anfrogynes are you happy with your presentation

[Kinkly]

I'm wondering if people are happy about being seen as the way they present or if they were able they would present differently

basicly are you conforming, being true to yourself or something inbetween

good means you are happy
bad   mean you are not
compromise means you could be better could be worse

I hope that doesn't sound judjmental

if another option is wanted just ask

[Pica Pica]

I don't know which gender I present as...I suppose male, although the amount of female items of clothing are beginning to match the amount of male ones, I suppose what with my male shape, they just look male.

I guess that's because I choose any trousers, blouses and jumpers to be pretty plain and unassuming, but with nice colours. When I find some that fit I will buy some very girly hoodies, all flowers an' that. I like them, and I think they will look cute.

I exclusively wear female pyjamas at home for example, but I'm not presenting as a female. nor a male. nor androgynous.... I'm just Pica in a pair of female pyjamas. I'm a lodger with an old lady and I have two other lodgers as well, the first time they saw the girl's pj's they looked twice, now It's just me in my pj's -

Now I put down compromise, because it is. It's a compromise between my male body and clothes...If I had a female body, I would be a keen wearer of dresses and skirts, I would probably also play around more with make up...but all those things look silly on me, so I may try them a few times and then decide they are not for me. It's like a painter who has discovered that some colours don't fit in his work, there's a disappointment about being limited, but that's about it.

The point is, you see, I never consciously present. I just wear as I like, walk as I like and so on...presenting is far too self concious for me.

[Constance]

I selected "I present as my birth gender and its a compromize."

My wardrobe is evolving; I'm adding more women's clothes. But, I usually "present" as my birth gender: male.

The main reason, however, is I'm not entirely sure how to present. I know I would like to present as something completely ambiguous ("not a king or a queen but something in between"). But, I'm not entirely sure how to do this.

But at the same time, there are days when I have no problem with presenting as male and there are days when I very much want to present as female. So, what I usually do is a compromise of sorts.

I think...

[Shana A]

Compromise although in some situations less so. A lot of the time it's just jeans and a flannel shirt or fleece (it's winter and need to keep warm). Sometimes I'll wear a nice blouse... I'd wear skirts more often if it didn't result in losing income.

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[Zeo]

I dress in whatever is most comfortable to me, which is usually male clothing. But then, I also wear skirts, so I'm always sort of dressed as both genders at once.

I have my hair cut really short and don't wear makeup, so I guess...I don't know. It's hard to say. I sort of want to say I present as the opposite of my birth gender, but it's also true that I present as both, kinda, at once. I think people look at me, then look down at my skirt, look back at my face and then draw their conclusions.

I've been mistaken for my husband's brother by little kids. It makes me feel flattered that I could pull off a male look or at least an androgynous one. In any case, I noted in the poll that I am happy with the way I present.

[Sophie90]

As my birth gender, because it's simply easier. I'm fairly indifferent to it most of the time.

[Nicky]

I said other compromise. As Pica, I would dress in more women's clothing if it fit my body shape better.

But saying that everything is a bit of a compromise as I don't have the body I desire yet. I'm hoping that hormones will fix that.

[Mr. Fox]

Right now I wear looser clothes than I'd like to hide "the boys" (need to get that binder!)  To pass consistently, I would also have to wear more masculine clothes and get a haircut but . . . meh.  I'm not going to trade one set of stereotypes for another.  So basically, I am presenting as my birth sex, but in more masculine clothes than I'd care to wear.

[Bombi]

I have boy clothes I like and girls clothes. I work full time as a facility manager at a condo and me and my employees wear sort of a uniform. Pale yellow polo shirts and Kaki pants or shorts. I ordered women's shirts which have a v neck and shorter sleeves. The shirts are a light fabric so no matter what color bra I wear it's still obvious. I have some womens dickies, capris and shorts that I alternate. Just flip flops for shoes. Then just a little eye shadow and my earrings.
I feel comfortable and am relitively well accepted. It's funny though, my employees all macho Black men in their 30's at first didn't know what to think but after 2 years they are ok.
A few weeks ago my so and I were celebrating our anniversary at a beachfront resturant and one of my employees was there with his girl friend. I saw them and waved. They came to the table and chatted. She said that he had said so many good things and I was a good boss. They when they were leaving she said I love your outfit. He hadn't seen me in a skirt beforebut he just smiled and said good night.

[RebeccaFog]

birth gender. not good.

It's okay I guess, for now.

[Barbara/Brandon]

I choose to not present anything, I choose to be me and wear what is most comfortable for me.

[Nicky]

I choose to not present anything, I choose to be me and wear what is most comfortable for me.

I am the same. I don't aim to present anything either. Except maybe 'not-male'. I can't stand being mistaken for a male.

[Kaelin]

Yeah, I'm going to have mess things up for a bit.

Okay, I present my birth gender.  I am happy with this gender.  However, my feelings are muddled when it comes to the expression of said gender (due to social mores), although the number of serious issues is small.

I'm nearing the time of "screw it," though (roughly a month from now).

[Nicky]

My questions are

What are you going to screw?

and can we watch?

[Eva Marie]

My questions are

What are you going to screw?

and can we watch?

I'm pretty much locked into male mode due to life circumstances, so I really don't think about it too much. Maybe when the kids move out I can try some things.

[Nicky]

I've just taken the plunge and found a great counsellor to help me sort my stuff out. I can't believe how free I feel even though I have not actually done anything yet. Things have gone from stuck to on the move.

[RebeccaFog]

can we have your kitchen table and two of the chairs?

[Jaimey]

can we have your kitchen table and two of the chairs?

Only if you promise to dance on them. 


I voted 'dress as birth gender and that's good', but mostly because my clothes come from the women's section...and honestly, i'm not trying to present any certain way.  Most of my clothes are pretty gender neutral, but I'm not really trying to look androgynous (because i don't look androgynous).  Presentation is a difficult subject if you don't know what it is you're ideal look is.  Mostly, I don't really care how people perceive me (although if I can find clothes that make me look slimmer, well, hot damn, I'll wear them out!)

[sparkles]

its amazing how quick you can become unstuck when you actually sit down and talk to someone who says why can you not do that and for the life of you, you can not think of a really good reason why your not doing it. thats what happened with my counciler. it seems that we make our own blockages.

dont really matter how you are wanting to present or, that your just yourself. other people will still want to put you in a box i just find its easyer if you give them a hint which one you want them to put you in, instead of them deciding and anoying you. :0)

[SpazOutLoud]

I love men's clothing. Although I also own some girl's clothes. It usually depends on my mood what I wear. Majority of the time it's the guy side of the spectrum. I love dress shirts and ties. ^_^