Well, a sad fact is no one can say they tried more than one surgeon and for that reason they think this surgeon is better than that one.
Now, I may get some tomatoes thrown at me and booed off the soapbox, but it has been my experience that too many of us are prejudiced towards the surgeon who did our work, be it face, bottom, boobs, whatever. It is a rare thing to read any negative accounts of someone's surgery in every trans forum I've been involved with so far. And when it comes to bottom surgery, it is even rarer.
For that reason, discussing the surgical outcome and using that as the barometer for who one will choose as their surgeon is just as effective as throwing darts at a board. The consultation can help so long as one doesn't get "sucked into the dream" but we must still understand every GRS surgeon is part sales person.
Being "one of us" doesn't make a surgeon better. Being the innovator doesn't either. Brassard created the one-step procedure. Bowers studied under him to learn it. I think McGinn still does a two step. But does any of that matter? Is there a "vagina test" we must pass in order to get our vital records changed or be able to walk out into public and say, "I am a woman!" Not to my knowledge.
Fact is, many of us don't really know what a vagina really looks like, let alone feels like. So how can we judge the results of our surgery? We have to dilate for life because our body sees the cavity as a wound. We have to lubricate for dilation or intercourse. What we have is very different than what a natal female vagina is. And we just have to accept that.
As for orgasm, I've heard Bowers say all her patients are orgasmic. I know that's not true and I'll bet she knows that too. Brassard goes the other way - he says orgasm will only happen mentally, not physically. And I know that's not true either.
The truth is, we can only go with certain known facts when deciding who will do our surgery. We know this doctor has performed "X" amount of surgeries and there are "Y" number of reported complications. We know this doctor has good bedside manners. We know this facility has better recovery facilities than that one. We know this price is more than that. Outside of the known facts, everything else boils down to educated guesses and feelings.
Okay - throw your tomatoes.