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Started by Rae09, April 10, 2009, 12:37:31 AM

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cindybc

#20
April 17, 2009, 10:38:51 PM
QuoteOne semi-serious thing that did used to flit through my mind when I was living in man-world and hanging out with my buddies was that if I WAS a girl, I'd be in the horrible position of having to select a mate from amongst this bunch!  ;D

"Hee, hee, hee." I laughed me ass off when I read that one, and I quite agree. Looking at them from the female perspective there have been only three gents in all my life I would have truly latched unto if I had been born with the correct plumbing.

Cindy
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Just Kate

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April 18, 2009, 02:46:26 AM
Quote from: VioletNight on April 10, 2009, 02:00:12 AM
Every day. If there is a way not to be jealous, I have yet to figure it out.

Conditioning.  When you encounter stimulus that provokes jealousy, rather than retreating from it to a place more comforting, continue to focus on it, until the jealousy passes or at least is more bearable.  Begin to associate the stimulus with different thoughts.  Giving in to jealousy without learning to control it, only negatively reinforces the jealousy making you MORE likely to feel it.  Treat it like a phobia.  Running from a phobia only strengthens it.  The trick is to stick with the phobic stimulus until it ceases in a small way to be scary, and practice until the phobia lessens to manageable levels.

If you are unable to do it alone, professional help is there for help dealing with these feelings - they certainly do not provoke a healthy sense of self and will only lead to depression and actions to relieve the stress of the jealousy which might in turn make your GID worse.  Ok I went a little deeper than intended - but the OP's feelings are not uncommon for us, but they don't have to dominate us.
Ill no longer be defined by my condition. From now on, I'm just, Kate.

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cindybc

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April 18, 2009, 03:39:16 AM
QuoteGiving in to jealousy without learning to control it, only negatively reinforces the jealousy making you MORE likely to feel it.  Treat it like a phobia.  Running from a phobia only strengthens it.  The trick is to stick with the phobic stimulus until it ceases in a small way to be scary, and practice until the phobia lessens to manageable levels.

Quite agree. Most any time I was jealous of anyone,usually another woman did increase the GID or was greatly for the most part GID related. But then like any other human emotion or feelings I usually handled with tears.

Silent tears where no one could see me. To many years of that. That is also a very hard way to deal with things, especially when there was no one to go to. I can't hate, I do not have the capacity or ability to hate because that is also an emotion that hurts to much. Feeling inferior or less then can also be a painful experience.

Phobias and fear can also take a lot out of you. They are all things that one has to confront and deal with especially if you have GID. I came to having to deal with all these human failings well before I even began to deal with the GID. It made dealing with GID much easier in much more rational ways.

Cindy
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Nikki

#23
April 20, 2009, 03:35:08 AM
I do as well.
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V M

#24
April 20, 2009, 04:25:54 AM
I find myself feeling envious at times. Especially around pregnant women. But it is not in a negative sense. More of a happy for them and wish full sense. Some of them can see the envy in my eyes and talk to me like any other girl
The main things to remember in life are Love, Kindness, Understanding and Respect - Always make forward progress

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- V M
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vanna

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April 20, 2009, 04:29:07 AM
Quote from: Virginia Marie on April 20, 2009, 04:25:54 AM
I find myself feeling envious at times. Especially around pregnant women. But it is not in a negative sense. More of a happy for them and wish full sense. Some of them can see the envy in my eyes and talk to me like any other girl

i can agree Virginia i was only talking of this to my therapist on friday. i have learnt to give it up but it still pains me inside but like you happy for them but sad for yourself.
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Jay

#26
April 20, 2009, 04:38:48 AM
Every day for me also, more so when I am drunk to be honest as I notice all the guys having fun and realising that should have been me. I haven't yet found a way to not be jealous, when I feel like I have been cheated.

Jay
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vanna

#27
April 20, 2009, 04:42:00 AM
Quote from: Jay on April 20, 2009, 04:38:48 AM
Every day for me also, more so when I am drunk to be honest as I notice all the guys having fun and realising that should have been me. I haven't yet found a way to not be jealous, when I feel like I have been cheated.

Jay

It gets better sweetie
"hug"
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Jay

#28
April 20, 2009, 01:35:08 PM
Quote from: Ms Delgado on April 20, 2009, 04:42:00 AM
It gets better sweetie
"hug"

Thanks  8)


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Paulina

#29
April 21, 2009, 04:16:54 PM
Today I was so jealous of these two girls going back and forth about their conversation about college, cute guys, parties, make up, getting married with a rich guy.... They were both different, but they had this connection, since they were girls. They even do make up with each other during class, and talk all the time about life, and shows like Gossip Girl.

And I was just jealous of it all lol, not of them, but of the experience they were having.
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