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Started by Julie_in_MT, September 01, 2006, 11:16:58 PM

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Julie_in_MT

Hello everyone!!

My name is Julie and I live in western Montana in the Capital city of Helena.
It's nice to be here!! ;D
I am a regular over at the Beginning Life boards on Melanie's site.
A little background on me, I just turned 40 back in July. I've been aware that I was female since I was around 5 years old. My first attempt at coming out and RLT was back in January 2002. I had been on HRT for the previous 9 months and I was ready to begin the process of coming out to family,friends,employer,etc. I ended up losing most of my family and about half of my friends.
My employer at the time was very hostile towards my transition and forced me out of my job.
I then became divorced after 10 years of marrage due to who I was. This sounds all too familar to alot of you doesn't it??? Anyway,needless to say I became more than a little traumitized by all of this and as a result I ceased my transition for the next 4.5 years. I did stay on HRT and I thank myself everyday that I did.
I met a very nice woman back in late 2002 and we became married shortly therafter.
She knew going in that I was TS. She and   I thought I could walk the gender line and just exsist in a nether world between genders. I was successful at supressing my true feelings for about 4.5 years.
About 6 months ago I came to the realization that I must continue my transition including SRS or die by my own hand. I became very very panicky and depressed. I finally came clean about my felings to my wife. She said she knew that that's what was going on. She doesnt know if she can stay with me through all of this. I understand. I am starting my 2nd and final RLT in January of this coming year.
After 5 and half years of HRT my body is in excellent shape for my upcoming RLT and for the rest of my life. I pass very well and consider myself very very blessed.
I'll post a photo as my avatar shortly.
Again it's great to be here andI look forward to meeting all of you!!! :)

Julie
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tinkerbell



Hi Julie and welcome to Susan's.  Thank you so much for your introduction.  Please feel free to explore the entire site, get familiar with the site rules and try the chat room and explore the wiki (our goldmine of information)l.  We look forward to your future posts.  Enjoy your stay!!!


tinkerbell
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BrandiOK

Welcome Julie.....FINALLY I'm not the newbiest newbie of them all!!!!!  I'm a newbie but these are some really nice people.  Hope you enjoy the site  :)
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Mario

Hey Julie,

        Welcome. I lived in Missoula for a bit 11 years ago. Just visited ther last November. Anyway, have a look around and enjoy.

                                                 Marco
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Buffy

Hi Julie,

Welcome to Susan's..

There are some great things to do here and some wonderful people.

Don't forget to check out the chat rooms and the wiki.

Buffy

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cindianna_jones

Welcome!  It's always nice to see a new face.

I'm sort of a newbie too.  I've only been here two months! 

Cindi
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stephanie_craxford

Quote from: BrandiOK on September 01, 2006, 11:48:09 PM
Welcome Julie.....FINALLY I'm not the newbiest newbie of them all!!!!!  I'm a newbie but these are some really nice people.  Hope you enjoy the site  :)

Not any more :)  Let me add my welcome to the others Julie.  Welcome to Susan's, I hope that you enjoy your stay here.

Steph
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sky

Welcome Julie! Have fun and enjoy yourself! You're welcome to join us in the chat rooms too!
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Julie_in_MT

Hi!!! :) it's me!!

I want to thank all of you that have responded thus far to my intial post.
All of you are so kind.
One thing I wanted to address, I stated that I pass very well. While I think this is true it did sound like I was bragging or being calious. I'm very very sensitive to others feelings and wanted to say that I really didnt want to come accross as being this way. If I have offended any of you please accept my apologies. I have a high level of self confidence mostly derived from alot of female friends. Due to these friendship's I have gained a huge amount of insight into how to present myself,dress,act,talk and generally live my life as "me". I've lost alot of people due to being TS but I have gained even more friends and sister's because of it, and it's due to that blessing that I have gained confidence to just be me. Thankyou for this site and thankyou for being around. :)

With much love,

Julie
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Melissa

Welcome to Susans Julie.  I'm glad you found this site.  Don't confuse self-confidence with arrogance.  I think compassion for others is what makes the difference and I get the feeling from you that you possess that quality.  So, have fun looking around and posting.  One thing we have here not available on BL is a chatroom that can be accessed by clicking on chat link at the top of every page.

Melissa
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Hazumu

Hi, Julie, welcome to Susan's!  Now please copy-paste your great self introduction over to the Introductions forum so that other members of Susan's not just the MtF's, can welcome you  ;)

What number (on the Montana license plate) is Helena?  I have a friend that lived in Kalispell (7) for several years, and another friend lived in Libby (56 or 52, I think.)  Knowing those numbers came in handy one day when I spotted a VW sporting Montana-7 plates here in my hometown of Sacramento.  I happened to stop abreast of the VeeDub at a light, and shouted out, "Hey! How are things in Kalispell?"  The double-take was priceless  ;D ;D ;D

But, as beautiful as Montana is, you may want to consider finding a place to live and work that's more tolerant of the spectrum of gender expression.  If you choose to stay, I sincerely hope it works out for you.

Karen
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HelenW

Welcome and Hello, Julie!

Quote from: JulieI thought I could walk the gender line and just exist in a nether world between genders.

This is something I was thinking of doing myself.  Even though it didn't work for you long term, can you tell us how you managed it for as long as you did?

I'm pleased that you have found us and I hope to read more and more from you.

again, Welcome ! !  :)
helen
FKA: Emelye

Pronouns: she/her

My rarely updated blog: http://emelyes-kitchen.blogspot.com

Southwestern New York trans support: http://www.southerntiertrans.org/
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Julie_in_MT

Hi again everyone!! :)

Thanks again to all for such a warm and wonderful welcome!!

To karen, Helena is in Lewis & Clark County witch is # 5 on the license plates.

To Helen, Helen I was able to walk that line for a rahter long time with alot of diversions, the largest being distance running. I love to run!!! Totally engulfing myself in trail running and long distance running in general allowed me to control and put off the enevitable.
I became very ill with dehydration right before my 50K (31 mile) trail race here in the Hlena area so I was unable to race in it!! >:(  Running up to 75 miles a week I was unable to ignore the ever increasing pressure that was building concerning my delay in transitioning.

Thanks again everyone!! :)

Julie
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tinkerbell

Quote from: JulieI'm very very sensitive to others feelings

No need to apologize for anything, Julie.  Like you, I am also very sensitive to people's comments regarding my person.  You would think that after so many years of living as a woman, I shouldn't give a flying fly, but the fact of the matter is that I still do.

Again welcome to Susan's and please feel free to ask questions....we are always here to help and  not to judge! :)


tinkerbell  :icon_chick:   
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Owen

Hi JUlie and welcom to susans.  I am not on HRT yet and it may be another 2 or 3 years yet that I start. Am seeing a therepist on a limmited basis. I have always thought of myself as female but could never express it till now. I am also sensitive to others comments of me regardless of how I dress.  Something I need to overcome if I am to transition.

Again welcome.  Hope to see more posts.

Owen

Love being female :angel:
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Jillieann Rose

Hi Julie,
I just wanted to add my welcome to all the rest. It is good to meet you.
And thank you for the encouragement. THe TS road is not an easy road for most of us.
:)
Jillieann
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Kia Lafemme

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Kendall

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Peggiann

Hi Julie,

You have came through much. I wanted to say welcome and to help you and your wife in uncertain stages to keep your lines of communication. It will be what truly helps. Share Susan's place and the S.O.'s Forum with her. There are others here that are at many different stages in the transition journey. Reading of their journey issues can be very helpful. I for one have experienced much growth from all the information here in the forums, the chat, and the wiki pages. The knowledge can be more comforting than one can imagine. Your wife will soon learn she is not alone in this journey.

I'm Leah's S.O. some where on one of the back pages in the introduction forum you can read about us and what we went through. Also on the S.O.'s forum are more from us as we live through this journey. There are many other's here with mush to share that can be helpful.

Enjoy getting to know us all and share what ever your comfort level allows. I look forword to reading more from you.

Smile,
Peggiann
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amberwish

hi julie. welcome to susans. you will enjoy it here with all the wonderful people. every one cares so much.

hugs and  :-* amber
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