A label thread, how fun. But now that I've written this I notice the thread is quite old. So I'll just go ahead and post this-and see, as there is some things that have not been written, so maybe I'm different. Then it is probably a good idea to post this. But generally I find these questions to be difficult. Since I feel there is multiple answers to each question. And not one thing that is constant. As reasons and feelings change. So this is just what popped down in my head.
So first my short answers, then the long ones, explanations you can say(more serious and depressed).
Do you cross dress just for the thrill or the fun of it?Fun part was way higher when I as a teenager, not so much now. Mostly comfort.
Do you cross dress to get sexually arousedNope, but might be aroused if dressed.
Do you cross dress to get in touch with your feminine side?Just that the clothes I use fits better
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Do you find it difficult to go back in drab after a wonderful time out?Hmm-usually use mens clothes, read pants, when it is needed for preservation of some peoples feelings. I do find it difficult to change just for this. Maybe pointless, like why, something like that.
Do you dress as the target gender because it feels more normal?Yes, it is a question of comfort.
Are you serious about your appearance in the target gender you are presenting?Try to, but my weak colorvision make me often mismatch things. But try my best.
What is your opinion on dressing properly according to your age for the gender you present? I dress casually, in a feminine way. Mostly skirts-that is so liberating-and my
right has always been stolen. I find on womans forums that my taste is often the same as most. Like shorter skirt means thicker pantyhose. Things like that, I follow those
rules as they make sense to me.
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QuoteDo you cross dress just for the thrill or the fun of it?
I dont really crossdress. I use clothes, what fits best for me. Fun is always important. But that is just to figure out what. That is forgotten when I am dressed. But I can spontaneously laugh if my skirt swirls around me, by wind or just the fabric. The sensations does good for me.
QuoteDo you cross dress to get sexually aroused
First time I masturbated was not in woman clothes. And I have used those as long as I can remember. But I did find out somewhere that orgasms came easier if I was dressed. And related to that part I discovered was that for a few hours after having orgasm, I did not mind being around people, and so aware of my gender issues. So i'd be able to function. So I always do an orgasm before I go out to meet people. Then I am much more pleasant and relaxed. And I stay disconnected from the body. But oh, is it tiring..
But generally I cant remember that dressing pretty have made me
excited. That only happens when I sit down and start to fantasise. And to get excited I need to have a certain feeling, Clothes help get this feeling, like a catalysis. With other people it is usually only if I sense that they truly are exited with ME, the mental connection. I'm very little concrete in this regard. But I like having orgasms. I thought for the longest time, I discovered on this board that this was not the case, that I would loose my ability to have orgasm if I transitioned. And sometimes that is the only thing that make me get past the days. It is quite normal for me to nothing else the whole day, maybe up to 10 times. The penis might be bleeding, but don't care about that. It is like a decease at times. It is also that I am afraid of the testosterone working on my body. So if I continue doing this it does not work on my body, but goes out instead.
I notice that when I am on these boards, and others and there is interesting discussions. Then this masturbation feeling mostly go away, and I can stay away from it for maybe days. That is a wonderful feeling. I'm probably coming of as a perverted ->-bleeped-<- now. But that is just the way it is. I have to do this, and way to often, to get it out of my system. The actual orgasm I enjoy, since it is an electric thing that go through my body, I can feel it in my toes, fingers and everywhere. The ejaculation is kind of pathetic, it just comes out a little. I'm seriously unsure if it even works properly. And the hours after it is like bliss.
QuoteDo you cross dress to get in touch with your feminine side?
Never thought about it like that. I usually go out to monitor other peoples reactions. To find out what people notice, what they don't notice and so on. And feel disgust about, generally what is normal and what is not. I just know what clothes I like, so the rest has to do with other people. And then me finding a compromise.
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QuoteDo you find it difficult to go back in drab after a wonderful time out?
Clothes are clothes, but it is something you use every day of your whole life. So I am under no illusion that it does not have a huge impact on you as a person. But for most people I think lots of these things go past in the unconsciousness, but the impact is just as big-they dont seem to have the awareness-since they have not been confronted with it-and that is usually what make you thing about stuff. And this is an awareness that is very unhealthy for me at least-it is not how it is supposed to be, this I have found out from observing other people. I have some men clothes I really like. But I don't have much mens clothes left. As male clothes I normally just use some addidas jogging pants, or something similar. They are practical, but I dislike them none the less, since I don't think they are pretty. And I think they make me more ugly then I really am.
QuoteDo you dress as the target gender because it feels more normal?
Yes, that and they hide and enhance on the right places. Like I have a slim waist. And all male clothes I've tried I swim in. Clothes should fit, that is the most important thing in my opinion.
QuoteAre you serious about your appearance in the target gender you are presenting?
I'm serious in the way that I try not to be offending. And I hope that the first impression give the other one a good feeling, something pleasant to put their eye on. That is always what I try to do. I don't have any other agenda. I like to feel sexy also. They can make sexual connections. But then they are on thin ice and must be very careful for not scaring me away. I try to not give of sexual vibes, but still be pretty. So I guess there should not be a open sexual connection before they have managed to take my dress of. I notice there is girls that play openly on sexuality. I don't do this. But maybe I could if I was more secure. It does look like those that do have fun with it.
QuoteWhat is your opinion on dressing properly according to your age for the gender you present?
Well, I'm 31, I look at those the same age as me. And I find that most of those that have same taste as me in clothes dress similar. I'm more modest. I don't use skirts just below the ass. Or pants showing everything. Almost like pantyhose without a skirt. I don't mind them doing it. But I would not do it. Some things are pretty, some are not. Seems to be fairly universal, I go for the pretty things. Other people have different agendas. I'd probably change if I go through with this, and want more. But so far, all I need is for people to relate to me, that is all I ask. And for that to happen I guess I need to change what is between me and the clothes. Or maybe I can say the first set of clothes, throw those and get some appropriate.
Maybe one comment on the end. I dress approximately 50% for my self and 50% for others when I can. As I actually like and enjoy dressing with a feminine style. Something I notice lots of ordinary woman dont do, but not all, many dress mostly for others it seems. So even if I am alone, i'd like to look pretty. But comfy first.
I have lots of clothes in my closets, but just some few of it I use regularly-and my style has been remarkably similar the whole time. I even have a good portion of sexy lingerie that I have gotten on impulse. But never use it. I have tried garterbelt and stockings under the skirt outside a few days. But I dont know. It was fun the first time. But I've found it is no point when no one can appreciate it or know about it. So much prefer a normal thick pantyhose. I like the idea of having them though, since I hope I will mature one day, to use these stuff, but still I feel like a child, but maybe someday I'll grow up
