Do you cheat when its convenient

[ssindysmith]

This question may have been addressed already and this only applies to pre-ops, do you cheat when its convenient? I am talking about in the bathroom. I have made a conscious decision to develop feminine characteristics including how I use the bathroom. A GG has no choice. However , not living fulltime and using a male restroom can be somewhat revolting, I have also been told that woman's restrooms can be just as filthy if not worse than the men's room.

So do you cheat and use that disgusting appendage between your legs or not?

[Melissa]

Only once since I went fulltime.  I had to use an outhouse and it stunk so bad I could barely stand to be in it.  It was mostly for speed reasons I didn't sit.   Plus there were people waiting for me.  That was a week into fulltime, but I haven't stood since.

Melissa

[sky]

Even GGs stand up sometimes if its really filthy!

[Sheila]

When I started my transitioning phase, not when I went full time, I sat everytime. I wanted to get use to sitting and no matter what the predicament I sat. At first it was a problem as if I didn't hold it down there it would squirt through the toilet bowel and the seat and get everything wet. So it was a big problem for me. I was so glad the first time I sat and didn't have to push it down. It was very nice.
Sheila

[Elizabeth]

ssindysmith,

I was never comfortable in men's restrooms.  I hated having to pee standing next to other men.  I also hated dressing rooms.   I always got dressed in stalls and peed in stalls, because I was wearing girls underwear, which of course I did not want anyone to see.  I was what is refered to as a "shyguy".  Even my male children used to think it was weird that I dressed in a stall, when I used to take them to the public swimming pool.

Having said all of that, I never cheat.  I enjoy sitting while peeing, not to mention I can wipe it dry and make sure I don't have a pee spot on my pants from that trickle that used to happed to me, once I put it away, that used to be very embarrassing.

I also hated having urine splash back on me from certain kinds of urinals or splash marks on my shoes.  I also found the noise of peeing into the water embarrassing, when hitting the sides is either impossible or causes splash back. All in all, I like sitting and look forward to the time when there is nothing to tuck down.

Love always,
Elizabeth

[tinkerbell]

I have never cheated either   Believe it or not...I come from a family where the males always sit to urinate; my dad, my uncles, and my grandpa, they all sit to urinate...and I couldn't be the exception to the rule, could I?


tinkerbell

[cindianna_jones]

I'm post op for 18 years now.  But I'll answer the question.  Did I cheat before?  Oh yea. Everytime it was convenient.  Never at work. But always at home.

Cindi

[stephanie_craxford]

I don't believe that I've ever cheated, even when I'm out or was out in the kayak or canoe, even then I squatted (that sounds so crude) but it's what girls do

Steph

[LostInTime]

At home I do occasionally.  At one club that has single stalls as their bathrooms (4 total, always a line) I do as well near the end of the night because by then the bathrooms are trashed.  At work, never.

[Melissa]

One more thing is I have pretty much always sat and this was long, long before accepting who I was.  It's just more comfortable.  Heck, I was sitting pretty much all the time prior to even going fulltime while dressed like a male.  Also, it's not a matter of "cheating", but rather being resourceful and using what's currently there.

Melissa

[Chynna]

ALL THE TIME

I never sit on a public toliet just aint happening.

And I love what SKY said

[Kim]

Only cheat if I am in a porta potty or out house where the seat looks like it could reach out and bite you at any time due to it's filth. Heck there's no janitors to keep it clean like inside a building. I find it awkward when I have to do this and am very happy to get the heck out of the place after.

[Buffy]

Yeah... I used to cheat sometimes but never in a rest room or toilet.....

Nipping behind a tree or a wall after a few drinks was a bonus when dying for a pee... one advantage guys have is the world is their urinal.

Post op... In a hurry or if the rest rooms are hot hygienic (as sky said), you can still stand up, takes time to master and perfect though.

Buffy

[DawnL]

That's one of the quirks of my dysphoria.  I was sitting for years before I transitioned, so no, I never cheated, not even in the woods.  I don't consider standing or hovering--as many women do--in gross unhygienic places cheating.

Post op...you can still stand up, takes time to master and perfect though.

Works 90% of the time.  The other 10% is a disaster 

Dawn

[BrandiOK]

I have "cheated" only once since starting my transition.  I had no choice really because the restroom was filthy and I couldn't hold out any longer.  I didn't think it would affect me as much as it did but I honestly felt 'dirty' in a way.  I will NEVER do it again unless there is absolutely no other way around it.

[Kim]

Unfortunately for me in my line of work there are times where you have but 2 choices-cheat in a filthy port a potty or hold it for 8 hours- I agree standing leaves you feeling wrong and kind of dirty or out of whack - which ever way one feels best to describe it- but I would rather feel like a bad girl than a wet girl for 7 or 8 hours!!lol 

[Annwyn]

So do you cheat and use that disgusting appendage between your legs or not?

Why not?  I mean if the urine's got to come out, it's gotta come out!
You can atleast pee anywhere, like you don't have to take your pants down on the side of the road or something, it's rather convenient.  And I mean, if you've got it, it's no use being disgusted with it.  REALITY CHECK!
Just go to whichever bathroom you have to, if you're dressed as a dude, go to the dude bathroom, likewise if you're dressed en femme.  I don't think it really matters, and going psycho over soemthing so trivial as this... get real.  I mean, you'll have plenty of time to freak out about stuff later when you're on hormones and CAN'T go to the boy's bathroom, don't make a big deal out of it now.

Annwyn

[Melissa]

I mean, you'll have plenty of time to freak out about stuff later when you're on hormones and CAN'T go to the boy's bathroom, don't make a big deal out of it now.

Hehe, been there, done that.  I had to start using unisex bathrooms or hold it.

Melissa

[HelenW]

I "cheated" today, just this afternoon before leaving work to go home for lunch.

It's funny that when I was a kid I always preferred to sit, even when strongly discouraged, and I berated myself for "laziness!"  Now, I usually sit and every once in a while to maintain my disguise's credibility at work, I make sure to stand when there's another guy in the bathroom.

I despise how good I am at lying, you know?  And yet, I still do it - many times out of sheer habit - but I'm slowly getting better and slowly allowing the honesty.

And I just thank goodness for my prostate mediine! 
helen

[Hazumu]

Google [female urinate standing] and then take your pick of assisted or unassisted methods. 

Manila envelopes can be hastily modified by tearing off appropriate parts with fingers--

You can buy ready-made disposable devices--

Or you can go unassisted, but you should read and understand the directions and start by practicing in the shower.  Just because of the additional choices it gives me for servicing the bladder light, I plan to start practicing that technique just as soon after surgery as is reasonably comfortable and sanitary.

Years ago, I found out about a way to cut down on the male 'dribble', by the way.  There's a spot just south of the scrotum (Labia Majora, for you post-ops,) that seems to be close to the reservoir of dribble.  Press that spot before doing whatever it is you do these days to stow Mr. Johnson, and you no longer have to shake and dance...

As to cheating these days -- only when I have to.  Nobody's missed me yet at the consoles, either... 

Karen