what do guys really want???

[scarboroughfair]

I wrote this in a dating site forum, but thought it would apply here also.

I have written a few guys that say they want a relationship and never so much as got a reply. Others I gave my number to and they never called. I know I'm no beauty queen! lol But I don't see myself as ugly.

From the looks of it I'm not alone here trying to find a guy.

What is it that they want? The young model type bombshells? Hey, I understand if someone doesn't feel attracted to me, but don't ignore me.

I, like many of the other girls here seem to have a lot too offer as far as long term relationships go.

Back in the year 2000 I didn't know I was a girl, though my life was torture wanting to be one. I knew even then the odds of finding a straight guy would be next to impossible! I shoved my feelings under the rug for seven years then they came back with violent force in 2008. That's when I started to read about transexuals. It was by accident that I tripped on a site that talks about what a tsgirl feels. It was then that my mind made the connection that I already am a girl! I always new I felt like and wanted to be a girl, I just never made the connection that I already am.

With that said, it renewed my interest in finding a straight guy and pursuing my transition!
I read that guys like tsgirls because they embody the best of what a genetic woman has without the hangups and we're more feminine. HEY! That's me!

Instead, I'm confronted with a lot of porn, players and perverts. I hope my account is not deleted for my candor. I'm not saying all men are like this, but if you talk to some that say they're respectable, they're not. To top it off, I offered help in a few forums as far as fighting for rights and asking what I can do for the ts community and get little to no response! Hey look, if no one cares I'll leave it alone and fight for myself. I said in a blog that I'm beginning to think being "bold" is a sin as far as the ts community goes, sort of feeling like an outcast on many sites that I'm leaving and will soon be leaving. I've been on my own my whole life with this and had no support. It seems the remainder of my life will be spent in the same manner.

I'm finding I'm back to where I was in 2000 as far as guys go, it's next to impossible to find a good guy that will love me for me. I'm not bitter though! I'm happy that I found myself and learned so much along the way.

I guess my question is, am I just conning myself that there are guys that look at the heart and soul rather than the parts you have, your age or whatever?
I'm one of the most self observant people in the world, I think I may tweak my mind a bit to go ahead and continue with my transition, but take the need for a man out of the picture...

[imaz]

Most heterosexual women feel the same about men, even my counsellor was moaning to me about men just two hours ago! It's perfectly normal.

[sd]

When they say all good guys are either gay or taken, it's true.

Most guys all start off the same, in raw form, they just want a warm moist hole. They mostly only date for this reason. The trick is to find one that seems decent enough, then slowly make them into a man and want to be in a relationship. You don't simply find this guy unless you steal him.

[Ashley315]

I've said it many many times before....

Not a day goes by I don't thank God for making me a lesbian.

There are some good men out there it's not just a myth, but they seem to be few and far between unfortunately for those of you looking for one.

Men tend to be, by nature, more sexual beings.  As in, they put a lot more thought into getting sex rather than building a strong  bond with a single person.  Biologist would say it is their innate need to spread their seed around to as many women as possible to insure their genes are past on to the next generation.   Thus the "need" for sex in most men

[Luc]

Pizza. Guys want pizza.

[Ashley315]

Hell, I want pizza!!!!!!

[Zelane]

SEX

[hayden.]

as my grandmother would say: there's a lid for every pot.
there's someone for everyone.
ironically, you never find that person while you're trying.



i agree, though.
pizza and sex are pretty high on the priorities list.
but intelligence doesn't hurt.
nor does a nice rack.

[tekla]

Different people have different needs, no one group is all alike.  And those needs, wants and desires change over time, what I look for now is almost the exact opposite of what I was looking for in my early 20s.  Though neither list is, or was, based on sex alone, I know the one now is much more detailed, much more exacting. 

[Marshplains]

Hope that i wont get much heat for this , but ..
I haven't seen many men that would say no to Claudia Schiffer or an equivalent before they turn 80yo , so you know what i think they always want.  On the other hand i haven't seen many women that would say no to a handsome billionaire that will treat them and their kids like royalty even if he is a smack in every other aspect . Biological programming i think, but it can be fooled easily by one thing only. Love.

[Ashley315]

I'd say no to the handsome billionaire no matter how he treated me... okay, well, I might drain his money first by making him think he had a chance with me.   

[JakeGrimm]

Sex, food, and lots of toys. 

kidding. I dunno. I've been thinking that myself.

[Lachlann]

Well, I don't know about other guys, but I'd want someone loyal, honest and loving.

[Joseph]

Well, I don't know about other guys, but I'd want someone loyal, honest and loving.

Agreed.  I don't care how beautiful on the outside she is if she's totally ugly on the inside.

[Andrew]

I totally disagree on the subject of guys. I'm not going to speak for myself because I know I'm not a typical guy, but the guys I've dated have all been sweet, caring, and ready for commitment. And I don't think it's just gay guys, either. Maybe I just look in the right places -- I'm a student, and this might help.

My advice is to stay away from the internet and/or bars. It's possible that the reason you've been meeting jerks is that you're looking in places where creeps tend to congregate. Guys that go out for the sole purpose of picking up women generally don't have your best interest at heart. It's better to meet guys in places that aren't solely about picking people up or having sex. Social events, book clubs, colleges, etc. might give you a fighting chance at picking up a non-loser.

[sd]

Sorry, I just re-read what I wrote, it was meant to be tongue in cheek with a little truth thrown in.

[Jenny Jackson]

Being the ever so subtle creatures that they are, not, I'd have had to be pretty dim witted not to work out what guys seem to want from me, their problem is that I'm just not prepared to offer it.

[Genevieve Swann]

Many guys will modify what they want in order to get to their ultimate goal. They don't really lie. It's not the whole truth. Things like, your the most attractive woman I know. I love for your inner self, etc.

[FairyGirl]

hey maybe we should make a perfume that smells like pizza 

[Ashley315]

and guys should wear cologne that smells like money..