i know how you feel, in more ways than one. here in my small town, they have been real nice, i've only gotten a few odd looks when my kids have hollered Daddy as loud as they possibly could. my wife still refuses to see how bad that can turn out for me, saying that if someone kills me for being myself its my fault.
at work, one of the asset protection ladies has a local cop for a husband, she asked him what gender i was, he told her i was in no doubt female and that was the end of that. Most of the girls my age don't have a problem with me, in fact a lot of them treat me as if i've always been one of the girls, which is just fine with me.