Advice please!!!

[Jack12]

Should I tell people I have GID and explain it to them or just keep it a secret?
I don't wanna lie to people and I can't really keep that I'm a girl on the outside a secret since people won't keep their mouths shut!!!

[Jack12]

Thanks that helped a lot actually. I want some people to know but not eeryone the few people I've told...well a couple of them really betrayed me but the rest are really looking after me and ok with it. Treat me the exact same way. I don't think I'ma be telling anymore people. I really wish I could find a therapist around here but I don't know how to...any ideas?

[cindianna_jones]

I sure wouldn't advertise it.  Think of it as something that you treasure.  It is not for the flotsam of the world.  I'd keep it close, especially for now while you are still young. There is a lot of hatred out there and there are many who might express their hatred in a violent way. Don't be afraid of it, but don't advertise.

As far as therapists go, I can't give you good advice.  You might call around and ask if any near you deal with GID.  I know that there are some resources available on the web.  Have you checked the resources on this site to see if there is anything?

Cindi

[nonie]

Good to know that some of your friends are ok with it...  I haven't been living as male long enough to know anyone who didn't know me as a girl first, so I don't know for sure what my stance on telling or not telling would be, but I don't think it would be a huge secret for me.  I'd probably do the same - tell those who are close, but not outright advertise it.

[veronica06]

just because you keep something to yourself..is not...............................a lie.
I grew up around irish jokes..........and one is..........I may tell you the truth 17 different ways....but I won't lie to you.

this punch line involves the fact...all 17 ways..........................are truth.

you are a human being with the frailties.
this means you are entitled to keep to yourself what you wish...and tell what you wish.

just because not EVERYONE is INSIDE your PRIVATE circle is NOT A LIE.


be careful............please
I am here for you

[Jack12]

Thanks so muchfor all your support it really means a lot to me since I don't get support from anyone else besides Laci. You have helped me so much and believe it or not got me through the horrible times that I faced this weekend just by knowing you were all here. Thank you so much.

-JACK

[veronica06]

YOU ARE MOST WELCOME.

all you people made ME feel human for once.
I am but returning said favor.
I am always here for ya!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Kismet]

I don't know, this may seem ignorant of me, but just why are you so concerned with those who have "betrayed" you and all of this?
Emotional trauma does happen and yes, it does hurt... But the most important thing to do, I believe, is to remind yourself that if these people make fun of you and hurt you for who you are, then they do not deserve to be put in such a position of authority in your life. Don't let these people make you so upset, they don't deserve your time or aggravation.

Most people reject what they can't accept in themselves -- And since they're rejecting you, perhaps they're just not ready to accept difference in society yet.