Feeling a little alone.

[Jack12]

I'm not sure what to do. I have GID and I just got "diagnosed" with that a few months ago. I had lived my life not havning a clue what was wrong with me and finding out makes me feel not so confused. I've told some of my friends and it kinda helps because they accept me for who I feel I am and who I want to be. I "pass" pretty much everyday so that is not a problem for me. I know how to act and think like a guy cause it's like it just comes naturally. The problem is...my mom. She does not accept this. She wants me to be a girl and I feel after she found out she's treated me kind of badly. I can't talk to her about it and the whole gender reassignment...makes her hate me. So I can't talk to her about it what so ever. Also, she told me and my counsoler she does not support me in anyway at all. I do not know what to do. Her counsoler said she would help me figure out what I need to do and move to the next step but my mom just keeps delaying it and honestly it hurts. I really don't know what I'm doing. I just wanna be able to be me...who I am on the inside on the outside too...

-JACK

[Hazumu]

Hello, Jack ( I started with 'Hi, Jack', but that sounded like a bad pun  )

Welcome to Susan's.  Here you can get a LOT of information and support as you are transitioning to the True You.

Parents often have the most difficulty with accepting that the transsexual/transgender person is just that.  Here you will find the stories of many of us who have come out to our parents.  For some, coming out goes well. For others, not so well...  But do read what others have done at that moment, and how they ended up handling the outcome.  It should help you in what you face.

Please stop by the  Introductions topic and introduce yourself to everybody -- more people will see your introduction there than in this forum.  And, you might be surprised at the number of people who reply, "Hi, Jack!" (Sorry, couldn't help myself  )

Also, please take a moment to familiarize yourself with Susan's Terms of Service. The three big ones that keep us moderators busy are Rule 1, don't post links without permission (See rule #1 for exceptions,) Rule #8, discussing dosages of HRT, and Rule #11 Obscene or foul language (We have TS/TG minors visiting this site.  They need support too, so let's not give anyone a reason to shut the place down.)

Lastly, you posted this in the FtM forum, but don't be surprised if you get a lot of good advice from MtF's.  The same thing happens in the MtF forum.  If you have something good to add, post away!

I lied, two more items.  You can upload your own avatar and send Private Messages (PMs) after you make your fifteenth post.

Welcome to Susan's!  You're amonst friends here!

Karen

[LynnER]

Hey dude,  Welcome to susans...  I wish I could give some meaningful advice on this subject but when I finaly ceme out to my parrents they were mostly accepting..... <some issues came up later>  But you'll find lots of great people here.  Lots of support and help and maby hopefuly make some good friends.

Feel free to join us in Chat too    Lots of people to glean information, knowledge and experiance from.

[Dennis]

Your mum isn't hating you Jack, she's scared for you, whether she'll admit it or not.

Anyway, take your support from sources willing to give it, like your counsellor, friends, us online folks. And give your mum some time. It does take them a while.

Dennis

[Jack12]

Wow, thanks for the advice and all I'm learning so much about this already. It's also really nice to know that I'm not alone in this. =]

[Mario]

Jack,
    It will take your mom awhile. My mom never accwpted it so many years ago, she is dead now, but she loved me no matter what. Thatis how parents are. Just remeber to be who it is you are, she will never understand that, but someday she will accept it.

                                                   Marco

[nonie]

See if you can find a copy of The Riddle of Gender, by Deborah Raducille, if she's having a hard time understanding you...  It's kinda heavy on the science, but it evaluates both sides from the point of view of someone who is not transgendered trying to understand it, and it goes into pretty much every theory on the causes of TSism and really really drives home the fact that, while being a TS in today's society, living with all the shame and disgust people throw at us, TS people may develop emotional problems--but they are NOT SICK or perverted, and it's NOT THEIR FAULT.  Your mom needs to realize that she never had a daughter, she had a son with unique medical needs, who needs her help and support even more because of it.

It might take time, but if she learns about it and starts to see a little of what you're going through, she will come around.

[Andre]

Hey Jack...I know how u feel..same problem...I told my mom that above all,above gender I'm her child...she is still scared...I told her about the procedure(HRT,surgeries) and her opinion is that it will be self-hurting...she is right it is in a way..but  u have to pass through dark moments to get to the goal.. Sorry on my English..not native. Anyway it's better to tell the truth...I couldn't let my mother make plans about my future...I'm not on T, but have luck in passing(have hormonal disbalace)...but don't want to waste my life,I told myself..even If something happen to me....it'll be sure that I spent every day without mask,secret thoughts...price is high
Try to contact other TGs from your region...I have 3 ftm friends...they helped me with explaining...

Can't wait to finish school(5 more years)..be independent and start HRT...currently I'm so slim guy...it's embarrassing for me to go to gym and people think I'm younger(and female voice supports it)

Andre