Hug the closest tall woman you see next! ..or, Affirmations of a tall woman!

[mmelny]

This post is probably more of a blot then anything, but if it helps one person, it's worth a few wasted pixels. 
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Today's affirmation:

I am a tall woman.  Woman.  I find my strength within, when people look at me, they see a confident, tall, woman.  Height is a physical attribute.  It is not an identifier, nor a definition of who I am as a person.  My height is certainly a highly identifiable trait of how others might describe me when speaking about me, but it certainly doesn't define me.  I am a tall woman.  A Woman.

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And no, I'm not a big self-affirmationalist (lol, that Stuart Smalley character was so dang annoying on SNL), analyze this and that kind of person.  I'm reflecting a bit on my past as I boldly stride forward into a new awareness for myself, both in introspective aspects of realizing a new level of self knowledge, and understanding the impacts that the changes in my life have on my real-life acquaintances, co-workers, friends, family and anonymous folk that cross my path.

When I first started transition, it was after many years of wishy-washiness.  MANY years of not having the confidence, and bundled with overwhelming self doubts to do so.   One day something clicked.   I looked at the reasons I hadn't been able to transition when I wanted to.  They all pointed back at me.   Honestly I was not ready.  However, I always wanted to point a finger at my height as a handicap to my viability as fulfilling the person that I knew I wanted to be, that I was/am.

I am tall, by any standard, at 6'2".  Men and Women look up to me, *usually*.  It's a rare opportunity I cherish when I have to look up to see the bottom of someone's chin. I am tall.   I'm so glad I could establish that fact.  Welcome to my post and dribble if you have made it this far.

Back to my point.  I used my height as a factor in delaying my decision to transition for awhile.  A long while.  Until life bore out the fact that I would never be happy living the way I was.  "There's no way I can pass being this tall",  "I'm a freak, freakishly tall", etc blah blah blah were things that crossed through me, excuses.  One online "friend" that I had talked to years ago, even said something that affirmed my worst fears,  saying to me directly.. "a 6'2" guy will never pass or come close to it".   A single sentence that took my breath away, and made me reflect/moan/cry (feel sorry for myself *yuck*) for a few weeks.  A very useful time for me, in that the results of my reflections then, resulted in the understanding for me that the true issue is not, and never will be about passability.  I'm not trying to pass for anything, I'm just being me. 

Yikes!  I've lost track of my point... Ok, so it's my post, I'm allowed to meander...   

Oh yes, so don't let anything stop you from doing what you want to do, being who you are,  height is not a factor.  Many things that you think may be factors, that you are more cognizant of then anyone else, are NOT as important to other people as you think they are.

Still wearing heels when the occasion or desire dictates 'em!  Striding boldly and lankily forward... hello world, hear me roar, *giggles*!

*huggs*,
Melan

[shanetastic]

I am pretty tall by standards too being around like 6'1 and I procrastinated transition a LOT too just because I fear I will never pass being this tall.

It still dreads me today with my height, but I guess time can only tell. 

[V M]

I'm just under 6'2" and have heard a variety of comments both good and not so good. "Tall drink of water, Horsey d!ke B-----, Supermodel." Some folks are nice, some are not. But most important is your own self esteem. Walk proud and give a kind smile. Even to the meenies. When you feel beautiful it projects to others

[vanna]

Well i dont really belong in this thread i guess....but you go girls tall women totally rock 

lol at over compensating...yes hunny you keep telling yourself that

[Sephirah]

Lol, 6'2" seems to be the magic number. I'm that tall, too. I've only met a couple of women I look up to, in a physical sense, but they looked really good.

I'm not so much bothered about my height as I used to be, largely because there really isn't any point. Hating something doesn't change it. Particularly fruitless is hating something you can't change. Might as well use it.

Thank you for the post. *hugs*

[kytheragraves]

6'3" here. Just like you, I get comments about my height all the time. Today the girl who waxed my brows told me, "It must be wonderful to be so tall." She stood about 5'1". We commiserated about the inconveniences of tallness/shortness. I complained about everything being built for shorter people, and she complained about everything being built for taller people. In the end we agreed 5'8" or 5'9" would be best because then you get to wear all the best clothes, and fit easily into cars, while still being tall enough to reach high-ish shelves.

On the plus side, I have super long legs and I knife through crowds with ease.

I have never really heard negative comments about my height, but people bring it up more often than the weather as a conversation starter with me, so it does get a little tiresome.

[mmelny]

I have never really heard negative comments about my height, but people bring it up more often than the weather as a conversation starter with me, so it does get a little tiresome.

That is so funny and true.  How many times do I find myself the subject of "height" conversations, standing in a group of old or new friends.   I just smile and look quickly for a change of subject, or make a bad joke, like "anyone want cheese, grabbing some from the moon".

Thank you all for your replies, nice to see some women "standing tall" and pushing forward with their dreams.   If you are letting height stop you from being the person you want/know yourself to be, don't!, is the motto of this story. 

*huggs*,
Melan

[Zelane]

I shouldn't say a thing given that im just 5'9'' But I used to or still do have some problems with being a tall woman.

Its a bit annoying in the shoe area. Finding them its not so easy and clothes too.

But I have started to be more comfortable with my height. I mean its not so bad except for the part that im more noticeable than other girls.

[mmelny]

I shouldn't say a thing given that im just 5'9'' But I used to or still do have some problems with being a tall woman.

Its a bit annoying in the shoe area. Finding them its not so easy and clothes too.

But I have started to be more comfortable with my height. I mean its not so bad except for the part that im more noticeable than other girls.

Ohhh Zelane, you are right, you are not going to find much sympathy for a 5'9" height, at least from this woman.   

For shoes, have you tried Payless (Shoesource) ?  They have large women's shoe sizes going up to 12 in-store (or is that 13?)  They have a great online site too, before I was out, I would shop the online site, catching their BOGO sales.  Now I continue to shop in their stores, it's nice looking at my shoe size, and it not being at the END of the women's aisle.  (I am a size 10/11). 

For clothes, where are you shopping that you have issues with a 5'9" frame?  The teenybopper shops in the mall?  That i could understand, possibly.  However even at my height, with my tall lanky arms, I find tall sizes in the "regular" clothing stores geared towards normal sized women, lol.   I've never had to shop a "big and tall women's" store.   Mind you, I always take things to the fitting room, women's sizing being chaotic at best.

Oh well, good luck, and thank's for hijacking the thread, *giggles*     ... which I was most happy to continue, *smiles*.

*huggs*,
Melan

[Zelane]

Yay my first hijacked thread without intention :p

BTW Melan, hows the weather up there? Do clouds taste good? (Sorry could resist it) It would be interesting to stand next to a taller woman than me. I want to feel tiny at least once :p

Well, the point is I dont shop online and my shoes size its 10 (I still wonder if its a "normal" size for my height or im just having huge feet) And here in my city its kinda rare that stores carry up to that number. Mostly up to 9 which its annoying. And the few 10 that arrives are hunt like crazy since there are a lot of tall women here.

The problem with my clothes its that i fat and right now I dont want to show my bellybutton. So if they are shorter its annoying. And of course jeans that tend to be shorter sometimes -_-


Bad things about being told:

• Your bed its shorter or the same height as you (so your feet go out of it)
• The mirrors tend to be in a position for short people
• The shower can hit your head
• Bathroom, laundry and kitchen sinks are very low and your back hurts
• People tends to look at you more

[Alyssa M.]

I love tall women. Tall = beautiful in my opinion. That said, at 5'10 I'm still taller than 99% of women in this country, and it can be a little unnerving. If I were president I would pass a law such that women taller than 5'9" could deduct the cost of high heel shoes from their taxes. It's a good thing I'm not president!

~Alyssa

[je]

Yea, I love those tall women too. They make me look not so tall!!! I'm 5' 9". It isn't so bad, though, because I have a cousin who's also the same height as me.

[ilikepotatoes]

Well, the point is I dont shop online and my shoes size its 10 (I still wonder if its a "normal" size for my height or im just having huge feet) A

I'm three inches shorter than you and wear a size 10, so I think you're feet are a good all around size for your height

[Nero]

tall women are hot. 

[Mr. Fox]

tall women are hot. 

I reaffirm!  They also get to make awesome lame jokes, like "Want some cheese from the moon?", while we short people have nothing.  "Want me to not get anything from you from high shelves because I can't reach?  Ha ha ha!"

[mmelny]

I reaffirm!  They also get to make awesome lame jokes, like "Want some cheese from the moon?", while we short people have nothing.  "Want me to not get anything from you from high shelves because I can't reach?  Ha ha ha!"

ohhhh, that's so low Mr. Fox, or should I say "short", *giggles*.

I've never actually uttered that joke in public, but perhaps I will now lol....

And yes, we tall women are hot!!!!  Although sometimes the attention isn't always desirable, like on a bad hair day *giggles*, days I tend to hunch a bit.

It is about smiling and embracing who we are, everyone has their "tick", that thing that makes you stand out that you can't do anything about ... short or tall..  it's how you accept it.

*huggs* everyone within her 6' reach!!!
Melan

[katherine]

I'm 6'1" with a size 12.  I've shopped online for several years and have found clothing rather easily.  I tend to shy away from high heels, although I have worn them on occasion.  For those who aren't quite out yet, online shopping is great once you know your sizes.  I would be careful with those credit cards, though...

[01803lpn]

You have no idea how much you relating your experience means to me.  I am also 74 inches tall (it just sounds better to me) You have given me hope that someday I will have the courage to at least leave the house

[Chloe]

She, for there can be no doubt about her sex, is visiting the house she finally lost for the first time in over a 100 years.

She does still have some natural advantages of course [from previously being a man]. She is tall and slim with a slightly androgynous appearance that many females at the time [now] aspired.

From the movie "Orlando" (1992)

[mmelny]

You have no idea how much you relating your experience means to me.  I am also 74 inches tall (it just sounds better to me) You have given me hope that someday I will have the courage to at least leave the house

Yay!!!! Thank You Christine, I wish you the best with getting out!  You'll find it gets easier and easier with every trip out.  Even with my height, people don't even give me a 2nd glance when out shopping or traveling.   It's about getting out and getting comfortable, once you are comfortable and confident, height is just a number (and a bit of neck pain for a few shorter people when talking to you) 

*huggs*,
Melan