me because she says I might change my mind and want kids, but it's mostly her wanting grandkids. She lucked out with an asexual daughter and a gay son who are both extremely annoyed with overpopulation. She once told me that us adopting wouldn't be the same as "having real kids". While I disagree with the notion adopted kids are any less one's real children than blood-relateds, some people do think this and it could be one deciding factor in carrying a kid after/during transition.

(Since my sister's biological father adopted me and my bio-dad has no idea I exist, my sister once joked I was only half real. XD)

[~RoadToTrista~]

I understand how your mom feels. Adopting children wouldn't be the same. I want my child to be a part of me, and I also want them to be biologically related to my family, which I'm close to, and I definitely want lots of grandkids who also have the same connection. It's hard to explain, but it's not such a bad thing to want.

If you guys were my kids, I would be really disappointed that you only wanted to adopt, lol

[Natkat]

I dont mind other men or women doing it and I dont feel it make a trans less to get a baby, if cis-gender guys really wanted a baby and had the same oportunety there sure woud be some to do it..

for me it really no go...

once i where little some kids told me I where pragnent because I had layed in bed with a boy and kissed (with undiess), and I got so scared and sad that I didnt knew what to do.
of corse I wasnt pragnent becaus I where way to young for that to even happening but it still freaking me out and I knew if it happent today I would be as much freaked out as when I where a kid.
pretty much everything about it freak me out, being pragnent, attentions, giving birth, taking cares of a baby.. I also think I wouldnt be a good father by the moment because of my age and my life isnt setteled for having a famely (well at least not yet).
and even by other pragnent people I feel diffrent because many people getting pregnent got congratuated and lot of attention and I always stay 2 meters back thinking..
"its a alien.. inside her stomack!!! " try not to say anything to be rude, but yeah that how my brain goes..

the sad thing is I like guys so there is a risk for me to get pregnant,
sure testrogene minimise it, + condoms but there still a risk and I cant take pills beside my testrogene.. wich always make me worry.
by the law I can be castrated when I turn 25 and im 18 now so it kinda suchs that I have to wait unless i figure out something..-__-

hmm I dont even know if I want kids generally, when I where little I thought about being a father, but i dont know, I always had the kind of felling that I couldnt get kids or married so I should just forget these thoughts. because I didnt like to do it "the straight and biological way"
I dont even think adoption is posible for transgender in my country? but if it where I would consider adopting when I got older.

[Silas]

Believe me, I understand how some feel a stronger link amongst blood-relatives, but I have so many siblings and cousins that people could tell me aren't really my relatives because of a divorce, because we're not related by blood, because of adoption, et cetera. But I feel close to them, they're real to me. I have a connection with my granddad, and we're related by a piece of paper that says adoption -- a paper that may or may not exist.

I don't know; haa, I understand the desire for biological kids. I just can't view any children/relatives as "just" adopted kids. Blood may be thicker than water, but love is thicker than blood.