I Forgot That Love Is What Makes A Family

[Shana A]

I Forgot That Love Is What Makes A Family
by: Autumn Sandeen
Mon May 11, 2009 at 05:00:00 AM EDT

http://pamshouseblend.com/diary/10912/i-forgot-that-love-is-what-makes-a-family

Yesterday, I tweeted the following:

    I don't feel like I have a day as a parent. I'm not truly a mother, & I'm truly not a father either - I'm just a parent.

It was in response to an Allyson Robinson's tweet that was only tangential to considering transgender parenting. Frankly, my oldest son calls me "Autumn," and my twins and I aren't on speaking terms. But even if my twins and I were on speaking terms, I'm about 100% sure that they don't see me as a Mom to them at all.

Mom's Day hasn't seemed like my day, but Dad's Day hasn't felt like my day either. And, as far as I know anyway, there is no gender neutral parents' day.