I suppose I can answer this, despite being a mtf. I've lived the majority of my life as a guy, hoping that will change, so I might be able to add some enlightenment to this issue.
Despite the fact that society is changing, the traditional role of a man is to provide for his family and see that they want for nothing. This often involves personal sacrifices on his part in the form of time and the money he earns. He is supposed to feel good about doing this, since (traditionally), the place of a woman is at home cooking and stuff. People still seem to accept these societal norms even though they don't really apply anymore, and that really means they do apply. However, they do not necessarily have to apply to you.
Typically, men are attracted to women because of their looks and personality. Women are attracted to men because of their social status and money. This was fine for a number of centuries as it enabled women to find those who were more likely to care for their children, thus ensuring the survival of the species. Now that women have more say in their own lives, though, we (by that I mean us women) are finding out that social status is a pretty poor qualifier to use as a determining factor to find a mate.
So then, the question is not "what is a man?" but "what should be a man?" A man should be someone who understands, who does not expect slave labor out of his woman just because society tells him this is the way it should be. A man should be someone who shares in a lot of the chores and doesn't balk if the woman feels tired after a long day of work and just wants to relax. A man should be someone who is willing to spend money on his woman, but also plan for their future. In short, a man should be everything a woman needs in her life, as she is trying to be everything that he needs in his life. If more relationships worked this way, there would be a lot fewer divorces, I think.
