Lady's lap

[barbie]

My 5-year old daughter says like:

"Dad, please do not sit like lady. I can not sit on your lap."

She likes to sit on my lap while I have dinner at home or drink some light alcohol beverages after exercise. My crossed legs makes it difficult for her to sit on my lap, and she compalins like "Dad! You sit like a lady!!"

And, today she murmured that a man should not wear a skirt 

Barbie~~

[Cindy]

Hi Barbie,
At some time you are going to have to approach the question. Are you male or female? Or rather what do you identify as. I respectively suggest that your daughter is getting mixed messages. You certainly look more female than male from your avatars. You obviously pass in public as female.

Time to think about the future Honey

Not an easy task

Love and Hugs

Cindy

[barbie]

Hi, Cindy,

Thanks for comments.

I identify myself as androgynous.

Since my puberty, people have commented that my posture, gesture and speech are like female. I always prefered sitting on my knees, but others said it is hard to sit like me. Sitting on knees is tradtionally for women here. Some aged women said that if I were born as a woman, it would be far better for me.

South Korea is a family-oriented society. Of course, family is most important in any country, but it is more emphasized in Korean law. For example,

"The Supreme Court of South Korea has ruled that in order for a person to be eligible for a sex-change operation they must be over 20 years of age, single and without children" http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/LGBT_rights_in_South_Korea#Transgender_rights

This means that I should give up my family if I want SRS. My family is far more important than my gender issue. Whether I pass or not, I am a dad.

My friends and others also worry about my children, but until now, no serious problem. All of my kids know that I sometimes wear skirts, and they see my high heels in the shoes cabinet and other women's clothes. I do not hide them. I believe basic ability of judgement is essentially the same between kids and adults. When I wore very short mini-skirt, my first son commented that it is too short, and that he does not like it. I changed to another skirt, and he approved it. That was when he was about 8 years old.

Barbie~~