crossdressing

[nikki]

Hello,I'm new to dressing,but I've found that I'm much happier as a woman.I'm just not sure how to tell my wife( I want to stay with her) that now I want to do it all the time,and I'd like to go out(with her)The funny thing though,is she is the one that started getting me to crossdress.It started out as a joke dressing as a woman,but I noticed the more I put on,the more I wanted to wear.Well now she say's,do what you want,but just not sure if she means it just to make me happy,or if she really does'nt mind.I can't help it though,Idon't want to stop.If you knew me you'd never guess.But I look pretty good dressed as a woman and I like it and it makes me happy!

[Hazumu]

Hi, Nikki, welcome to Susan's place!

You'll find lots of supportive people here.  The 'comfort factor' of dressing en femme seems to surprise and shock a lot of people.  As you say you're still new to this, I suggest you search out author Lacy Leigh (do a GOOGLE,) and look at Lacy's books -- they may open you and your spose up to the possibilities.

As part of the welcome, please DO read the site terms of service.  They're there to keep Susan's safe and open to serve our community.

Also, please bop on over to introductions and tell us all a little bit about yourself!

Welcome! 

Karen

[HelenW]

Welcome, Nikki!

If you want to know what's really going on in your wife's mind about all this, well, then ask her!  Being transgendered is a phenomenon that can kill marriages and other relationships unless honest and open minded communication is relentlessly pursued.

Perhaps, if you feel uncomfortable talking about it with her one on one, you can try to find a therapist who specializes in treating people with gender issues and with his or her help you'll be able to disuss these things more openly.  My wife and I have been attending sessions together and it has helped both of us in understanding what the other is going through.  The therapist gives us good suggestions on how to deal with the problems we're encountering too.

In any event, reading and posting here at Susan's will give you a ton of information and support.

again, WELCOME!
helen

[tinkerbell]

Hello Nikki:

Welcome to Susan's! We look forward to your introduction.  Enjoy your stay.



tinkerbell

[Jillieann Rose]

Hi Nikki,
I'm glad you joined. I loved to be dress up too.
Can you explan the poll I don't understand what you are asking.
Welcome to Susan's .

Jillieann

[Shannon]

Hello Nikki,

Welcome to Susan's!  I am sure you will meet many new friends here.  Be sure to add an introduction so we can learn more about you.  I too am a little mystified as to what you are asking in your poll and the two answers shown above. 

As for your wife, I would be completely honest with her about how you really feel when you are dressed.  It would not hurt to do a little research and find information that expresses how you really feel about crossdressing and show it to her.  I did this after my mother discovered my desires to crossdress when I was younger and it helped her better understand what I was going through.  I do sincerely hope your wife is really understanding like you say she is.  If you can keep an open line of communication with her then you have a good chance.  I look forward to reading more of your posts.  Again welcome!   

Hugs,

Shannon