I can see why women and men who have transsexed or are transsexing might be averse to accepting things that they imagine Virginia Prince had anything to do with. She was (although still alive she no longer entertains at soirees or public forums nor does she write books any longer) quite the high-handed, convinced I am right with no equality granted kinda person that many transsexed women seem to manage to be themselves.
http://www.gender.org.uk/conf/2000/king20.htmThe read is instructive about her. I think the things I find most ironic are the ones that if you changed a name or word here or there you'd effectively be reading some of the more blatantly authoritarian documents you see posted around the web from others who would mandate everyone's acceptance of their own ideas. In point of fact there are more than a few of her notions as delineated in that essay that are absolutely indistinguishable from a lot of what I have read in various recently published articles formerly posted here. Ironic, no? Not really, people who demand their own rightness to the exclusion of any possibility that another might have a point often seem very similar in their own ideas and presentations. Just the way things are.
Terms and words that become general usage take on lives of their own. The coiner can hardly guide the way the word/s is/are used and defined after a certain critical mass of people begin to use the word/s. It's a seriously insane essay to make the attempt.
That there are differences between cds, tvs, dqs, tses (of both genders) and a host of other acronymically-defined folk who appear to fall under or try to escape that umbrella that actually comprises not just the T but also the LBG, is simply a given. In the same fashion that in being a member of the NAACP I may not be only an African-American. I could well be "white" or Jewish-white or Jewish-dark or Hispanic of various hues or some other color or designation entirely. But my pursuit of equality under the law might touch many other lives than just my own or people just like me.
The deal is, are there points at which the socio-political landscape may be better made to assist me rather than to harm me if I ally myself and my cause with the causes of others who might have reasons to assist me if I assist them? The answer to that would be "hell yeah." And I would just do so not only with the LBGT, but with Republicans, Socialists, Libertarians, Green Partyists, and anyone else who might be willing to ally themselves with my agenda.
What I find consistently amazing is not that people want to take ownership of particular words and try to make certain that "the true meaning" (a laughable concept, linguistically speaking) never changes. Shoot, Noah Webster, Voltaire, Pierre Bayle, Dr. Johnson and all sorts of other people have done that as well: they've made dictionaries!! Yet, what invariably occurs is that if the dictionary continues to be updated, then the definitions consistently change and you get those entries that say
obsl at the head of their entries. That would be
obsolete "no longer in common usage."
Life moves on, if you can get in to see her ask Virginia Prince in her nursing home. If she still talks she can tell ya she's not living in 1997 or even 1948 any longer. Neither are any of us. The wise tactic seems to me 1) don't try to mold the language into my ownership of a particular word (The task is doomed to failure,) and 2) take whatever allies you may who will agree to at least have your back if necessary. That's a rather eternal political principle. Once you gain total power you can rid yourself of them at your leisure.