i need help w my CD bf

[aplia]

I just found out that he likes to dress and so far I've been trying to embrace it and he just told me that he wants me away from it, but for the past few days he's been so excited that I wanted to get involved. I just don't know what happened, except he said I was moving too slow. I don't know where else to turn about this and I hope y'all can help me, because I've felt really special to be a part of this so far with him. I just need a little direction. Please let me know what y'all think everyone really helped me on my last post. Thank you.

[mina.magpie]

Well, to my mind the first step is to find out why he doesn't want you involved, and what he means by you moving too slow. It might take a bit of doing, but as in every other part of a relationship, communicating effectively with one another is key here. If the two of you can't have that conversation without things getting emotional, write each other letters or emails about it instead - I've always found letters to be very effective in talking things out in an otherwise too emotional situation, not just with partners, but with family as well.

Anyway, sorry I can't help with more than generic advice, but I really think it's important that you both know the why and what before you do anything else.

Mina.

[TamTam]

Hey. I'm a little confused- he wants you to be uninvolved with his crossdressing.. but you were excited about it and wanted to be involved.. and he thinks you're moving too slowly?

It sounds like you're moving at a lovely pace. "Feeling special" to experience it with him sounds like a really nice way to think about it and handle it.  That doesn't sound to me like you're moving too slowly at all.  Perhaps you're moving too quickly for him?