I am becoming my father. (Are you?)

[petzjazz]

While fighting with my father today, I realized something: I am almost exactly like him.

And not in the good ways. I am arrogant, ambitious, wasteful, have an extremely addictive personality, have almost NO respect for other people's privacy, and am oblivious in that I choose to ignore all things which I do not "feel" like dealing with and/or would not benefit me in an appreciable way if I did deal with them.

This isn't to say that he doesn't have good qualities - however, I believe that he accquired them later down the path in life. My father, who is now in his late 50s, has told me openly and repeatedly that he was a complete jerk when he was younger. He refuses to elaborate much beyond that (and, as I said before, I do not often retain information about others which I don't think would benefit me in some way), but I think I'll take him at his word now because I think personality-wise, I'VE become what he was (minus the genitalia).

Physically, I'm the same height as him (now an inch taller, but I think that's because he's shrinking as he gets older, not because I'm still growing), have the same hair color, and the same broad shoulders. Age has mellowed him into a kinder, gentler man; I realize now that as I become a (male) adult, I am becoming the younger him - the fraternity-brother, alcoholic, medical snob him. Since my mother kept out of raising me as a kid as much as she could, this does not come entirely as a shock.

I've seen a lot of FTMs saying that post-T, they look a lot (or almost exactly) like their fathers. Does anyone else feel like you're a lot like them personality-wise too? In perhaps (since we are their children, and therefore more inclined to mention their negatives than their positives) not quite so flattering ways?   


   

[Miniar]

My dad rocks, I should be so lucky to be like the crazy atheist.

[Alyx.]

I'm exactly like my mother, accually.

[Snowdoggy]

Definitely in some ways.

Alcohol, sarcasm, strength, humour, hairy muscly forearms but not the weight yet.

[Yochanan]

This post makes my brain hurt. My dad's a girl. :s But I guess I can see how I might turn out to be like "he" was--my brother looks just like "him" in old pictures, and I look like a female version of my brother. *still confused*

[Jay]

I am sort of like my father I get on with my father best we both like Cars and have the same views I admire my father he is my hero!

If I turn out just like him, I will be more than pleased!

Jay

[milliontoone]

i can see some things in myself both physically and mentally that are similar to traits my father has, both positive and negative things. I am a very independent person like him but I can also be stubborn and I do certainly have his temper at times....

  I am hairy like him and am naturally quite skinny same as he is although I have a few love handles at the moment....he is an exercise fanatic unlike me, both my parents are, whereas I have always been more academic.

I have quite a lot of his facial features too I think especially nose and mouth although I think my eyes come from my mothers side of the family (I' ve been told I have jewish eyes whatever that means)...LOL

Oh and my father has a bizarre sense of humour, mind you so does my mother we are a family of regular weirdos
  I like to think I am my own person though although I can see bits of both my parents in me.

[icontact]

Physically, there's no way I'm ever going to be like my father since genetically, my mother is in every way the opposite. He's tall, stout, and black. My mother's short, skeletal, and asian. So even with T, I'm always going to look just like me. I like it that way.

I'd rather not think about whether I resemble him mentally. I hate him so I'd probably start hating myself if I thought about it and found myself to be similar.

[JonasCarminis]

hmm... this could be a nature or nurture experiment.   i am not genetically part of my parents since i was adopted.  in many ways im like my mom.  understanding, compassionate.... other junk... lol  and im like my dad in soe ways too.  short temper, analytical.  in other ways im not like either of my parents and i like that.  some of the things are so out of the blue that it makes me think that theres more nature than nurture in me.

[Osiris]

My mom often comments on how like my dad I am (personality wise).

As far as looks go I'm not really a spitting image of him but definitely have similar features.

[noxdraconis]

Unfortunately, I am my father minus the genetalia (he even has moobs, but that is because he is getting fat in his old age).  Same face, same personality.  The only picture that I ever seen of him from his boyhood could be easily mistaken for a picture of me.  I am like a creepy clone or something.

[V M]

Sometimes I think I am too much like my father. He was a Marine Corps SGT. But I am also a good degree of my mother. She grew up on a farm and was very tom boyish. I tend to exhibit more of my fem. side now. But the boy in me still appears from time to time. My dad didn't like it when I out ranked him as a Captain. But I think he's over it now  Gotta love Dad 

[Jamie-o]

Physically I take after my dad - in fact, I look nothing like my mom at all, except my coloring (skin, hair, eyes) comes somewhere between my mom's and my dad's. (He has black hair, brown eyes, and tan skin; she has blonde hair, blue eyes, and can't tan to save her life; I have brown hair, green eyes, and tan with effort, but am usually pasty white.)  On the surface my personality is more like my mom's.  We have many of the same interests, no financial sense, and a liberal social approach.  However, deep at the core, I think I'm more like my dad.  We have much the same values and general outlook on life.  Personally, I would be proud to be like my dad.

[GQjoey]

I've always been my father's son. He taught me how to throw a ball, skate, and spit like a champ. It's funny, cuz when my rents realized what was going on with me around 14-15, my mom told me my dad always wanted 2 boys, so it wasn't hard for him to see me that way.
He's the most sarcastic, stubborn, competitive, caring man you'd ever meet. And I would be forever grateful to turn into half of the man he is.
Anytime I wrinkle my eyes in frustration, or give her a smart ass remark to a question..I can't count how many times I've heard "you're just like your father". On a sidenote, for those of you on YouTube, search under the user name GQRootz and watch "Old mans christmas spirit"..he's always like that.

edit: and there's a good one of my homeboys face going through my wall. our next party is a "fix jay's wall" party.

[sneakersjay]

Totally like my dad -- easy going, laid back, roll with the punches along with the inability to sit still and do nothing...and yeah, I look like him, too!

[jet3]

Physically I don't look like my dad at all, I think I got all of my looks from my moms side of the family.  There are certain thing I do that are a lot like my dad.  We are both stubborn, sacastic, mentally strong, and super chill. My dad has changed a lot over the years, when I was young we weren't very close and honestly I couldnt stand him.  My parents got divorced when I was 10 because of his anger and just the way he treated people.  I swore to myself I would never be like that.  I had an extremely bad anger problem but I've learned to control it, it takes a lot to make me angry anymore.  After the divorce my dad began to change into an amazing person.  Now he is someone I respect greatly, he has become one of my bestfriends.  I think because I was able to see how he was when I was growing up I've been able to X out his negative traits (anger).  But yea i see a lot of similarities. My brother on the other hand, we might as well have been identical twins.

[Ender]

Yeah, I bear some similarities with my dad, much to my mom's chagrin (exclamations of "you're just like your father!" started when I was pretty young).  When she yells that, I'm probably exhibiting one of my father's less favorable traits: lack of emotion, bullheadedness, with a bit of arrogance thrown in.  The biggest thing is the lack of emotion; my mom's a very emotional person, and my dad... not so much.  I'm actually surprised I didn't turn out more emotional like my mom, because I was around her way more when I was little (my dad left the child-rearing to her).  But alas, I didn't, and I'm as emotionally constipated as my father; I do have emotions--but damned if I'll acknowledge or express them.

That trait I really do think was learned.  When I was a little kid, I was trying to figure out where I fit in and I looked to my father and grandfather (and to an extent, an older male cousin that I looked up to) and said "well, I'm like them, so I should act like them."  So I worked on stifling my emotions from a pretty young age; getting ridiculed if I showed weakness (crying or other emotional behavior) probably helped that along, though.  And hugs and any kind of physical contact are taboo on my dad's side of the family (who I had more contact with growing up), so I'm not real big on those, either.

But enough of the bad stuff.  The good traits of my dad that I seem to have in common are: a logical mind that can think through difficult decisions in a clear-headed manner (this is something my mom has said that she admires about my dad and I--apparently, she has a harder time being clear-headed and says that she lets emotions cloud her judgement); my dad and I are both quick learners; we have an uncanny knack for fixing things; we do not shirk our duties and perform our work to our highest ability; we are both determined and confident in our abilities.

And physically?  When I first got my hair buzz-cut, I glanced at my shadow and stopped dead in my tracks:  "Good God, I look like my dad."  Alas, it's the ears... my dad (and his dad) and myself all have ears that are just a bit larger than average; coupled with our large jaws, they produce a distinct silhouette that we all share.  I'm sure that that the similarities will only increase as I get older... my dad, now that he's lost more hair, is the spitting image of his own father (I've only known my grandfather as a very bald man  , but my grandmother informs me that when my dad and grandfather were my age, they both had thick wavy hair the same as mine).  And my eyes... my dad smiles with his eyes and they squint as he does so.  I do the same.

[imaz]

Not like either of my parents at all, thank God.

Mum was crazy and my Dad liked shag around.

Well, on second thoughts...!

[Aiden]

I look more like my mom right now doubt will be looking like my father, hoping maybe simular to my grandfather when he was younger though   since thats where some of mom's features I have come from.

As for attitude, I have some of both parents and some of my own.  I have always prided myself as an individual but I know I have my temper from both sides, my sensitivity from my father, the tendency to have to have last word comes from my father.

My interests are more towards my father's in fact I took up Star Trek and scifi from him.  Used to rock climb with him and camp and hike.  But still I have my own unique way of things that is me.

[Sophie90]

It could be worse.

You could be turning into your mother.

I talk like her. Worryingly so.