I have love/hate relationship with my mirror. It's also a powerful motivator for me.
Two years ago, I got out of the shower and glimpsed something that I had become - middle aged, portly, and quite unattractive. That single event prompted a focused regime of fitness (bicycle, walking and recently running) for at least 75 minutes a day (5 - 15 miles depending on the mode). By eating sensibly, i've lost 50 lbs and am no longer obese. In 25 lbs. I'll be in the right range for a woman of 5' 10"
So, now when I look in the mirror I am happy to see a belly that is weight/height proportional. I'm happy that my waist is now a size 34 (not a size 42). I'm also please when I dress fully at how much better I do look, and the fact that I'm fitting into a size 14/16 of the first time in ages (which opens up so much more choice)
I'm not pleased that I have a "waddle" of loose skin under my chin now, nor do I have any breasts or hips that are of my own making - hence the love/hate relationship.
Joanna