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Don't wait too long to come out, you may regret it

Started by Jeatyn, July 20, 2009, 11:54:41 PM

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Jeatyn

My mother passed away suddenly a few months ago before I had a chance to come out to her, some of you might remember the thread I made about it. I was too scared to come out to her, I thought she would freak out, I was going to wait until I was on the hormones so she could see I was serious.

Turns out - she had actually briefly dated a FTM in the 70's who she had previously known as a woman and would have had no problem at all with my transition. Why my sister didn't tell me this MUCH sooner I have no idea. It makes me facepalm so hard. All those years I hid my GID, and she died never knowing why I was so unhappy.

Let this be a lesson to any of you out there who are too afraid to come out - just do it, you have no idea how people will react, give them a chance to see who you really are, before it's too late.
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Jay

Good advice Jeatyn.

I am so sorry about your mother. *hugs*

Jay


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K8

I'm sorry about the loss of your mother, Jaetyn.

Usually those who love us will accept us, even if it takes time for them to come to grips with it.  I'm sorry you weren't able to tell your mother.  I'm sorry I wasn't able to tell my mother, either - she would have totally accepted it.  But no regrets.  Keep moving forward.

*hugs*
Kate
Life is a pilgrimage.
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Dana_W

I'm sorry to hear about your loss. But don't beat yourself up over not coming out to her. It's always easier to see these things in retrospect.
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