Wife is Pregnant (Mixed Emotions)

[mtfbuckeye]

We found out that my wife is pregnant yesterday. Don't get me wrong... This is great news. I love kids, and I always wanted two children (ideally, this baby will be a girl, but I'd be happy with a boy as well).

But.. I also know this means any hope of me transitioning is delayed for a couple more years at the least. Also, I don't particularly like how masculine fathering another child makes me feel right now.

So yeah, it's a crazy mixture of euphoria and melancholy for me right now...

[almost,angie]

Aw! Congrats on the new kido. Don`t feel like you are fathering another child. Just know that they have two mothers. On of them just looks like Jack Black.( for now)

[Nicky]

You might look masculine but you don't have to parent in a masculine way. Approach it in a way that feels right. Do the best you can do. That is all the child will want from you.

Having a baby and transitioning are not mutually exclusive things. Don't be afraid to approach it. Just take things a little easier and allow for down time.

congratulations!

[Genevieve Swann]

Maybe transitioning soon would not be a bad idea. The sooner a child becomes accustomed to it the better. Young children learn very quickly and adjust. I have two daughters and they have their own lives now. Me being a CD didn't seems to bother them much. Actually it was accepted and nobody seemed to notice. Congratulations and good luck.Genevieve

[myles]

Congrats on the new edition. I understand about the kid thing I have 2 and after 2 years of trying to decide what to do I decided the younger they were the better. Today I took one of my sons to the dr. (I haven't told them yet seeing my therapist today about how to do that) and I asked if he would still hold my hand if I was his dad. He said yes and asked why, I said well I was just asking and he said then I would just call you papa and smiled. (hes 9)
Kids are amazing.
Myles

[Yochanan]

Wow, congratulations, Johnnie! *hugs*

Nicky got it right:

You might look masculine but you don't have to parent in a masculine way. Approach it in a way that feels right. Do the best you can do. That is all the child will want from you.

[Susan]

(Ideally, this baby will be a girl, but I'd be happy with a boy as well).

Just remember you never really know the answer to that question until you ask them and they answer...