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MTF's, What is Your Sexual Identity?

Started by MeghanAndrews, January 17, 2009, 03:59:44 PM

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How do you identity sexually, gay or straight? Gay is being attracted to the same sex as you, straight the opposite...

I'm Straight
I'm Gay
I'm Bi
I'm Asexual

Nero

Quote from: MeghanAndrews on January 17, 2009, 10:28:20 PM
Quote from: je on January 17, 2009, 09:04:06 PM
Quote from: Alyssa M.Just to make sure -- you're not pulling a Bailey on us and meaning "your sex" as "the sex assigned to you at birth," are you?

Yea, I'm wondering about that as well. :-\ Can the OP make the vote modifiable? I want to change my vote.

je, i tried but it wouldn't let me :(

made modifiable. (Meghan , do you wish me to change it back after je votes?)
Nero was the Forum Admin here at Susan's Place for several years up to the time of his death.
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Julie Marie

Voted gay, as in lesbian.  I tried men and there was no spark at all, and all we did was kiss.  Don't like beards or stubble or body hair or rough skin.  Besides, my wardrobe almost doubled when I became romantically involved, not to mention jewelry & cosmetics!  ;D

Julie
When you judge others, you do not define them, you define yourself.
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mmelny

Quote from: paulault55 on January 20, 2009, 02:14:25 PM
Up until i started HRT i was asexual but now finding I'm starting to lean in other directions, don't know where it will end.

Paula.

You aren't alone Paula!  HRT changed, well evolved, my preference.. it's odd, I never found men attractive until about a year on HRT.  I still adore and am attracted to women, but have actually connected with a man, and 7 months later dating and still with him, have had my longest running relationship with a person of any gender (or non-gender ;) ), and loving it. 

To think further into it, I'm not sure if HRT actually changed my preference, or that the changes in my body and mind made it more acceptable to me.   *raises hand*, psychoanalysis over here please!  *snaps fingers*

My philosophy is just go with what makes you happy, life is too short to accept artificial boundaries.

*huggs*,
Melan
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kimmie

how about polysexual, gender is not a factor win looking for mate.  It how I fill about them ,and they about me. They mite be man women cd,tv,ts,tg,or any way they want to think of themself


  Kimberly :-\
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mmelny

Quote from: kimmie on January 20, 2009, 06:28:43 PM
how about polysexual, gender is not a factor win looking for mate.  It how I fill about them ,and they about me. They mite be man women cd,tv,ts,tg,or any way they want to think of themself


  Kimberly :-\

A term that is gaining acceptance as "pansexual", at least in certain communities.   Wikipedia it ;) 

*huggs*,
Melan
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Fer

The laws of God, the laws of man, He may keep that will and can; Not I. Let God and man decree Laws for themselves and not for me; And if my ways are not as theirs Let them mind their own affairs. - A. E. Housman
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mina.magpie

Hehehe. Cool stats. And they correspond almost exactly to what psychology and those arousal experiments predict. Except there are about twice as many asexual people here as is predicted for the general population.

We're normal, peoples! Actually, MORE normal than cisgendered people! Celebrate!  ;D  :P

Mina.
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iminadaze

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Jenny Jackson

Quote from: Melan on January 20, 2009, 05:53:46 PM
Quote from: paulault55 on January 20, 2009, 02:14:25 PM
Up until i started HRT i was asexual but now finding I'm starting to lean in other directions, don't know where it will end.

Paula.

You aren't alone Paula!  HRT changed, well evolved, my preference.. it's odd, I never found men attractive until about a year on HRT.  I still adore and am attracted to women, but have actually connected with a man, and 7 months later dating and still with him, have had my longest running relationship with a person of any gender (or non-gender ;) ), and loving it. 

To think further into it, I'm not sure if HRT actually changed my preference, or that the changes in my body and mind made it more acceptable to me.   *raises hand*, psychoanalysis over here please!  *snaps fingers*

My philosophy is just go with what makes you happy, life is too short to accept artificial boundaries.

*huggs*,
Melan

Funny, I was having just this conversation with my doctor on Friday, whilst he was trying to establish whether or not I wanted SRS.

When I saw him first, three years ago and pre hormones, I told him that as a man I was heterosexual insofar as I had any interest in sex at all or indeed much conviction as to being male. Now, over 2 years into HRT and post transition, I would identify as female and flexible, perhaps best described as pansexual, with some preference for GG's or other TG's.......but, hey, as this whole business blurs the boundaries of gender and sexuality so much, who knows how one's going to feel in the future.
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Hypatia

Quote from: Julie Marie on January 20, 2009, 02:39:39 PM
Voted gay, as in lesbian.  I tried men and there was no spark at all, and all we did was kiss.  Don't like beards or stubble or body hair or rough skin.

What Julie said.
Although I did feel a spark. But a spark doesn't always a fire make.
Here's what I find about compromise--
don't do it if it hurts inside,
'cause either way you're screwed,
eventually you'll find
you may as well feel good;
you may as well have some pride

--Indigo Girls
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Gwen

I've been married to a totally awesome guy, who I love dearly, for nearly thirteen years... but I'm still a lesbian.
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Jessie_Heart

I voted bi because you thought it was the same as pansexual. I have only been with women so far because before I started accepting who I was I was so far in the closet about everything I could have come out wearing someones flower child outfit from the sixties and when I came out I was already married to my partner. but I would be attracted to my partner no matter what gender she was and no matter what gender she ever decieded to present as. I have alot of varied fanties for many different types so as long as it is fun and interesting I am willing (I am not a slut I am just very very friendly!)
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Hypatia

Quote from: Gwen on January 28, 2009, 12:46:56 PM
I've been married to a totally awesome guy, who I love dearly, for nearly thirteen years... but I'm still a lesbian.

I wonder if you could explain that. I thought the two were contradictory.
Here's what I find about compromise--
don't do it if it hurts inside,
'cause either way you're screwed,
eventually you'll find
you may as well feel good;
you may as well have some pride

--Indigo Girls
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Gwen

Quote from: Hypatia on January 28, 2009, 02:01:08 PM
Quote from: Gwen on January 28, 2009, 12:46:56 PM
I've been married to a totally awesome guy, who I love dearly, for nearly thirteen years... but I'm still a lesbian.

I wonder if you could explain that. I thought the two were contradictory.

You've really never heard of anyone married to to a person of the opposite sex being gay?  My husband and I love each other very much, trust each other completely, and we're best friends and soul-mates.  But we don't have a sexual relationship.  That "spark" is only there for me with other women.  This does put us in a somewhat unusual situation but so far it has worked pretty well for us.  We have our ups and downs like anybody else but we've stuck together for a long time.

Hopefully that helps clear things up a little for you  ;)
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postoplesbian

I have been asexual since i transitioned and broke up with another sister after she left me because i had my GRS in dec 98. I do still hope to find true love with another sister or a FTM.
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Hypatia

Thanks for explaining. I was just wondering because of the unusualness. I guess being unusual means always having to explain oneself.
Here's what I find about compromise--
don't do it if it hurts inside,
'cause either way you're screwed,
eventually you'll find
you may as well feel good;
you may as well have some pride

--Indigo Girls
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Gwen

No problem, I've had a lot of practice.  :laugh:
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Dorothy

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Valentina

Quote from: paulault55 on January 20, 2009, 02:14:25 PM
Up until i started HRT i was asexual but now finding I'm starting to lean in other directions, don't know where it will end.

Paula.

Sorta the same for me.  Don't know if asexual is the right word for me.  Celibate would be more appropriate.  Anyway I was "asexual" for the most part of my transition until I had GCS and then everything changed.  I'm attracted to blokes now so by definition that'd make me hetero.
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placeholdername

I'm pre-everything currently -- for a long time I would have said lesbian without a doubt, but I've been trying to be open minded lately so I'm not writing the guys off yet.  It's more of a sex thing though... I can see myself as a girl having sex with a guy, but I can't really see myself having a lasting relationship with a guy.
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