Coming out to date - UPDATE

[sneakersjay]

Well, it's finally time to come out to the lady I've been dating.  I can't go any further or completely be myself until she knows my history.  I have kids who still call me Mom, though they're pretty good about  male pronouns, and family and occasionally coworkers who still slip with pronouns.  I like her and want her in my life, but the time has come.

A good friend and transguy made some recommendations on how to go about it, so here's hoping I'm not dumped!


Jay

[Janet_Girl]

I wish you the best, Jay.  If she cares for you at all, she may want to think about this news for awhile.

But you always can try again if the 'dumping' happens.  And if it does happen, we are for you to dump on. 

Janet

[myles]

Good luck! I hope all goes well.
Myles

[Jay]

I hope all goes well and like Janet says if worst comes to worst *touches wood* then we are here for you bud!

When are you meeting your lady friend then?

Jay

[sneakersjay]

I'm prepared to be dumped, but hope it's not the case.  But whatever happens, I've had more dating action as a transguy than I had prior to transition!  So it's all good, no matter what happens.


Jay
Post Merge: March 19, 2009, 01:17:23 PM

I hope all goes well and like Janet says if worst comes to worst *touches wood* then we are here for you bud!

When are you meeting your lady friend then?

Jay

We had a date yesterday, and after that I decided I needed to come out.  I'm hoping to tell her by Monday, because Monday I have a speaking engagement (trans related) where she can come and get more info/input.

Jay

[Jay]

That is definitely a good way especially if you are doing a speach on trans people.

I hope it all works out well

Jay

[pong]

Goodluck Jay! Hope it all works out!

[Osiris]

Good luck Jay! It sounds like you have a good plan. I'm crossin my fingers for you.

[sd]

I wish you luck Jay.

[sneakersjay]

And the answer is...


... No.


I expected it, but the hardest part of her saying no was that she was "not interested" in coming to the Trans Panel where I'm speaking on Monday to learn a bit more.

C'est la vie!!


Jay

[Kristen]

Oh well, her loss.

[Jay]

Oh well, her loss.

I second that! Sorry Jay.

Jay

[pong]

Sorry to hear Jay! Like what Kristen said, it's her loss...

[Nero]

And the answer is...


... No.


I expected it, but the hardest part of her saying no was that she was "not interested" in coming to the Trans Panel where I'm speaking on Monday to learn a bit more.

C'est la vie!!


Jay

No as in what? it's over just because you're trans/ that's it? how long had you been seeing each other?

[sd]

I'm sorry Jay, I wish it had gone better.

[myles]

Jay sorry to hear she was not responsive/interested to going to the Panel. Definitely her loss dude.
Myles

[Janet_Girl]

Sorry, Jay.  But there is always another day and another date.


~ Hugs Big Guy ~
Janet

[sneakersjay]

No as in what? it's over just because you're trans/ that's it? how long had you been seeing each other?

Yep, over because I'm trans, not interested in going to the panel, not really into discussing it in person, nothing's going to change her mind.  This was after the 5th date where we were clearly into each other and planning a 6th date.

Jay

[Miniar]

At least it came up before you were head over heels in love with her.
*hugs*

[sneakersjay]

At least it came up before you were head over heels in love with her.
*hugs*

Exactly. 


Jay